Your Troubled Relationships – Could This Be The Hidden Cause? (Part 1)

We only see WHAT WE WANT TO SEE.

It’s rare for us to see things as they truly are.

If we were WILLING to see things the way they are, many of our issues would be gone in a flash.

Most of us have no idea that we’re STUBBORN.

We don’t know we’re stubborn because it’s hidden and we don’t want to hear the idea of being stubborn because we’d rather blame something or someone… but that’s not the path to FREEDOM.

“Humility and freedom go hand in hand.
Only a humble person can be free.”

~~ Jeff Wilson

The more challenging the relationship and the closer the relationship, the more stubborn we get!

I hope you know by now – intellectually at least – that you can only change yourself.

It’s strange.

We know this and expect it of others, but when it comes to our own interactions with others we stubbornly insist THEY change.

Quantum physics proves that’s not how it works, but would you truly like to depend on others for your happiness?

You see, we can’t see the situation as it really is.

“We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters,
your brothers, the school, the teachers – but never blame
yourself. It’s never your fault.
But it’s always your fault, because if you wanted to
change you’re the one who has got to change.”

~~ Katharine Hepburn
Now… if you’re being stubborn, what does that mean for you?

A lot.

It means you’ve put your life on hold; you’re waiting for someone else to change.

The problem with waiting?

What if they never change?

It means you’re stuck and choosing to hold yourself back from a beautiful life.

It’s you… you’re doing this. No-one else.

Day after day you’re giving your attention to something that drags you down.
Day after day you’re blaming the other person and giving your power to them.

That person controls your life.

The weeks go by, the tension mounts and you get more irritated, frustrated and angry.
You’ll probably whine and complain with whoever will listen.

If you’re okay with that there’s nothing more to be said (but I urge you to check out part 2 of this article)

Alternatively, you could see this as a golden opportunity to grow personally, liberate yourself and move into fun rewards.

What can you do?

Take the initiative and ask yourself what you can do to create your own happiness and NEVER AGAIN depend on anyone else. 

This is a path only for the humble and courageous because blame feels so delicious but…

What if you saw this as good news?
What if you could see you’ve been imprisoning yourself?
What if you could see you’re holding the key to your own freedom?

I’m unwilling for my happiness to depend on other people’s behaviour.

I LOVE the rewards I get by choosing my happiness; it feels good.

How about you?
I hope you go for taking responsibility because your happiness depends on it!


Related Reading:

Family Disputes : Tips to Laugh More, Cry Less (Part 1 of 3)
3 Things You’re Doing to Let Others Control You (Part 2 of 3)
7 Steps to Turning a Dispute into What You Want (Part 3 of 3)

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