Love Yourself

Why Love Yourself First?

Published on March 4, 2018 by Janet

The railroading and programming we’ve endured has always been about putting everyone else first, but how could that possibly work?

How can you possibly give love when you don’t have it to give?

How can you give a gift you don’t have?

YOU CAN’T!

I’m always saying be illogical but in this case logic works.

Trying to give, give, give when you feel you’ve got no more is a recipe for dis-ease.

It’s artificial giving. It’s got no heart. It’s a lie.

“Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live,
it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.”
~~ Oscar Wilde

Imagine the joy and love you can give when you’re feeling alive, nurtured and fulfilled.

Get it in the right order:

1. Love yourself and put yourself first.
2. Do what you love.
3. Become an inexhaustible source of love and joy for others.

Much love,
Janet

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This is Janet Poole and I believe everything starts with learning to love yourself.

Loving yourself first puts you in the best place to learn how to use the infinite, high performance machine we call our mind so that you can discover your true potential, get out of the box and live a life of love & freedom!

I believe in leading yourself and others with love, breaking the rules and trusting yourself.

I believe in being someone you can count on for support all the way into achieving your goal.

Lead with Love. Break the Rules. Trust Yourself.

Contact me if that’s how you’d like to run your life and business!

It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not

Are You Living the Life You TRULY Want?

Published on May 20, 2017 by Janet

Have you ever wondered why so many people settle for a life they don’t want?

“It’s unrealistic” is one of the main reasons I’ve discovered people are not willing to even consider the life they TRULY want.

Unfortunately, such beliefs are so powerful they cause us to miss out on the greater life we could have had.

Fortunately, if you sincerely analyse this belief, it falls to pieces.

“I am realistic. I expect miracles.” ~~ Dr Wayne Dyer

Consider Will Smith’s healthy attitude to life. He goes beyond traditional thinking and therefore goes for and achieves big dreams. Here are excerpts from his inspiring interviews.

“Being realistic is the most commonly travelled road to mediocrity.”

Drop Diplomacy and Choose Freedom (Part 2)

Published on January 8, 2015July 10, 2016 by Janet

flowers-painting-1391872491b4f We use diplomacy as a SURVIVAL technique.
If we’re in survival mode we’re not free.

This is about being able to live in truth, YOUR truth!

(Click here for Part 1)

“Your experience is unique, as is your truth. Everyone’s version of the truth is different, because everyone’s knowledge and experience is different.”
~~ How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That! (P. 29)
(click here to get the first 3 chapters free)

Today we’re talking about all those excuses and explanations we use when the truth feels too uncomfortable.

Let’s imagine a simple scenario –
you’re late for an appointment or need to change one.

Would your first impulse be to put forward an excuse or explanation?

There’s a subtlety here that sneaks by unnoticed and it’s to do with your real belief about your power.

If you’re offering excuses and explanations it means you’re being pushed around by people or circumstances; you’re not free.

It means something out of your control happened TO YOU and you couldn’t help it.

Let’s always remember YOU ARE POWERFUL…
YOU ARE CREATING EVERYTHING in every moment by
what you THINK.

This applies to everyone.

You and the other person involved are BOTH creating… not just “now and then”… in ALL circumstances.

Most of us are intending to do the right thing, so none of this is malicious, but let’s all take responsibility for what happens —
You created being late.
They created you being late.

Let’s acknowledge that.
Let’s embrace that.
Let’s stop giving your power away.

As mentioned in part 1, this is not about being insensitive, arrogant, hurting anyone’s feelings or assigning blame; we can be gentle while speaking our truth.

This is about LOVE and about recognizing we cannot make other people happy.

The best thing you can do for another person is love yourself and live your own truth.

That way you lead the way for others to do the same.
If you don’t, everyone continues around in circles unsuccessfully trying to make others happy.

Scratch the surface of an excuse and you’ll find… fear.

Are you concerned the truth will make you look unreliable, disorganized, irresponsible or uncaring?

Consider this…

A genuinely confident, self-sufficient person who loves themselves has none of the above concerns and has no need to explain themselves.

Let’s dive deeper.

What about the issue of hurting someone’s feelings.
If that’s your concern you haven’t yet fully grasped your power and that of others.

“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”
~~ Mahatma Ghandi

By feeling the need to manage another person’s feelings you believe they rely on you to feel good. Wouldn’t that mean you’re also depending on others making you feel good?

Do you see how this works?

Would you be okay with knowing others had to handle you with diplomacy to keep you happy — and in the process couldn’t tell you the truth ?

What if you could love yourself so much you can hear and handle the truth, no matter what?

I’m not saying that’s easy but what a powerful way to live!
That’s FREEDOM and if you want it you can have it.

Be the example and others will follow.

