Use This Powerful Ability to Create the Life You Want

Think about your car, phone, computer, air travel and the lamp on your bedside table.

How did they originate?

Almost everything we use on a daily basis is the direct result of someone’s thought or idea. Even the clothes you’re wearing.

But what do we mean by someone’s “thought” or “idea”?

It’s often overlooked that these things were created FIRST in someone’s IMAGINATION.

“Imagination is the beginning of creation.
You imagine what you desire,
You will what you imagine and
at last you create what you will.”
~~ George Bernard Shaw

We all have the ability to use our imagination which means we already have in us everything it takes to create anything we want in our life!

Magnificent news!

Yet most of us don’t use this ability. Before starting school we thoroughly enjoyed using our imagination but then we were punished for daydreaming and told to pay attention.

Obviously many people use their imagination to design homes, art, write novels etc, however few adults use their imagination to DREAM of and CREATE the life they want.

Click here to read on – HOW TO CREATE the life you want…

This is Janet Poole and I believe in freedom and living our true potential.

I believe in finding better ways to live a better life.

I have searched the world to find the best ways to grow, get permanent change and achieve your wildest dreams — I have found it in the program Thinking Into Results.

Better Ways. More Freedom.

Contact Janet Poole here

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10 Tips to Stop Blaming Others (and Start Feeling Fabulous!)

Is blaming your family, friends or colleagues keeping you stuck?

Relationships are often the cause of heartache, anger and resentment.

Did you know…
… one of the main ways we grow is through relationships?

The QUESTION is:
Are you willing to be happy and free?

Did you know most of us are not willing to give up blame so as to be happy!

Isn’t it weird how feeling bad feels so “good”?

It’s true! Blame and feeling bad can feel good, but it’s only momentary and it keeps us in prison.

Which is a terrible long term plan for happiness, and can lead to serious health issues!

If you are truly ready for long term happiness, read on.

When you’re with someone have you ever…

  • Felt angry
  • Felt jealous
  • Felt rejected or ignored
  • Felt hurt
  • Felt betrayed
  • Found fault with or criticized them
  • Seen them as arrogant or selfish
  • Seen them as blunt or unfriendly
  • Seen them as uncaring or disrespectful

If YES — then again read on!

These are feelings most of have felt.
But they are neither “good” nor “bad”.

But what is important is, if you’ve consciously noticed it (as opposed to unconsciously reacted) then you’ve already taken a huge step forward and can use this as a powerful opportunity to grow.

BUT, how do I grow through relationships?

First off, know that you’re always seeing yourself in the other person.
Yes, they have a message for you.

Notice:
What do they say to you?
How do they annoy you?
How do they make you feel?

These are secret messages that give insight into you and the issues you’ve suppressed.

I know… it can seem like a puzzle to work this out : )

4 Steps to “Getting the Message” From This Person

1. First you need COURAGE!
Congratulations! Choosing not to blame and instead looking for the message is a courageous act.

2. Make a DECISION that you are open and willing to get the message.
Obvious perhaps, but you need to be in the right frame of mind!

3. Next, find the CLUES the person is giving you.

Remember, you won’t see your entire self in others, you’ll only see slivers or small parts.

Your CLUES are those parts that annoy or hurt you and are your clues to learning more about yourself.

So, let’s discover those clues. Imagine that person now.
Say to yourself something like, “I feel ___(describe the feeling)____”
e.g. “I feel angry”
“I feel small”
“I feel rejected”
“They are arrogant, they are selfish.”

Create a list of anything that comes up for you.
Don’t analyse – just keep writing.

4. CONTEMPLATE that list of clues.
Once you’re lost in thought the answer will come.

Persevere because you will eventually get the answer — even if it takes months.

My personal story in my book is in Chapter 32 – Forgiveness and took me months, but I was determined to get the message. And you can too! The “aha-moment” was worth it and I successfully moved on.

“Forgiveness is not something you do for someone else;
it’s something you do for yourself.”

~~ Jim Beaver, Life’s That Way: A Memoir

3 Things That Will Make You Feel Good When Learning About Yourself:

1. Feel good because you’re not necessarily looking for stuff people might consider “bad” e.g. anger, hate, jealously.
It may be that you felt abandoned or rejected as a child. You may feel unworthy. You may have suppressed anger or it may be a limiting belief from childhood.

Don’t judge it. Let it be “IS”.

You don’t have to know why you feel that way, just acknowledge that you do.

Be open to discovering things like your own anger, arrogance or insistence on controlling others (yes, most of us love control).

2. Feel good because it’s not about moving the blame from others to you.
We’re too hard on ourselves (which is why we blame!). Rather this is merely an opportunity to learn more about you.

Don’t be hard on yourself because even those of us who ought to know better fall into this trap.

3. Feel good because you can choose to see the situation as an opportunity, rather than a problem.
(See Chapter 5 in my book – Challenges Are Powerful Opportunities For You)

Personally, I never want to miss an opportunity to grow because in the end my issue is there whether I deny it or not.

