Say YES to Being the STAR of Your Life!

STEP UP & DO WHAT YOU LOVE
STEP UP & DO WHAT YOU LOVE

“All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players.”
~~ William Shakespeare

If that’s true, have you asked yourself the role you’re playing and who wrote your script?

Sadly, it most likely wasn’t you.

Few people know to write out their own script and participate fully in their own movie.

Most people are extras in other people’s movies!

There’s no fun in that.

This is where life is simple. All you need to do is understand a few fundamentals.

Here is the NUMBER ONE fundamental to understanding life:

You’re designed to create and live a life YOU love and to star CENTRE STAGE.

That’s it.

If you’re not creating your own life that then deep down you may feel the following:

  • Hollow
  • Empty
  • Dissatisfied
  • Frustrated
  • Angry
  • Depressed

Do you feel any of that?

So, why do so many people NOT create their life and instead live as an extra in someone else’s movie?

Again it’s simple. Culturally our “role” is programmed into us i.e. to put others first, make others happy and do what our family and society expect of us.

That programming is false but it’s SO deep, we have no idea we’ve been programmed.
People will even defend these rules as if they created them!

I write so many articles about this because we need to hear this “outrageous alternative” over and over before anything shifts.

You believed that old, false programming because it was passed down for generations; it’s in your genetics.
Then it was drummed into you daily for decades; it surrounds you environmentally.

Notice the technique? Repetition.

If repetition installed the old programming, why not use that same technique to re-program you for TRUTH!

You’re designed to live a life you love.

Science even backs this up for those who fear this new concept, but for most people this does ring true somehow, even if it sounds scary!

So, where to now? Okay, let the fun begin!

The fun is in creating the story YOU want.

Step 1.
Are you willing to contemplate what you want?

That’s the “hardest” part.

Most people are not willing to dream, which means no surprises if nothing changes.

Look at your story. Look at your life right now. Look at your results.

Are you happy with them?

Let’s play.

If you had ALL the time, money and resources what would you change, remove, or add to this story to make it more fabulous or exactly what you want?

Don’t tell anyone once you’ve done that!

I mean it. If you’ve dreamed something new and awesome for you, then you CAN HAVE it. But most people don’t have this information.

They’ll destroy your dream in a nanosecond by saying you’re nuts.

So keep it to yourself for now and hold it to you like a treasure.

Step 2: Imagine you’re already living this story.
What would you be doing every day?
If you could have what you want (and you can) what’s the first step you’d take to make it happen?

Step 3: Your first few actions will be obvious to you, if you’re open to see them.
Start taking action, even if it’s one new action a week.

Step 4: Look for the next action, once those actions are done. It will be revealed.

You’ll keep moving forward until one day suddenly you’re living the life you imagined.

It’s your story and you are the STAR : )

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This is Janet Poole; I believe in finding better ways to live your life and grow your business.

I believe in sharing those ideas!

Better Ways. More Freedom.

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How to Leave Behind Pain and Embrace Freedom

WHERE WILL IT TAKE YOU?
WHERE WILL IT TAKE YOU?

Challenges bring opportunities.
There’s no question about that.

There’s also no question it’s hard to
“embrace” a challenge or problem by yelling, “Yay, an opportunity!”

The essence of who you are always wants freedom.

You’re always naturally seeking expansion, fuller expression – of who you truly are.

When you allow yourself to grow you’re at your happiest because your soul thrives on adventure.

But most of us shrink back because adventure means CHANGE!

Why do we fear change?

Change takes us into the unknown; new experiences. The new, the unknown is unpredictable.

“Unpredictable” is too dangerous and uncomfortable for a human being who is focused on survival, so they pull back to safety.

We’ve been programmed since childhood to “survive”.

But remember our true essence desperately wants the majestic adventure and we’re shrinking back saying no.

“I prefer dangerous freedom over peaceful slavery.”
~~ Thomas Jefferson

You can only suppress you for so long.

This day-in-day out, week-in-week out continual suppression and denial brings enormous pain, frustration, anger, depression, anxiety and boredom.

There comes a time when the pain is so great you’ll be willing to say YES, grab the opportunity and leap into the unknown.

There you’ll discover the magic of the adventure and FREEDOM, PEACE, JOY… THE REAL YOU.

It’s time to shine your splendid light.

You’re ready for the grandest life and no-one will ever again be able to put out your light.

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This is Janet Poole; I believe in finding better ways to live your life and grow your business.

I believe in sharing those ideas!

Better Ways. More Freedom.

7 Things Happy People Do – They Put Themselves First (Part 3 of 7)

Candle relaxPut yourself first.

I know I know that’s supposed to be taboo.

And therefore a great reason to challenge it : -)

Putting yourself first is logical when you know why.

If you want scientific proof then I have that too.

If the idea sounds tempting then I say, good for you.

It’s 4 years since this blog post was written.
As of 2016, it’s my 4th most popular blog post.
It shows many of us are asking questions about what we’re “allowed” to have.
We have a yearning for truth.

Imagine if we ALL had permission to do what’s right for us, to follow our passions. Everyone would be happier, correct?

This is part 3 of a 7-part series: Things Happy People Do.

Key #1 is Happy People Have an Open Mind.
Key #2 is Happy People Love to Learn.

Let’s get started on #3.

Key #3:

Happy People Put Themselves First

Putting yourself first means you can follow your passion.

It’s the difference between waking up and savouring the idea of the day ahead and bouncing out of bed yelling, “Oh yea!” versus groaning, “Ugh, and now I have to get up…”!

“Nothing is as important as passion. No matter what you want to do with your life, be passionate.”

Jon Bon Jovi

Would You Even Know You’re Putting Others First?

Putting others first is a program so drilled into us as children it becomes part of who we are.

Then someone (that would be me) shocks us with “put yourself first !” and we draw back in horror.

So how does putting others first play out in our life?

It means we rarely do what we want.

We spend our life trying to please our family and friends and be accepted by our peers. We do what is popular, we try to fit in, we never offend (a serious no-no), we try to impress others and appear successful and yes, we even try to appear happy.

Does feeling obligated to please others and having to constantly appear successful make you happy?
No.

Most people consider this selfish… it’s not.

Why?

That Scientific Proof You Wanted

1. Quantum physicists have proved that you can only create your own reality – by what you think and how you choose to live your life.

You don’t create someone else’s reality – you can only create yours.

2. Take that one step further and you’ll see you can’t make someone else happy; why some people are never satisfied no matter how hard you try.

3. And one more step – the flip side: You can’t expect others to make you happy.

It’s all about YOU. You make it happen for YOU.

You’ll Become More Generous and Loving

Just because you put yourself first doesn’t mean you skip your responsibilities and stop loving your children. Nor do you become selfish, nasty or greedy. You’re human: you’ll always care for others. You become even more generous, patient and loving. And you’re empowering yourself and others. Life is brilliant!

Tell me, would you rather be around someone who is vibrantly happy and inspirational or someone who is exhausted and disgruntled after years of self-sacrifice… and of course trying their best to mask it? You decide.

My Time as a Stay-at-Home Mother

Women with children surely face one of the toughest challenges to feel okay about putting themselves first.

When I was a SAHM, I was desperate for me time. So were my friends.

It didn’t help that I had no family in Australia, my daughter had started school and I had a very lively active (adorable!) 3yo son who had moved on from his afternoon naps.

Back then I didn’t know about putting myself first.

Achieving Me Time

So how did I handle the situation back then?

I must have had inkling of how important this was because I chose to put my son in childcare 5 hours on a Wednesday.

This meant I could get a cup of coffee by myself or even chop vegetables for dinner uninterrupted!

I didn’t even want to catch up with friends – I just wanted to be alone.

My son hated childcare.

The first few months were fine and he always had a lot of fun once there, but he started objecting every Wednesday morning. I persevered a little longer because I knew I was a better, more patient mother with me time.

I stopped the childcare because my son was becoming more distraught, however those 6 months gave me what I needed. He started kindergarten soon after and I got a few hours to myself.

