Jon Bon Jovi
When you decide you really want something, it seems impossible to let go of the idea. Yet loosening up and doing exactly that can fast track you to not only what you want, but to getting even more.
An Addiction to Control Blocks the Wonderful
In “Just Like That!” I’ve devoted a few chapters to why ‘letting go’ gets you what you want. This is because while there may be times we should put in all our efforts to get what we want, there are also times to let go and allow. Most of us are addicted to control – of other people as well as ourselves – so we find it a challenge to let go. Control issues usually exist in several areas of our lives and they block the wonderful. Yet most of the time we don’t even know we’re doing it, hence the chapters in my book.
Two Bits of Wonderful By Letting Go
A few weeks ago, I found myself letting go without realizing it and created a little bit of wonderful in doing so. A small situation, but nevertheless that’s how we start. We gain confidence doing it which leads us to greater ‘miracles’. It all counts.
It was only afterward I realized I’d let go twice in the one situation, and of course felt rewarded. Rewarded not only in letting go without thinking, but also in the bit of wonderful received. You can have these great little buzzes too, so here’s my living example to let you know the good news: that ‘letting go’ does pay off.
A Living Example: Letting Go Works
I love books, all bookstores and I also love second-hand bookstores.
My partner and I were passing through a small country town west of Sydney and spotted a second-hand bookstore. As always of course, in we went.
Do You Establish the Price Before Paying?
Firstly, I stopped at the stand of books out front. I saw two large hardcover autobiographies – one by Bob Hope, the other George Burns.
I actively seek out comedy and knew these two men would supply exactly that. I also appreciate true stories. Then as most of us do I looked for prices, but found none. I held onto the books anyway, intending to buy them after browsing. In the back of my mind lingered the vague thought to first find out the books’ prices, but didn’t act on it. I went on inside.
The Quest for Inspirational Novels
Inside were plenty of second-hand novels, including some family sagas by Penny Vincenzi, which I thought my daughter may one day enjoy. She’s an avid reader as are both my children. I’m a little sceptical of some well-known women novelists as the stories often involve a female character falling desperately in love with a man and ultimately getting caught up in cheating, revenge, corruption all rather dark thoughts. You get the picture. Not a theme I’d like my daughter spending time on. Penny Vincenzi, though still family drama, tends to write captivating historical novels involving courageous women. I could be wrong, but it appears that way. Even so, it’s not that important and I digress.
A Trilogy, But Only Two Books… Hmmm, What to Do
Soon after entering the store, I picked up the second and third books of a trilogy by Ms Vincenzi. I figured a trilogy a nice idea, but couldn’t find the first book; for some reason it didn’t concern me. I held onto the two I found and continued looking at other parts of the store for my favorite genres – non-fiction and autobiographies.
After gathering a few more books, I went to the front to pay, still without the price of the two books from out front and still missing the first book of that trilogy.
A Little Bit of Wonderful… Twice
What happened next is how life should be all the time (and can be), but when it happens I’m still wowed and grateful. When the store owner saw I had the Penny Vincenzi books he stood up and walked from the desk saying, ‘…just checking if any of these books are on the $2 stand’. I suddenly realized I hadn’t even seen this $2 stand and exclaimed, “Perhaps the first book of this trilogy is there”. And sure enough there it was. Two copies in fact. In that instant I had the complete trilogy.
So let’s stop and note what happened: Importantly, I’d let go of having that first book, was prepared to walk from the store without the complete trilogy, and yet in doing so was immediately handed it. That was my first bit of wonderful. So simple. How easy was that?
Now stay with me for what happens next. The shop owner subsequently started adding up the price of all the books. He moved through each book, finally announcing, “…and of course these two are free”. Free? (unheard of) Which two? Of course – the two books from out front… the two autobiographies without a price.
So stop again – what happened there? I had let go a second time – being ready to pay without knowing the price of the books – and voilà, they weren’t just a price most people would pay, they were free.
The Benefits of Letting Go
So there you have it. I let go without realizing it, in two instances – admittedly they were small but nevertheless a charming and fun outcome. I pondered this and discovered six interesting teachings nestled within this everyday situation.
6 Insightful Teachings from Letting Go
Teaching #1: If you really want something, you can have it. Our day-to-day life is a great place to practice loosening up and letting go to allow what we want to come in.
Teaching #2: What is your attitude to abundance? These little circumstances reveal it to you. Rather than scrutinizing every situation involving money as we’ve been taught to do, try using these opportunities to let go of all that festering and practice being abundant.
Teaching #3: Use your knowingness. We’re so deeply into control that even when we know the prices are low, most of us feel it’s imperative we establish the price of an item prior to buying it. But if you listen, your knowingness will tell you ahead of time there’s no need to confirm that price or know that detail.
Teaching #4: Take your opportunity in the moment. Regarding the trilogy, the message from this is to stay in the moment and get what’s available in the moment, allowing the rest to arrive in time. Don’t analyze it. If I’d decided not to buy those two books and instead wait until I found a bookstore with the entire trilogy, I probably wouldn’t have the trilogy today.
Teaching #5: Large and small situations are the same. This example of mine may be considered a ‘small’ situation, but as I write in “Just Like That!” it’s our mind that determines $5 easy to get and $50,000 harder to get, but they are the same. The stakes seem lower or higher, so it’s psychological. The more we practice letting go in smaller situations, the more confidence we gain and become willing to do it again, perhaps when the stakes are higher.
Teaching #6: Be aware enough to notice the ‘miracles’ and your development. Often we try out what we learn but complain it doesn’t work. It does work but we get so busy and caught up in life that we’re too unaware to notice.
Let go and get even more of what you want!
Feel free to add your comments about this post:
Have you noticed yourself over-controlling the outcome of situations? How easy is it for you to let go? Do you think letting go works?
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