A Simple Way to Get Even More Than You Want

“Miracles happen everyday, change your perception of what a miracle is and you’ll see them all around you.

Jon Bon Jovi

When you decide you really want something, it seems impossible to let go of the idea. Yet loosening up and doing exactly that can fast track you to not only what you want, but to getting even more.

An Addiction to Control Blocks the Wonderful

In “Just Like That!” I’ve devoted a few chapters to why ‘letting go’ gets you what you want. This is because while there may be times we should put in all our efforts to get what we want, there are also times to let go and allow. Most of us are addicted to control – of other people as well as ourselves – so we find it a challenge to let go. Control issues usually exist in several areas of our lives and they block the wonderful. Yet most of the time we don’t even know we’re doing it, hence the chapters in my book.

Two Bits of Wonderful By Letting Go

A few weeks ago, I found myself letting go without realizing it and created a little bit of wonderful in doing so. A small situation, but nevertheless that’s how we start. We gain confidence doing it which leads us to greater ‘miracles’. It all counts.

It was only afterward I realized I’d let go twice in the one situation, and of course felt rewarded. Rewarded not only in letting go without thinking, but also in the bit of wonderful received. You can have these great little buzzes too, so here’s my living example to let you know the good news: that ‘letting go’ does pay off.

A Living Example: Letting Go Works

I love books, all bookstores and I also love second-hand bookstores.

My partner and I were passing through a small country town west of Sydney and spotted a second-hand bookstore. As always of course, in we went.

Do You Establish the Price Before Paying?

Firstly, I stopped at the stand of books out front. I saw two large hardcover autobiographies – one by Bob Hope, the other George Burns.

I actively seek out comedy and knew these two men would supply exactly that. I also appreciate true stories. Then as most of us do I looked for prices, but found none. I held onto the books anyway, intending to buy them after browsing. In the back of my mind lingered the vague thought to first find out the books’ prices, but didn’t act on it. I went on inside.

The Quest for Inspirational Novels

Inside were plenty of second-hand novels, including some family sagas by Penny Vincenzi, which I thought my daughter may one day enjoy. She’s an avid reader as are both my children. I’m a little sceptical of some well-known women novelists as the stories often involve a female character falling desperately in love with a man and ultimately getting caught up in cheating, revenge, corruption all rather dark thoughts. You get the picture. Not a theme I’d like my daughter spending time on. Penny Vincenzi, though still family drama, tends to write captivating historical novels involving courageous women. I could be wrong, but it appears that way. Even so, it’s not that important and I digress.

A Trilogy, But Only Two Books… Hmmm, What to Do

Soon after entering the store, I picked up the second and third books of a trilogy by Ms Vincenzi. I figured a trilogy a nice idea, but couldn’t find the first book; for some reason it didn’t concern me. I held onto the two I found and continued looking at other parts of the store for my favorite genres – non-fiction and autobiographies.

After gathering a few more books, I went to the front to pay, still without the price of the two books from out front and still missing the first book of that trilogy.

A Little Bit of Wonderful… Twice

What happened next is how life should be all the time (and can be), Continue reading “A Simple Way to Get Even More Than You Want”

The 6 Hazards of Waiting for a Different Future

We’re often told to stay away from the past.

But did you know that it’s also futile to brood constantly about the future?

Anything other than ‘in the moment’, ‘in the NOW’, is unproductive.

“With the past, I have nothing to do; nor with the future. I live now.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 – 1882, American lecturer and poet. Champion of individualism.)

To help you get what you want, this is Part 4 of a 4-Part series – Why Being in the Moment Gets You What You Want

Parts 1, 2 and 3
10 Magic Reasons Living in the Moment Gets You What You Want
The 5 Hazards of Obsessing About the Past
How do You Know if You Are Living in the Past?

6 Reasons Why Living in the Future Can’t Get You What You Want

  1. You can only be effective in creating and influencing your future while being in the moment. If you’re living in your future, life is as unfulfilling as if you were in the past. If your mind is in the future you’re wishing and hoping for something from today, but you aren’t consciously and intentionally creating it now. To create what you want you must be in the moment, in the ‘now’.
  2. You’re missing the fun of today. If you’re constantly planning ahead, you’re missing out on the happiness you could be having today.
  3. If you put off doing what you want for the future, that is where it will stay. Get creative today about doing what you want today – every day. Then you’ll have your future happening today.
  4. If you’ll only be happy in the future, then happiness stays in the future i.e. if you’ll only be happy once you have your new home, a holiday, a car, clothes etc, then your happiness won’t ever be right now. It’s not good enough to be momentarily happy on big occasions. Take steps to make every day special – it’s yours if you want it. For more ideas on how to do that read Discover the First Key Element to Getting What You Want.
  5. You create anxiety by living in the future. Obsessing about the future can create fear about what might happen. Anxiety prevents you from moving into the most ideal and satisfying day because you get what you think i.e. more anxiety. Continue reading “The 6 Hazards of Waiting for a Different Future”

How do You Know if You are Living in the Past?

If you live in the past, you don’t get what you want.

When you are consciously present in the moment you get what you want.

So, if you want to leave behind living in the past… read on to discover how.

To help you get what you want, this is Part 3 of a 4-Part series – Why Being in the Moment Gets You What You Want.

In Parts 1 and 2 you learned the 10 Magic Reasons Living in the Moment Gets You What You Want and The 5 Hazards of Obsessing About the Past.

Question: How do you know if you are living in the moment, in ‘the now’?

Answer: If you are aware of your thoughts and emotions, then you are present and in the moment.

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”

Anaïs Nin (1903 – 1977, French-Cuban author)

Listed below are 27 everyday situations, clues to help you recognize when you are living in the past. Along with each clue is what you’d do if you were instead ‘being present’.

By the way, you’ll notice that living in the past is largely driven by unhelpful emotion whereas emotion disappears in the present… you are calm.

27 Everyday Clues: You are Living in the Past When:

  1. You react to circumstances without thinking; you impulsively judge a situation as good or bad. For example, you receive an email and instantly judge the contents as one way or the other. Being present: You acknowledge that you don’t yet fully understand the bigger picture – you allow whatever it is to be part of a greater outcome for you.
  2. You judge differences as good or bad. You may have a preference and go for what you want, but if something is not ideal or good for you, it isn’t therefore ‘bad’. Being present: You allow situations or options to just ‘be’ neither. You have no reaction.
  3. You speak without thinking, without awareness. Do you ever say, ‘I am sick of…’, ‘I’d die for a…’? Being present: You’re aware of what you’re saying – you say only that which you truly want.
  4. You expect something bad to happen, ‘because it always does’. Being present: You know that you create only the best for you – getting what you want becomes a habit, a healthy habit.
  5. You don’t want to change i.e. you avoid new ideas, you won’t accept responsibility for your circumstances, you refuse to see yourself in others, you want life to stay the same, you want people to feel sorry for you. Being present: You’re flexible, willing to learn and invite change – you see change as an opportunity for adventure and greater happiness. Also read Discover the First Key Element to Getting What You Want.
  6. You can’t let go of controlling a circumstance and its outcome. Being present: You create what you want and allow it to unfold in the most ideal way, uniquely for you.
  7. You can’t accept someone for who they are. Do you constantly try to change people e.g. your partner, child, friend? Being present: You allow others to be who they are and instead look only to changing yourself to satisfy the lack you notice in them. By doing this you give others the gift of acceptance and yourself an opportunity to grow. How to do this is in my book “How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!”
  8. You control others, their life. Being present: You’re at peace with how others choose to live their lives and how they choose to behave. You receive the same gift from others.
  9. You can’t let someone go e.g. a friendship, partner. Being present: You calmly know that as one person leaves your life you’re inviting someone else in – someone more suited to who you have become and who will help you grow in different ways. Continue reading “How do You Know if You are Living in the Past?”

10 Magic Reasons Living in the Moment Gets You What You Want

Live in the moment and get what you want.

Easier said than done of course, but an ideal I aspire to each and every day!

Living in the moment comes down to being awake and aware of what you are thinking in the moment versus being asleep or in a trance, as many of us are.

If you are asleep you are effectively under hypnosis – you are reacting with old emotions and blindly following the masses.

To help you get what you want, this is Part 1 of a 4-Part series – Why Being in the Moment Gets You What You Want

This moment ‘now’ is brand new, pure and unpolluted. Be aware of your thoughts, emotions and use the power of  ‘the now’ to create what you want.

“Life is a succession of moments. To live each one is to succeed.”

Corita Kent (1918 – 1986, artist and educator)

10 Magic Reasons Being in the Moment Gets You What You Want

  1. You’ll use the moment wisely with precision and intention to get what you want. Only awareness can do that. If you want life to be different in the future, then the time to act consciously is NOW. So, how do you know if you are in the moment? It’s simple – if you are aware of your thoughts and emotions, then you are present and in the moment. Create what you want now and you’ll naturally move into a future of what you want.
  2. You live in a constant state of joy when you’re in the moment. This is because in the ‘now’ your old emotions, dislikes and problems cease to exist – they can’t exist. These hamper your dreams and removing them paves the way for what you want.
  3. You think for yourself. You decide what is good for you in the ‘now’. You won’t blindly do what others do, you won’t do what they think is good for you or feel that you must impress others – not family, friends or colleagues.  Whatever you do when you are ‘now’, you do it for you. If you need help accepting this then read 5 Reasons You’re Not Asking For What You Want.
  4. You are not afraid. Nothing can hurt you in the moment, there is no fear; you are calm. You take responsibility for your life, you don’t need approval from anyone; you live your personal truth. Continue reading “10 Magic Reasons Living in the Moment Gets You What You Want”