It’s a powerful moment when you really “get” that:

you do not have to play the game of keeping others happy
you do not depend on others for your happiness
others do not depend on you

you’re big and bold… YOU’RE FREE!

If you want to be FREE, what can you do?

1. Start by observing people making excuses or explaining themselves.
Not to judge, merely to learn.

2. Play with speaking your truth or saying what you want without excuses and explanations. It will seem strange at first.

I know personally how confronting it can be to speak and live your truth…
… but what happens if you don’t?

You’ll see, if the people in your life don’t value the truth like you do, you’ll start shifting into new circumstances and people who do!

You’ll start enjoying love and FREEDOM beyond your wildest imagination.

This has been my experience.

Drop Diplomacy and Choose Freedom (Part 1)

Published on January 1, 2015July 10, 2016 by Janet

Even though we celebrate January 1^st as the start of a new year, every day is the start of another year.

What if we lived every day of our year in absolute TRUTH?

You see, a person who is “diplomatic”
is NOT FREE.

Do ever feel the need to be diplomatic?
If so, are you stunting your spiritual growth and freedom?

FREEDOM begins with TRUTH.

“The high-minded man must care more for the truth
than for what people think.”
~~ Aristotle

Today I’m delving into the nuances of FREEDOM because while we may be born free, most people do not live in freedom.

We may consider ourselves honest in our dealings with others, the fact is we tend to avoid the TRUTH or soften it with diplomacy.

Note: Your TRUTH is always unique to you (see free 3 chapters of my book page 29)

If you can’t speak your truth, you’re not free.

This is a contentious issue and this article may need some contemplation.

This isn’t about right and wrong, merely allow these ideas to linger as a maybe.

Stay with me if you can.

Why do we avoid the TRUTH?

Because the truth, by itself, can seem cold and harsh.

Could it be diplomacy is just a socially acceptable way of hiding the truth?

Many societies glorify diplomacy. There was a time when our survival depended on our “diplomatic abilities” because being out of favour meant dire consequences such as being cast out of the tribe.

Rocking the boat was just too dangerous. In some societies this is still the case and if that’s your situation I suggest you proceed with caution.

This is no longer the case for many of us but the desire to fit in and be liked is recorded in our soul, it remains in our DNA and continues to push us around.

If fear of disapproval is a big one for you but you’d like to evolve beyond this planet, then it’s important you learn to master it.

Allow me to add this is not about assigning blame or being deliberately insensitive and arrogant; it is possible to be gentle while speaking the truth.

Our aim is to always treat others with love and respect, and never intentionally hurt people’s feelings.

We want to come from a place of LOVE and believe it or not this topic is all about LOVE. Loving yourself first and allowing that love to spill over to others.

LOVE and TRUTH are inextricably combined.

One can’t generalize of course, so there will be situations warranting a discussion, the key here is we generally explain ourselves way too much.

It’s time to live and speak your truth without fear of retribution.

If you believe you’ll be rejected or “cast out” for saying what you believe, then that’s your truth and you’ll live it.

If you believe you’re entitled to freedom then that’s your truth and you’ll be free.

As I often say, if we’re not speaking the truth then it surely must be a lie.

I, too, sometimes catch myself with the temptation to soften the truth. I insist on catching and correcting it because I so strongly believe we’re born free and ought to live free.

It starts with courage.

Do you have the courage to speak the truth so you can be FREE?

When you have the courage to liberate yourself through truth, you’re also giving others that gift.

Choose to step forward and lead the way.

Part 2 explains more: Drop Diplomacy and Choose Freedom

What Do You Need Before You Can Love Someone?

Published on July 2, 2014July 10, 2016 by Janet

It makes sense that you can’t give what you don’t already have, so really this applies to EVERYTHING in life.

Never WAIT for what you want.

Be the originator of everything you desire.

You’re a natural-born powerful creator so………. go for it!

If you’d like to have more LOVE in your life, then it’s time to start filling up with love.
How do you do that?
By being loving with YOU.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
~~ Oscar Wilde

Unless you’re filling up with love for yourself, you can’t give love or share love unconditionally.
Until that time we love others conditionally, which means we expect something in return.

When you can love unconditionally you expect nothing,
YET YOU GET IT ALL!

Amazing!

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This is Janet Poole and I believe in freedom and living our true potential.

I believe in finding better ways to live a better life.

I have searched the world to find the best ways to grow, get permanent change and achieve your wildest dreams — I have found it in the program Thinking Into Results.

Better Ways. More Freedom.

Contact Janet Poole here

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Tag: Love Yourself

Why Love Yourself First?

The railroading and programming we’ve endured has always been about putting everyone else first, but how could that possibly work?

Are You Living the Life You TRULY Want?

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Drop Diplomacy and Choose Freedom (Part 2)