What If You’ve Been Hypnotised into Believing You Can’t?

How can people suddenly do “the impossible” under hypnosis?

Consider these people under hypnosis:
– The person who stutters now talks fluently
– The weight-lifter can suddenly lift 25 more pounds

Incredible!

It makes you think doesn’t it.

Obviously they were always ABLE to do these things but turned off the ability through negative beliefs.

How does this happen?

3 Things You’re Doing to Let Others Control You (Part 2 of 3)

BE FREE – CHOOSE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS

A huge part of disputes is how much you unwittingly let others control you.

You can take back control by doing one thing instead; something we’ll get to in a minute. And you’ll find one of the essentials to a happy life also pops up again. Do these and life kicks along nicely.

But first it’s important to know what you may inadvertently be doing now, to let others control you.

What I tell you today is not widely known, and if known is not applied – at least I don’t see many people applying it. The good news is once the light is turned on, it stays on and you are forever more empowered.

Our aim today is to put you in charge of every situation, so you not only use disputes as an asset, but also move on from them. We want to give you freedom and have all your power under your control.

You become a magnetic personality others love to be around!

This is part 2 of a 3-part series:
Coming Through Family Disputes Peacefully and More Empowered.

Part 1 – Family Disputes: Tips to Laugh More, Cry Less.

Get more clarity from today’s article by first reading part 1 above.

Part 1 discussed the following:

  • 6 Empowering points about disputes
  • Why  disputes can be used as an asset
  • Who the other person really is
  • How to use the dispute to become happier

To Start Today, Ask Yourself These Four Questions:

  1. “Do I try to prove others wrong?”
  2. “Do I blame others for my circumstance?”
  3. “Do I depend on others behaving a certain way, so I can be happy?”
  4. “Do I try to change other people?”

It may surprise you, but if you answer YES to any of these, YOU ARE letting other people control you.

3 Things You Do to Let Others Control You & How to STOP That

1. Others Control You If You Try to Prove Them Wrong

Proving others wrong is a powerless tactic. It feels good, but gives the other person your power; that’s not our aim.

If you want a happy life, the best thing (not necessarily the easiest!) is leave the other person out of it.

 “Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” ~~ Marcus Aurelius

(Roman Emperor CE 161 – 180, considered one of the most important Stoic philosophers)

What you’ll notice about those four questions above – they all start with “Do I.

That’s because the dispute is all about you. That’s a great thing : -) and I’ll tell you why.

Things don’t just happen to you. (again a good thing)

If you’ve read Just Like That! you’ll already know this and why, but a reminder never hurts.

You create everything that happens to you – once you know that, life becomes easier. For example:

  • Your health: You create your vibrant health or illness and pain
  • Your relationships: You create fun in your relationships or disappointment
  • Your finances: You create doing what you enjoy or a struggle
  • Your career: You create an enjoyable job or a hard, unfulfilling slog

You even create your disputes.

You continue to create everything every day.

Do you realize how powerful and wonderful that is? It means you can choose what you create in future.

Choice = power. Choose to be in control of your life = then you are. Choose to be a victim = then you are.

So, why does trying to prove the other person wrong give them your power?

By saying they caused an issue in your life, you’re choosing to be powerless and give them the power to influence your life.

Remember, you can choose to feel powerless – and of course then you are. Your thought decides your life. You have free will to give that power away and be a victim to others.

BUT. Even though you’ve handed them your power, you’re still creating everything that happens in your life. It’s just that you’re creating situations where you are powerless.

Today our goal is to return your power to you – through knowledge.

A powerful strategy is to take responsibility for the dispute. Taking responsibility means you accept you created the dispute.

“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.” ~~ Jim Rohn

When you do, you instantly move into a PROACTIVE ROLE in your life…

… rather than being reactive and dependent on others. You are taking control and choosing your future.

Quantum physics proves what you think creates what you have in your life.

And if you create your life, it’s absolute. It doesn’t only apply to some things and not others, it’s everything.

This may seem impossible right now, but knowledge points the way – makes it fun in fact. This knowledge is already available to you, but it is your job to find, read and apply it. Do that and your life becomes *magical*.

How you can take control today: Learn more about taking responsibility for disputes – for everything. Learn how to do that and apply it.  Read this:

2. Others Control You If You BLAME Them for What Happened

Now let’s talk addiction.