Now a Quick Check…

Is there anyone in your community who you feel did the wrong thing to you?

If so, it’s important to deal with it — now you know how.

3 Rewards When Moving On From Blame:

1. Clarity and peace
The feeling of clarity and peace is euphoric and your new insight means personal growth. Know thyself! One of our yearnings!

2. The person like “magic” seems to change
Oh how you wished the person would change! Well, when you move on from blame they will appear to do so. You will stop feeling anger, they’ll no longer seem arrogant, blunt or hurtful.

You may even form a closer relationship with them! (This often happens!)

3. You no longer rely on people’s behaviour
Whoo hoo! You no longer need others to behave a certain way so that you can be happy. You become happy no matter what. You make yourself happy; you are empowered.

Adversity Always Gets Your Attention

Remember of course you can also see your own love, kindness and generosity reflected in others but it’s always the adversity that gets our attention!

The adversity makes us more inclined to look at ourselves –  where most of us use any excuse to avoid looking at ourselves.

When we avoid the opportunity it will always come again in the form of someone else.

This has probably been happening all your life (without you even knowing it… until now)!

Have you ever said, “Why does this always happens to me”?

“When you blame and criticize others, you are avoiding some truth about yourself.”
~~ Deepak Chopra

Let’s face it now and move forward!

When Is It Time to Move On?

Now, for clarity’s sake — please know, it is unnecessary to keep an angry, hurtful person in your life.

Feel free to move on as long as you can genuinely say you’ve been honest with yourself and contemplated what you could learn.

I’m not saying this is easy but it’s worth it because you’ll feel fabulous!

There you have it – 10 Tips to Stop Blaming Others!

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Related Reading On This Site:

10 Reasons Loving Yourself Gets You What You Want
(If you’re going to release blame, make it easy — start with loving yourself ♥)
Why… You’re Worth It!

Your Troubled Relationships – Could This Be The Hidden Cause? (Part 1 of 2)
Family Disputes – Tips to Laugh More, Cry Less (Part 1 of 3)

Related Reading from Other Sites:

How to Stop Playing The Blame Game
Stop Blaming Other People (and why it will help you)
Blaming others for your problems

This is Janet Poole; I believe in finding better ways to live your life and grow your business.

I believe in sharing those ideas!

Better Ways. More Freedom.

Change Your Reason for Working

WHY-postcard-front-BWouldn’t it be nice if you could earn big money doing what you love!

Most people doubt that possibility but that’s only one side of the issue.

Many clients tell me they have NO IDEA WHAT they love to do.

Let’s tackle both sides of this issue because something called creativity is the way forward for both.

Did you know…

– You are a born creator.
– You are a powerful creator.
– A happy person is a person being creative.

Allow me to clarify.

If you’re being creative, you’ll most likely be doing something you love and remember this, you don’t have to be an artist, writer or composer to be creative.

Being “creative” is doing anything you’ve never done before; moving into new experiences.
You could also call it moving forward, growing or evolving.
Look at nature.

What happens when nature is not growing or evolving?

If a tree is not growing, it’s dying.

Nature is always growing and evolving, and we ought to be too.

If you feel you HAVE to do your job, see that as red flag because it’s probably doing you more harm than good.

When you’re doing what you HAVE to do, you’re going uphill and moving AWAY from what you want.

What’s a good way to tell if you’re being creative and evolving?

You know you’re on track if you’re getting new experiences, doing something new for you and it feels like fun. Simple!

When we give ourselves permission to do something that feels like fun IT FEELS GOOD.

If that’s the case then no matter how silly it seems, DO IT.

I’ve found that…

all those intangible things like family, friends, health, fun and adventure are just as important, if not more important

… than income.

They are things money can’t buy.

Be sure to thoroughly enjoy them on your journey.

John Lennon said,
“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans”.

Don’t spend most of your life hating what you do.

Don’t sacrifice the fullness of your life and your happiness for a pay check.

3 Things You Can Do Today

Step 1: Contemplate something fun you’d like to do.

Make a decision. You can’t get to a destination if you don’t know where you’re going.
If something doesn’t feel like fun – DO NOT do it.
(note: you may feel a little nervous and if so that’s a good sign! There is a difference : )

Step 2: Imagine you could start tomorrow – what’s something you
can do today to get going?

e.g. Would you need to study? Can you buy a book on the subject?
Could you start part-time?
Perhaps you could research information on the Internet.
Perhaps a start would be a simple as reorganising your office or clearing clutter!
Any small step will move you forward.

You’ll start giving yourself permission to do the thing you want to do and you’ll start moving into people and circumstances that help you.

Step 3: What to do if you still don’t know what to do.

I have a revolutionary new tool to help you discover what you love and it’s called your WHY.

When you know your WHY, life makes sense.

When you know your WHY, you have clarity, confidence and DIRECTION.
When you know your WHY, you live with passion.

Once you’re living with passion and doing what you love, money comes as a side-effect.

If you’d like to find out what matters to you, what you’re compulsive about and what you believe, let me know.

