You’ll probably find that without even knowing it, you follow ‘the rules’ and conform. Obviously if you’re paid to do a job, do it. For this purpose we’re talking about mindlessly following the unwritten rules of society; things you’ve never agreed to and you’re not paid to do.
If you have never contemplated this, then it’s likely you have fallen into line whether or not it’s for your benefit. Just by reading this paragraph however, you may have a lightning bolt moment; a sudden awareness about how you are living your life.
To have confidence and a happy life, you ought to think for yourself.
“Gonna change my way of thinking, make my self a different set of rules.
Gonna put my good foot forward and stop being influenced by fools.”
Bob Dylan (American singer-songwriter and musician b. 1941)
If this Idea Pushes a Button Look Closer
This can be a touchy subject because we all like to think we are independent thinkers, but we can’t escape the truth. If you didn’t have a lightning bolt moment, ask yourself if this topic pushes a button for you. Does it make you uncomfortable, even a little? If an idea pushes a button it means it applies to you in some way whether you hide from it or not. Towing the line takes us away from what we want in life. But most people are doing it so let’s face it and acknowledge at least that you now know. Now we can take action to liberate you and deliver to you that happy life instead.
Since I’ve had the luxury of learning I am ‘free to be me’ and every day actively choose to be that, I have felt my heart soar, I’ve had a beautiful sense of liberation, confidence and I wake up even happier, with an even greater can-do attitude.
The Results Are In – You Are Free to Be You
Unfortunately, until we are reminded that we are free (to be whoever and whatever we want to be), we continue towing the line, doing what we think impresses others and keep trying to make ourselves more acceptable or more significant in the eyes of others. We seldom do anything that contradicts what is expected of us, for fear of losing the love and approval of others. We robotically follow the rules of society – subconscious rules we’ve been indoctrinated to follow since childhood. The rules determine what is deemed good behavior, and what isn’t. We unconsciously know ‘good’ from ‘bad’ and we stick to being ‘good’. Our daily life involves striving to be a glowing example of what is seen as living an ‘impressive life’.
The consequence? You rob yourself of a happy life and getting what you want. And no-one does it to you, you do it to yourself.
If you want to know what these rules are, my book tackles them head-on. It teaches you how to recognize them, how to stand up to them and how to be free of them. See Just Like That! How to Get Anything You Want. I wrote the book so it would be easy for you to overcome these very issues and in doing so wake up each day enthusiastically looking forward to your day.
“None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
You Move Forward Once You Realize You Are Conforming
Perhaps you do genuinely feel free. If so that’s superb, it’s a powerful way to live and you’re fortunate to do so.
But if you are towing the line and not thinking for yourself, you can only move forward once you recognize and acknowledge it. Then you can take the controls of your life and get what you want and a happy life. Many are starting to wake up even though many people still robotically follow the rules.
If You Want to Think For Yourself and Follow Your Own Dreams…
… my book Just Like That! shows you how to do it, it shows you why you are entitled to do it and why it is better for others that you do. Yes, contrary to popular belief everyone benefits. It’s important you know why it also helps others because otherwise you will feel guilty about getting what you want and won’t do it. We have been indoctrinated into putting other people first regardless of personal sacrifice. Learn why it helps others, when you get what you want.
And by the way, if you don’t follow your dreams and you insist on putting others first, no-one gets what they want. Not you and not them. Again, why that is in my book.
Find out what these rules are and stop following them. Take action. Stop being a follower and be the leader of your own life.
Part 2 – Why it’s a Trap for You to Tow the Line gives you the bleak results of doing what is expected of you and not thinking for yourself. You may recognize yourself in it and be motivated to act and change it.
Part 2 – Why it’s a Trap for You to Tow the Line
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Do you do what is expected of you? What do you think are the reasons for doing so? Feel free to add your story to the comments.
If you want to think for yourself and enjoy a happy life, buy my book online “Just Like That! How to Get Anything You Want”. The book breaks with the traditions of today and reveals the hidden truth of ancient wisdom. You are precious, remarkable and worthy of having anything you want. Everyone is. “Just Like That!” also makes a great gift.
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