Ten or twenty percent is only an incremental gain.
For some that’s an impressive performance – depending on the challenge.
I prefer the idea of a quantum leap.
Why not choose to double your level of success? Why not triple it? Or more!
Why play small when you can go big?
To do this you’re going to have to be illogical.
The 3 Basic Principles of a Quantum Leap
1. Think of something you truly WANT to achieve, something you’d love to be, do or have.
To achieve a quantum leap, it must come from inside.
It must be something seeking expression in and through YOU.
This could be for you personally — or if you’re the leader of a team or business.
What do you have a burning desire to do?
If you knew you could not fail, what would you do?
Write it down. Imagine you are already living it NOW (that’s really important).
2. Let go of having to know HOW you’re going to get there.
You may already be able to see the problems you’ll face.
You may already realise some resources you’ll need are missing.
You may have no idea how you’re going to work through some of the logistics.
Believe it or not, none of that is your problem.
“Absence of evidence is not evidence of their absence.”
~~ Price Pritchett, You2
Everything you need will come to you as you need it.
(and who decides it’s “failure” because really and truly there’s no such thing : )
Even if you said you’d failed I’d say, “Congratulations – you’re moving… many are stuck so far back in fear, they might never move! You’re already further ahead.”
Today I’m emphasizing the advantages of MOVING INTO ACTION, that even if you make mistakes you’re still further ahead.
I’m also giving you an easy technique, to get you moving.
“Courage is being scared to death – and saddling up anyway.”
~~ John Wayne
The great thing about MOVING is it’s easier to change direction.
Imagine a vehicle.
– How hard is it to change direction while standing still? Very hard.
– How hard is it to change direction while moving? Very easy.
Studies show that people who achieve what they want, do it through trial and error.
Yes, a mistake is an indicator of success
How successful can you be if you’re DOING NOTHING?
Today I have some words of wisdom from Dr Maxwell Maltz author of Psycho-Cybernetics and below you’ll see a great technique I use – that you can start using today.
I was intrigued when I first heard that a rocket arrives at its destination through a series of mistakes (it fails its way there?) and that our subconscious mind is a mechanism operating in a similar way.
“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”
~~ Albert Einstein
According to Dr Maltz, our subconscious is in fact a “machine” we use.
We direct this machine using our conscious mind.
So, how is the mechanism in a rocket similar to your subconscious mind?
Have a look at this interesting list of similarities:
They are both goal-striving mechanisms.
They are both impersonal (your subconscious mind does not see things as good or bad it just goes ahead and creates your outside world according to your thinking – whether that serves you or not)
They must both be moving to get to their goal (sounds obvious yet most people don’t move)
They both reach their destination (goal) through trial and error.When they go forward, they make mistakes and correct their course. They are therefore further ahead.
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A huge part of disputes is how much you unwittingly let others control you.
You can take back control by doing one thing instead; something we’ll get to in a minute. And you’ll find one of the essentials to a happy life also pops up again. Do these and life kicks along nicely.
But first it’s important to know what you may inadvertently be doing now, to let others control you.
What I tell you today is not widely known, and if known is not applied – at least I don’t see many people applying it. The good news is once the light is turned on, it stays on and you are forever more empowered.
Our aim today is to put you in charge of every situation, so you not only use disputes as an asset, but also move on from them. We want to give you freedom and have all your power under your control.
You become a magnetic personality others love to be around!
This is part 2 of a 3-part series:
Coming Through Family Disputes Peacefully and More Empowered.
Get more clarity from today’s article by first reading part 1 above.
Part 1 discussed the following:
6 Empowering points about disputes
Why disputes can be used as an asset
Who the other person really is
How to use the dispute to become happier
To Start Today, Ask Yourself These Four Questions:
“Do I try to prove others wrong?”
“Do I blame others for my circumstance?”
“Do I depend on others behaving a certain way, so I can be happy?”
“Do I try to change other people?”
It may surprise you, but if you answer YES to any of these, YOU ARE letting other people control you.
3 Things You Do to Let Others Control You & How to STOP That
1. Others Control You If You Try to Prove Them Wrong
Proving others wrong is a powerless tactic. It feels good, but gives the other person your power; that’s not our aim.
If you want a happy life, the best thing (not necessarily the easiest!) is leave the other person out of it.
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” ~~ Marcus Aurelius
(Roman Emperor CE 161 – 180, considered one of the most important Stoic philosophers)
What you’ll notice about those four questions above – they all start with “Do I”.
That’s because the dispute is all about you. That’s a great thing : -) and I’ll tell you why.
Things don’t just happen to you. (again a good thing)
If you’ve read Just Like That! you’ll already know this and why, but a reminder never hurts.
You create everything that happens to you – once you know that, life becomes easier. For example:
Your health: You create your vibrant health or illness and pain
Your relationships: You create fun in your relationships or disappointment
Your finances: You create doing what you enjoy or a struggle
Your career: You create an enjoyable job or a hard, unfulfilling slog
You even create your disputes.
You continue to create everything every day.
Do you realize how powerful and wonderful that is? It means you can choose what you create in future.
Choice = power. Choose to be in control of your life = then you are. Choose to be a victim = then you are.
So, why does trying to prove the other person wrong give them your power?
By saying they caused an issue in your life, you’re choosing to be powerless and give them the power to influence your life.
Remember, you can choose to feel powerless – and of course then you are. Your thought decides your life. You have free will to give that power away and be a victim to others.
BUT. Even though you’ve handed them your power, you’re still creatingeverything that happens in your life. It’s just that you’re creating situations where you are powerless.
Today our goal is to return your power to you – through knowledge.