Discover your WHY.

Don’t waste another day, month or year wondering!

You’re meant to be happy and DO WHAT YOU LOVE.

Related Reading:

7 Things Happen When You Don’t Know Your WHY

Are You Brave Enough to Go For What You Truly Want? (Interview)

The Little Known Opportunity to Differentiate Your Business

When You Know Your WHY…

This is Janet Poole; I believe there are better ways to delight your customers and inspire your staff.

Better Ways. More Freedom.

Knowing your WHY is like turning on the lights to your behaviour. You gain instant clarity. It’s like being introduced to yourself. When you know your WHY, you begin to understand. When you know your WHY, you realise your unique gifts. When you know your WHY, you gain clarity and confidence. When you know your WHY you live with passion.

When you know your WHY you can take your business from good to great in a single day.

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How Long Have You Been Getting Ready?

GoIs there something you want to BE, DO, HAVE or CREATE?

Is there something you’d like to BUY or SELL?

Are you still getting ready?

Did you know that no matter how much you prepare, you can only fine-tune the details once you START!

Most people get STUCK in the preparation phase and although preparing is part of the fun,
there comes a time when we know we’re ready but we continue to “get ready”.

“You don’t have to be great to start,
but you have to start to be great.”
~~Zig Ziglar

Most of us would love to get everything “right” the first time but that’s not how life works.

If you want to get everything exactly “right”, you’ll be preparing forever.
And who decides that something is “right”?
It’s an adventure, an experience… that’s all.

Someone once said to me, “It all comes down to one moment”.

At some stage we have to make the leap of faith because for most of us (me included) it’s always going to feel uncomfortable.

Movement, or action, is crucial so I’d love you to have the courage to take that leap.

Until you take that leap, important tasks remain hidden; you’ll never move forward because you’ll never reveal those hidden tasks!

It’s an awesome feeling to be in the flow and address things as they make themselves known.

Yes we’re scared we’re going to feel out of control or exposed and vulnerable, but in fact that doesn’t happen.

Instead you feel your soul singing because you’re moving forward and participating in life the way it was intended.

Even in the midst of discomfort, there’s something that feels very right when you’re doing it.

I urge you to dive into being, doing and having what you want.

Just do it…
… that first step will start your path to having everything you want!

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Related Reading:

Take Action Today to Get Your Happy Life
7 Things Happy People Do – They Take Action
How to Take Action to Get What You Want

This is Janet Poole; I believe there are better ways to delight your customers and inspire your staff.

Better Ways. More Freedom.

 

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Play It Safe and Survive — Is That Enough?

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DECIDE to follow your DREAMS

“You can play it safe, and I wouldn’t blame you for it.
You can continue as you’ve been doing, and you’ll survive, but is that what you want? Is that enough?”
~~ J.M. Darhower

You’re an infinite being.
Your potential is infinite.

Why would you merely survive and crimp your infinite outrageous potential?

Let’s put it this way, what would you be doing if you were guaranteed success in all that you do?

If that inspires you, then let’s do something magnificent, something that makes you live large and feel fabulous!

BUT understand this… you can’t get to your new destination by following an old path.

You’re going to be traveling some uncharted territory.
This will be new for you, right?
It’s going to be unfamiliar, so you’re going to probably feel uneasy.
Discomfort is part of the adventure.

Embrace it.

Most people run at the first sign of discomfort.
Embracing your discomfort is noble.
It means you’re a courageous pioneer – of your own life.

The first step if you want to do something new is to make a DECISION.

Nothing happens without a DECISION and a decision comes BEFORE the “HOW” shows up.

Most people wait their whole life for the RIGHT HOW and RIGHT TIME.

They never live their dream.
The RIGHT HOW and RIGHT TIME never come.

Do this instead:
When you have a dream or discover a new opportunity ask yourself a simple question, “Does this make me feel excited?”
If it’s a YES, that’s all you need.

DECIDE… right here, right now. “I am doing it.”

You may feel a little scared, and that’s a good sign because it means you’re moving into something new.
We THRIVE on new experiences.

Making decisions is scary when we first start but it’s the ONLY WAY to create your dream.
Nothing happens without a DECISION.

Your dream and that you have it is no coincidence; it’s vital you start moving into living it.

One of the reasons the world is filled with sadness and depression is because people suppress their dreams and crimp their potential; suppression is another reason for illness.

The way to be happy, healthy and young is to DECIDE to follow your dreams and continually evolve and grow.

The SAFEST thing you can do is move forward into what you want!

Survival is not impressive, it’s not safe… choose to THRIVE!!!

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Related Reading:

Are You Brave Enough to Use The Power of Your Mind?
5 Reasons You’re Not Asking For What You Want

This is Janet Poole and I believe in freedom and living our true potential.

I believe in finding better ways to live a better life.

I have searched the world to find the best ways to grow, get permanent change and achieve your wildest dreams — I have found it in the program Thinking Into Results.

Better Ways. More Freedom.

Contact Janet Poole here

 

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