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6 empowering things you ought to know about disputes.
We’ll shift the power from the other person to you and possibly even see the brighter side.
We all know disputes are a touchy subject and the truth is hard to hear.
Be open to hear it and you’ll find more reasons to laugh at life.
“Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.” ~~ George Burns (1896 – 1996)
Everything in this article empowers YOU.
Note: This information also applies to disputes outside the family. Most disputes are not life-threatening, but in cases of physical abuse or threats, never take it lightly. Act to stop it. Still use this information to empower yourself and avoid it in the future.
This is part 1 of a 3-part series:
Coming Through Family Disputes Peacefully and More Empowered
6 Empowering Things to Learn About Disputes
1. You Enjoy the Dispute
Like I said, the truth is hard to hear; don’t let that deter you. Most people relish a dispute yet deny it because they’re unaware they’re enjoying it. You’re not alone.
Why do you enjoy a dispute?
The emotions arising from a dispute act like a drug. Weird maybe, but emotions are really chemicals, like drugs. We’re addicted to and take pleasure in the “hit” from the emotion.
What emotions give you a “hit”?
- You get to feel sorry for yourself
- You see the situation as unfair and a betrayal
- You get to blame the person for the situation
- You can dream up vengeful ways to get back at them
- You get to criticize the person with your friends (the list goes on)
Deep down all this feels delicious.
BUT, bitterness, revenge and injustice hurt YOU. They don’t strengthen, they weaken you. And you don’t get what you want. They create diseases and put your life on hold.
“It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.” ~~ Wayne Dyer
Contemplate this. If you stay with me, you’re already on track to greater empowerment.
2. Use Disputes as an Asset
One of your main purposes on Earth is to evolve, to rise above all those heavy emotions in point #1.
What’s one of the best ways to evolve?
Through relationships. They actually help you evolve – if you let them. We teach each other.
Why would you want to evolve?
When you do:
- You gain control over your how your life turns out
- Life becomes exciting, fun and you’re more relaxed
- Nice things just happen to you
- You’re a far more interesting person
- You meet interesting, happy people
- You gain a bright new perspective about life
- You start waking up happy and doing what you love
- Life makes sense, that’s a relief in itself
- You can see you’ve been taking many things too seriously
What’s not to like.
Read this for more benefits you get from evolving:
3. This Person is one Of Your Teachers
That idea may drive you nuts. But that’s the truth again – hard to hear.
It’s common to dislike the person who is your teacher, however your teacher may be your very loving partner too : -) Anyone who is bothering you is your teacher – even your child.
“It is difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself” ~~ Abraham Lincoln
Start seeing this person only as a teacher, someone acting without malice – regardless of how it seems.
See them as giving you a gift.
Even if you can’t see it now, disputes often create ways to bring us closer together – closer than ever before. Imagine one day being thankful for the dispute. Now we’re talking.
Keep in mind, only a strong person can resolve a dispute.
As you keep reading and gathering knowledge, you’re choosing to be a strong, wise person.
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