A powerful strategy is to take responsibility for the dispute. Taking responsibility means you accept you created the dispute.
“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.” ~~ Jim Rohn
When you do, you instantly move into a PROACTIVE ROLE in your life…
… rather than being reactive and dependent on others. You are taking control and choosing your future.
Quantum physics proves what you think creates what you have in your life.
And if you create your life, it’s absolute. It doesn’t only apply to some things and not others, it’s everything.
This may seem impossible right now, but knowledge points the way – makes it fun in fact. This knowledge is already available to you, but it is your job to find, read and apply it. Do that and your life becomes *magical*.
How you can take control today: Learn more about taking responsibility for disputes – for everything. Learn how to do that and apply it. Read this:
Because blame feels deliciously sweet, you actually feel “good” for a moment. This is due to a chemical rush, again like a drug. You feel absolved of the situation and it’s a chance to complain and have others feel sorry for you.
“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” ~~ Dr. Robert Anthony
Blaming others means you let them control you.
Think about it – when you blame it’s because the person angered or disappointed you – in other words made you angry or sad. This also means they decide whether you feel happy or sad. You’re at their mercy.
If they’re nice to you, you’re happy. If they’re nasty you have a bad day.
Personally I’d rather choose happiness – on my terms, regardless of those around me.
I’ll put it bluntly:
If you truly are powerful enough to create all aspects of your life (you are)…
… how can you blame someone else for your situation or how you feel?
When you’re locked up in a cycle of blame, it is almost impossible for you to focus on and experience joy – you are effectively in a self-created prison. When you focus on retaliation or revenge, retaliation becomes your life so you create more of it. Life becomes harder as even more people retaliate upon you.
You created this and you can change this.
In a bizarre way, sadness and self-pity are also addictive emotions that feel “good”. But the good feeling quickly disappears, and you’re soon hunting for another hit.
It’s a downward spiral. Blaming others keeps you going south. At some point you’ll realize the truth and become desperate enough to stop the cycle and change direction. Today perhaps? : -)
“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.” ~~ Wayne Dyer
On the other side of this are fun, laughter and getting along with everyone – on your own terms.
That can be you when you say, “YES, I want that”.
The lesson is: blame no-one, not even you. Let the situation merely be a learning opportunity for you: not good and not bad.
How does that work?
Often we’re unaware of our thoughts. If your life is the result of what you think, it means you can use every situation to learn how you’re thinking, and therefore change your thoughts to create what you want.
More help coming your way: Part 3 – 7 Easy Ways to Use the Dispute to Get What You Want – posted soon, helps you discover the meaning behind disputes and how they can help you find real happiness.
How you can take control today: Take responsibility to learn more about how life works, how you’re creating your life, why you can never blame others. Then start using that knowledge to take control and get what you want. Start with this:
You can get Chapter 3 WHATEVER YOU THINK IS TRUE from my book – part of the 3 chapter FREE download – it’s a powerful chapter about how thought works, plus it has an easy exercise to help you: HOW TO CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE THOUGHTS.
3. Others Control You If You Depend on Them Behaving a Certain Way
“Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.” ~~ Oscar Wilde
Even if the other person is attacking you, dig a little deeper and you’ll find you want them to change and behave a certain way.
Remember, controlling someone or forcing them to do what you want is equal to slavery, something we abhor. (yet we still do this but don’t see it that way)
But here’s the catch. By trying to control someone, you become the one controlled.
6 empowering things you ought to know about disputes.
We’ll shift the power from the other person to you and possibly even see the brighter side.
We all know disputes are a touchy subject and the truth is hard to hear.
Be open to hear it and you’ll find more reasons to laugh at life.
“Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.” ~~ George Burns (1896 – 1996)
Everything in this article empowers YOU.
Note: This information also applies to disputes outside the family. Most disputes are not life-threatening, but in cases of physical abuse or threats, never take it lightly. Act to stop it. Still use this information to empower yourself and avoid it in the future.
This is part 1 of a 3-part series: Coming Through Family Disputes Peacefully and More Empowered
6 Empowering Things to Learn About Disputes
1. You Enjoy the Dispute
Like I said, the truth is hard to hear; don’t let that deter you. Most people relish a dispute yet deny it because they’re unaware they’re enjoying it. You’re not alone.
Why do you enjoy a dispute?
The emotions arising from a dispute act like a drug. Weird maybe, but emotions are really chemicals, like drugs. We’re addicted to and take pleasure in the “hit” from the emotion.
What emotions give you a “hit”?
You get to feel sorry for yourself
You see the situation as unfair and a betrayal
You get to blame the person for the situation
You can dream up vengeful ways to get back at them
You get to criticize the person with your friends (the list goes on)
Deep down all this feels delicious.
BUT, bitterness, revenge and injustice hurt YOU. They don’t strengthen, they weaken you. And you don’t get what you want. They create diseases and put your life on hold.
“It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.” ~~ Wayne Dyer
Contemplate this. If you stay with me, you’re already on track to greater empowerment.
2. Use Disputes as an Asset
One of your main purposes on Earth is to evolve, to rise above all those heavy emotions in point #1.
What’s one of the best ways to evolve?
Through relationships. They actually help you evolve – if you let them. We teach each other.
Why would you want to evolve?
When you do:
You gain control over your how your life turns out
Life becomes exciting,fun and you’re more relaxed
Nice things just happen to you
You’re a far more interesting person
You meet interesting, happy people
You gain a bright new perspective about life
You start waking up happy and doing what you love
Life makes sense, that’s a relief in itself
You can see you’ve been taking many things too seriously
What’s not to like.
Read this for more benefits you get from evolving: