7 Things Happy People Do – They Create in Their Own Unique Way (Part 6 of 7)

Let’s stop…

… trying to be like everyone else.

Trying to fit in, being seen as successful
– according to other people’s opinions of success!

Advertising and the media hypnotize us into wanting to look like others, do what others are doing, be like others.

You are unique – celebrate your uniqueness.

Keep it that way. Don’t become beige.

One trap is we consider other people’s ideas, stories and achievements noteworthy, but not ours.

This is part 6 of a 7-part series: Things Happy People Do.

Key #6:

Happy People Create in Their Own Unique Way

People especially love to hear about others facing and overcoming adversity.

It’s inspirational.

And who hasn’t overcome adversity – we all have, and our stories are all unique.

To be honest, for me it’s a relief to know our personal stories are an ideal way of illustrating a point, because it means I don’t have to go far to get one.

And remember truth is stranger than fiction!

“Each second we live is a new and unique moment of the universe, a moment that will never be again.

And what do we teach our children?

We teach then that two and two make four, and that Paris is the capital of France.

When will we also teach them what they are?

We should say to each of them: Do you know what you are?

You are a marvel. You are unique.

In all the years that have passed, there has never been another child like you.

Your legs, your arms, your clever fingers, the way you move.

You may become a Shakespeare, a Michelangelo, a Beethoven.

You have the capacity for anything. Yes, you are a marvel.

And when you grow up, can you then harm another who is, like you, a marvel?

You must work, we must all work, to make the world worthy of its children.”

Pablo Picasso

I urge you to read (aloud) the above quote. Don’t just skim it.

At heart we are all still children, each with a fabulous future ahead of us.

If you want it. If you allow it.

You Have Something Unique to Create

Just as your past is unique, you have something unique to create in your future too. This time you’ll do it with intention. I’m ready and waiting to see your product, service or hear your story. There are infinite ways in which you can be creative. Let go of the mind-set that only an artist or a dancer is creative. If you are passionate about something it’s highly likely you already have your audience ready and waiting.

“The happy people are those who are producing something.”

William Ralph Inge (British Professor of Divinity 1860 – 1954)

When you are creative you create new experiences for yourself. Your soul thrives on new experiences. New experiences are a vital key to happiness. Embrace the 7 keys of this blog series and you’ll start getting a sense of your real worth. Your own unique natural creativity will start to effortlessly wash over you.

Another New Unique Opportunity For Me

While shopping and walking my 18 month old son in his stroller, a book caught my eye.

At that point I’d never heard of Robert Kiyosaki, yet his book “Retire Young, Retire Rich” grabbed my attention.

A great title don’t you think? I bought it.

On reading it I was thrust onto a new and exciting path in life.

I became a successful real estate investor. That’s all it took!

As a stay-at-home mother, I was a little bored and struggling to find a solution. Returning to work was not an option for me – all I could imagine was increased stress levels.

Looking back I sense I didn’t want to return to the IT field, and wonder now if I had done so, would I have become too busy for all my other endeavors, including writing my book “How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!”.

Because of “Retire Young, Retire Rich” the idea instantly ignited me and I devoured the book.

As I said in key # 3 Put Yourself First, if you feel entitled to put yourself first, opportunities will arise for you to do so.

Real estate investment is an ideal occupation for a SAHM. Robert Kiyosaki gave me all the motivation and reasons that I could do it.

And I did.

Creating is Fun

Within a year I had traveled interstate to attend a Robert Kiyosaki seminar and I’d bought 2 properties.

My result was an excellent profit upon selling these a few years later.

And it was a lot of fun. I researched in my “spare” time and eventually decided to buy in interstate.

This meant I had to travel and it gave me an opportunity for that all important “me time” and I was being productive.

Not that you must be productive during “me time”, no no no!

Your creativity urges are unique to you. You might think real estate is boring – for me it was exciting.

At the time my real estate adventure ticked all the boxes of “what happy people do”:

How Did My Adventure Tick All the Boxes? Continue reading “7 Things Happy People Do – They Create in Their Own Unique Way (Part 6 of 7)”

7 Things Happy People Do – They Put Themselves First (Part 3 of 7)

Candle relaxPut yourself first.

I know I know that’s supposed to be taboo.

And therefore a great reason to challenge it : -)

Putting yourself first is logical when you know why.

If you want scientific proof then I have that too.

If the idea sounds tempting then I say, good for you.

It’s 4 years since this blog post was written.
As of 2016, it’s my 4th most popular blog post.
It shows many of us are asking questions about what we’re “allowed” to have.
We have a yearning for truth.

Imagine if we ALL had permission to do what’s right for us, to follow our passions. Everyone would be happier, correct?

This is part 3 of a 7-part series: Things Happy People Do.

Key #1 is Happy People Have an Open Mind.
Key #2 is Happy People Love to Learn.

Let’s get started on #3.

Key #3:

Happy People Put Themselves First

Putting yourself first means you can follow your passion.

It’s the difference between waking up and savouring the idea of the day ahead and bouncing out of bed yelling, “Oh yea!” versus groaning, “Ugh, and now I have to get up…”!

“Nothing is as important as passion. No matter what you want to do with your life, be passionate.”

Jon Bon Jovi

Would You Even Know You’re Putting Others First?

Putting others first is a program so drilled into us as children it becomes part of who we are.

Then someone (that would be me) shocks us with “put yourself first !” and we draw back in horror.

So how does putting others first play out in our life?

It means we rarely do what we want.

We spend our life trying to please our family and friends and be accepted by our peers. We do what is popular, we try to fit in, we never offend (a serious no-no), we try to impress others and appear successful and yes, we even try to appear happy.

Does feeling obligated to please others and having to constantly appear successful make you happy?
No.

Most people consider this selfish… it’s not.

Why?

That Scientific Proof You Wanted

1. Quantum physicists have proved that you can only create your own reality – by what you think and how you choose to live your life.

You don’t create someone else’s reality – you can only create yours.

2. Take that one step further and you’ll see you can’t make someone else happy; why some people are never satisfied no matter how hard you try.

3. And one more step – the flip side: You can’t expect others to make you happy.

It’s all about YOU. You make it happen for YOU.

You’ll Become More Generous and Loving

Just because you put yourself first doesn’t mean you skip your responsibilities and stop loving your children. Nor do you become selfish, nasty or greedy. You’re human: you’ll always care for others. You become even more generous, patient and loving. And you’re empowering yourself and others. Life is brilliant!

Tell me, would you rather be around someone who is vibrantly happy and inspirational or someone who is exhausted and disgruntled after years of self-sacrifice… and of course trying their best to mask it? You decide.

My Time as a Stay-at-Home Mother

Women with children surely face one of the toughest challenges to feel okay about putting themselves first.

When I was a SAHM, I was desperate for me time. So were my friends.

It didn’t help that I had no family in Australia, my daughter had started school and I had a very lively active (adorable!) 3yo son who had moved on from his afternoon naps.

Back then I didn’t know about putting myself first.

Achieving Me Time

So how did I handle the situation back then?

I must have had inkling of how important this was because I chose to put my son in childcare 5 hours on a Wednesday.

This meant I could get a cup of coffee by myself or even chop vegetables for dinner uninterrupted!

I didn’t even want to catch up with friends – I just wanted to be alone.

My son hated childcare.

The first few months were fine and he always had a lot of fun once there, but he started objecting every Wednesday morning. I persevered a little longer because I knew I was a better, more patient mother with me time.

I stopped the childcare because my son was becoming more distraught, however those 6 months gave me what I needed. He started kindergarten soon after and I got a few hours to myself.

How Can Your Attitude Help You?

You don’t have to logically work out how to put yourself first. Merely understand that you’re entitled to do so and Continue reading “7 Things Happy People Do – They Put Themselves First (Part 3 of 7)”