How Can Your Attitude Help You?

You don’t have to logically work out how to put yourself first. Merely understand that you’re entitled to do so and Continue reading “7 Things Happy People Do – They Put Themselves First (Part 3 of 7)”

Finding Times Tough? Take Action Today to Get Your Happy Life (Part 4 of 7)

“Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence.
Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear.
Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow.

But any action is better than no action at all.

~~ Norman Vincent Peale

(American Protestant Clergyman and Writer 1893-1993)

This is Part 4 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

Part 1 Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life teaches you:
– How to take charge of your life
– A simple way to gain confidence

Part 2 Finding Times Tough? Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want? explains:
– What taking responsibility for the state of your life means
– And what’s in it for you

Part 3 Finding Times Tough? 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life explains how to:
Find wisdom and gain confidence from tough times
– 2 steps that will start your happy life
– How to get a 22-step recipe for your happy life

Okay, so you’ve decided what you want and you now have a story describing your ideal life.

That’s terrific because you need to know what you want.
Imagine driving your car not knowing what direction you’re going in.

Now what comes next?

Take Action to Get What You Want

When I first started intentionally creating what I wanted, I’d sit back and wait.

I didn’t know any better. And ultimately I got what I wanted just by writing a story or making a list of what I wanted, as suggested in Part 3 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life .

But today I know the benefits of taking action and I also enjoy taking action.

I’ve found I have more fun along the way – my journey is more exciting, I overcome more fears, develop greater confidence in what I’m doing and my result becomes even greater.

Why Does Taking Action Help?

Humans carry a lot of baggage.

We all have baggage.

This baggage can weigh us down, distract us, create fear, cause doubts and delay our ideal future.

By saturating your life every day with this new future, it keeps you aligned to your goal – it releases that baggage and keeps you motivated and on track.

What Benefits Do You Get By Taking Action? Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? Take Action Today to Get Your Happy Life (Part 4 of 7)”

Finding Times Tough? Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want? (Part 2 of 7)

If you were able to choose and get the life you want, would you do it?

Surprisingly, many people would rather do nothing and continue to complain.

But we’re talking about you here, so if you’d like to choose your life, all you need as a first step is to take responsibility for the life you’ve created so far.

Life is like a game of chess.

Who is responsible for making the decisions in chess?

You are.

Once you take that first step, that simple yet profound choice opens a wonderful new world of opportunity for you.

“No man will succeed unless he is ready to face and overcome difficulties and is prepared to assume responsibilities.”

~~ William J.H. Boetcker

(American religious leader and public speaker 1873–1962)

This is Part 2 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

This article follows closely on the heels of Part 1 Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life . Part 1 teaches you how to take charge of your life and gives you a simple way to gain confidence.

This is the next step in taking charge of your life.

What Does Taking Responsibility Mean?

  • stop blaming other people, government and corporations for your life
  • stop waiting for someone else to tell you what to do
  • stop waiting for someone else to change your life
  • stop waiting for someone else to help you
  • stop feeling sorry for yourself
  • stop allowing ill-health to drive your life
  • start doing whatever it takes to understand why and how you’ve created your life so far
  • decide you are the person who changes your life to what you want

You are the person who creates your life, no-one else.

Just as in a game of chess, take responsibility for the outcome.

In tough times this is probably the last thing you want to hear.

Other people, government and corporations may well have contributed to your issues but bottom line your life is your doing.

And really, would you want it any other way?

Because this is a point of confusion for so many, my book “Just Like That!” fully explains why it is you who creates your life, how to take responsibility for it and what to do to turn it into a life you love. Understanding your involvement is a vital key to overcoming tough times forever.

Even if taking responsibility is hard to do, being the person responsible is actually GOOD NEWS!

Why?

If it is you who’s created your life to this stage it means you can also start today choosing and creating what you truly want. That sounds like great news to me.

You Always Have Free Will – Even if That Means Doing Nothing

You may choose to take this on or you may not.

And that’s okay, perhaps another time.

But the sooner you take responsibility the better it is for you. Obviously.

If you’re not up to it, Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want? (Part 2 of 7)”