As mentioned in Part 1 – Family Disputes: Tips to Laugh More, Cry Less a dispute gives us an emotional “hit” like a drug. It is addictive. A common emotion is BLAME.

Because blame feels deliciously sweet, you actually feel “good” for a moment. This is due to a chemical rush, again like a drug. You feel absolved of the situation and it’s a chance to complain and have others feel sorry for you.

When you blame others, you give up your power to change.  ~~ Dr. Robert Anthony

Blaming others means you let them control you.

Why?

Think about it – when you blame it’s because the person angered or disappointed you – in other words made you angry or sad. This also means they decide whether you feel happy or sad. You’re at their mercy.

If they’re nice to you, you’re happy. If they’re nasty you have a bad day.

Personally I’d rather choose happiness – on my terms, regardless of those around me.

I’ll put it bluntly:

If you truly are powerful enough to create all aspects of your life (you are)…

… how can you blame someone else for your situation or how you feel?

When you’re locked up in a cycle of blame, it is almost impossible for you to focus on and experience joy – you are effectively in a self-created prison. When you focus on retaliation or revenge, retaliation becomes your life so you create more of it. Life becomes harder as even more people retaliate upon you.

You created this and you can change this.

In a bizarre way, sadness and self-pity are also addictive emotions that feel “good”. But the good feeling quickly disappears, and you’re soon hunting for another hit.

It’s a downward spiral. Blaming others keeps you going south. At some point you’ll realize the truth and become desperate enough to stop the cycle and change direction. Today perhaps? : -)

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.” ~~ Wayne Dyer

On the other side of this are fun, laughter and getting along with everyone – on your own terms.

That can be you when you say, “YES, I want that”.

The lesson is: blame no-one, not even you. Let the situation merely be a learning opportunity for you: not good and not bad.

How does that work?

Often we’re unaware of our thoughts. If your life is the result of what you think, it means you can use every situation to learn how you’re thinking, and therefore change your thoughts to create what you want.

More help coming your way: Part 3 – 7 Easy Ways to Use the Dispute to Get What You Want – posted soon, helps you discover the meaning behind disputes and how they can help you find real happiness.

How you can take control today: Take responsibility to learn more about how life works, how you’re creating your life, why you can never blame others. Then start using that knowledge to take control and get what you want. Start with this:

  • You can get Chapter 3 WHATEVER YOU THINK IS TRUE  from my book – part of the 3 chapter FREE download – it’s a powerful chapter about how thought works, plus it has an easy exercise to help you: HOW TO CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE THOUGHTS.

3. Others Control You If You Depend on Them Behaving a Certain Way

“Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.” ~~ Oscar Wilde

Even if the other person is attacking you, dig a little deeper and you’ll find you want them to change and behave a certain way.

Remember, controlling someone or forcing them to do what you want is equal to slavery, something we abhor. (yet we still do this but don’t see it that way)

But here’s the catch. By trying to control someone, you become the one controlled.

Why do you become controlled when you try to control others? Continue reading “3 Things You’re Doing to Let Others Control You (Part 2 of 3)”

Finding Times Tough? Take Action Today to Get Your Happy Life (Part 4 of 7)

“Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence.
Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear.
Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow.

But any action is better than no action at all.

~~ Norman Vincent Peale

(American Protestant Clergyman and Writer 1893-1993)

This is Part 4 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

Part 1 Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life teaches you:
– How to take charge of your life
– A simple way to gain confidence

Part 2 Finding Times Tough? Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want? explains:
– What taking responsibility for the state of your life means
– And what’s in it for you

Part 3 Finding Times Tough? 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life explains how to:
Find wisdom and gain confidence from tough times
– 2 steps that will start your happy life
– How to get a 22-step recipe for your happy life

Okay, so you’ve decided what you want and you now have a story describing your ideal life.

That’s terrific because you need to know what you want.
Imagine driving your car not knowing what direction you’re going in.

Now what comes next?

Take Action to Get What You Want

When I first started intentionally creating what I wanted, I’d sit back and wait.

I didn’t know any better. And ultimately I got what I wanted just by writing a story or making a list of what I wanted, as suggested in Part 3 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life .

But today I know the benefits of taking action and I also enjoy taking action.

I’ve found I have more fun along the way – my journey is more exciting, I overcome more fears, develop greater confidence in what I’m doing and my result becomes even greater.

Why Does Taking Action Help?

Humans carry a lot of baggage.

We all have baggage.

This baggage can weigh us down, distract us, create fear, cause doubts and delay our ideal future.

By saturating your life every day with this new future, it keeps you aligned to your goal – it releases that baggage and keeps you motivated and on track.

What Benefits Do You Get By Taking Action? Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? Take Action Today to Get Your Happy Life (Part 4 of 7)”

Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life (Part 1 of 7)

What if tough times were a blessing?

No way!

Oh yes, they certainly can be.

Okay, at worst let’s say it’s a mixed blessing, but again it’s about
what you think you get‘.

Here’s why they’re a blessing.

Tough times can motivate you to try new ideas and be open to change.

They take you to a cross roads and urge you to open to new ideas – to read articles such as this one.

And that’s great because it means you’re motivated to consider a better life.

Often that’s all you need to actually get one.

“With ordinary talent and extraordinary perseverance, all things are attainable.”

Thomas Fowell Buxton

(Born in Essex, a strong advocate for the abolition of slavery in the British Colonies, 1786-1845)

This is Part 1 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

This series of 7 articles returns the power to you, where it belongs.

Once you’ve read these articles you can decide which way you go – up to your true potential or down to more despair.

How to Take Charge of Your Life in Tough Times and Get a Happy Life

However hard life may seem, decide you’re going to deal with it and not be a victim.

A victim waits in hope for life to become different.

Most of us, both men and women no matter how seemingly strong or successful, play the victim game at some stage.

Yes, even big burly men and tough career women.

Being a victim does have benefits. Very short-term benefits.

You get attention and others feel sorry for you.

All well and good, except that over time being a victim destroys your life.

When I say don’t be a victim, I’m not saying keep a stiff upper lip or suffer in silence either.

I’m saying that a victim is someone who is stuck and dependent on others.

If you’d like an interesting, exciting and happy life, it’s essential you stand up and act toward changing your situation.

This can seem like hard work – in some ways it is.

But no-one can live your life for you or make you happy, and doing this for yourself is hugely rewarding and satisfying.

There is something thrilling in taking charge. Something you’ll only discover once you try it.

If you don’t know what action to take or how to take it, these 7 articles show you how.

The Simplest Way to Take Action

A simple way to take action is to Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life (Part 1 of 7)”

Now You Can Overcome Fear and Get What You Want

“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.”

Marie Curie

Fear is something every human deals with. You are not alone. The blessing is that fear is about what could happen and not what is happening. When you start to understand how you create your life, fear drops away. When you learn how to deliberately create what you want in your life, fear drops away even further. The knowledge in my book gives you that understanding and the courage to take action; knowledge and action overcome fear and anxiety. The following extract from my book Just Like That! How to Get Anything You Want[i] is an example, it zeroes in on the fear of change as well as one of the main causes of fear. Other causes of fear and how to overcome them are dealt with elsewhere in the book, giving you skills to face life fearlessly, empower your life and increase your wisdom.

Knowledge tackles fear head-on; it eliminates fear and anxiety so you can step joyfully forward into a brighter, happier future where you get what you want.

   Moving On From the Status Quo

No matter how tantalizing the potential outcome, many people fear change in their lives because the body fears the unknown and it fears losing its identity. The wanted or unwanted aspects of our identity are familiar, like a comfortable pair of shoes. We find comfort in the boundaries of our old strengths and weaknesses.

The body may go on high alert for several reasons – when we attempt to think differently, when we have a decision to make or when contemplating an unresolved part of our life. The body cannot ascertain the full consequence of the change and how the change will affect its ability to survive, and it fears its inability to cope in a new situation. It would rather stay as it is, even if it is suffering or unhappy.

“Action conquers fear.”

Peter Nivio Zarlenga (Author, The Orator)

   Just Do It

The body can procrastinate by popping up endless questions to delay action so as to stay ‘safe’. People may feel confusion as to which path to take, so they procrastinate. Procrastination is borne out of the fear of change, yet any action, even some preliminary research, takes you closer to the real answer. Any action is progress, even if it isn’t in the best direction. There is no such thing as a ‘wrong’ action, Continue reading “Now You Can Overcome Fear and Get What You Want”