We use diplomacy as a SURVIVAL technique.
If we’re in survival mode we’re not free.
This is about being able to live in truth, YOUR truth!
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“Your experience is unique, as is your truth. Everyone’s version of the truth is different, because everyone’s knowledge and experience is different.”
~~ How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That! (P. 29)
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Today we’re talking about all those excuses and explanations we use when the truth feels too uncomfortable.
Let’s imagine a simple scenario –
you’re late for an appointment or need to change one.
Would your first impulse be to put forward an excuse or explanation?
There’s a subtlety here that sneaks by unnoticed and it’s to do with your real belief about your power.
If you’re offering excuses and explanations it means you’re being pushed around by people or circumstances; you’re not free.
It means something out of your control happened TO YOU and you couldn’t help it.
Let’s always remember YOU ARE POWERFUL…
YOU ARE CREATING EVERYTHING in every moment by
what you THINK.
This applies to everyone.
You and the other person involved are BOTH creating… not just “now and then”… in ALL circumstances.
Most of us are intending to do the right thing, so none of this is malicious, but let’s all take responsibility for what happens —
You created being late.
They created you being late.
Let’s acknowledge that.
Let’s embrace that.
Let’s stop giving your power away.
As mentioned in part 1, this is not about being insensitive, arrogant, hurting anyone’s feelings or assigning blame; we can be gentle while speaking our truth.
This is about LOVE and about recognizing we cannot make other people happy.
The best thing you can do for another person is love yourself and live your own truth.
That way you lead the way for others to do the same.
If you don’t, everyone continues around in circles unsuccessfully trying to make others happy.
Scratch the surface of an excuse and you’ll find… fear.
Are you concerned the truth will make you look unreliable, disorganized, irresponsible or uncaring?
A genuinely confident, self-sufficient person who loves themselves has none of the above concerns and has no need to explain themselves.
Let’s dive deeper.
What about the issue of hurting someone’s feelings.
If that’s your concern you haven’t yet fully grasped your power and that of others.
“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”
~~ Mahatma Ghandi
By feeling the need to manage another person’s feelings you believe they rely on you to feel good. Wouldn’t that mean you’re also depending on others making you feel good?
Do you see how this works?
Would you be okay with knowing others had to handle you with diplomacy to keep you happy — and in the process couldn’t tell you the truth ?
What if you could love yourself so much you can hear and handle the truth, no matter what?
I’m not saying that’s easy but what a powerful way to live!
That’s FREEDOM and if you want it you can have it.
Be the example and others will follow.
It’s a powerful moment when you really “get” that:
- you do not have to play the game of keeping others happy
- you do not depend on others for your happiness
- others do not depend on you
- you’re big and bold… YOU’RE FREE!
If you want to be FREE, what can you do?
1. Start by observing people making excuses or explaining themselves.
Not to judge, merely to learn.
2. Play with speaking your truth or saying what you want without excuses and explanations. It will seem strange at first.
I know personally how confronting it can be to speak and live your truth…
… but what happens if you don’t?
You’ll see, if the people in your life don’t value the truth like you do, you’ll start shifting into new circumstances and people who do!
You’ll start enjoying love and FREEDOM beyond your wildest imagination.
This has been my experience.
This is Janet Poole and I believe in freedom and living our true potential.
I believe in finding better ways to live a better life.
I have searched the world to find the best ways to grow, get permanent change and achieve your wildest dreams — I have found it in the program Thinking Into Results.
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