Family Disputes: Tips to Laugh More, Cry Less (Part 1 of 3)

“I’LL PICK OUT THE GOOD POINTS & IMITATE THEM, THE BAD POINTS & CORRECT THEM IN MYSELF.”
(smart fellow)

6 empowering things you ought to know about disputes.

We’ll shift the power from the other person to you and possibly even see the brighter side.

We all know disputes are a touchy subject and the truth is hard to hear.

Be open to hear it and you’ll find more reasons to laugh at life.

“Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.”  ~~ George Burns (1896 – 1996)

Everything in this article empowers YOU.

Note: This information also applies to disputes outside the family. Most disputes are not life-threatening, but in cases of physical abuse or threats, never take it lightly. Act to stop it. Still use this information to empower yourself and avoid it in the future.

This is part 1 of a 3-part series:
Coming Through Family Disputes Peacefully and More Empowered

6 Empowering Things to Learn About Disputes

1. You Enjoy the Dispute

Like I said, the truth is hard to hear; don’t let that deter you. Most people relish a dispute yet deny it because they’re unaware they’re enjoying it. You’re not alone.

Why do you enjoy a dispute?

The emotions arising from a dispute act like a drug. Weird maybe, but emotions are really chemicals, like drugs. We’re addicted to and take pleasure in the “hit” from the emotion.

What emotions give you a “hit”?

  • You get to feel sorry for yourself
  • You see the situation as unfair and a betrayal
  • You get to blame the person for the situation
  • You can dream up vengeful ways to get back at them
  • You get to criticize the person with your friends (the list goes on)

Deep down all this feels delicious.

BUT, bitterness, revenge and injustice hurt YOU. They don’t strengthen, they weaken you. And you don’t get what you want. They create diseases and put your life on hold.

“It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.”  ~~ Wayne Dyer

Contemplate this. If you stay with me, you’re already on track to greater empowerment.

2. Use Disputes as an Asset

One of your main purposes on Earth is to evolve, to rise above all those heavy emotions in point #1.

What’s one of the best ways to evolve?

Through relationships. They actually help you evolve – if you let them. We teach each other.

Why would you want to evolve?

When you do:

  • You gain control over your how your life turns out
  • Life becomes exciting, fun and you’re more relaxed
  • Nice things just happen to you
  • You’re a far more interesting person
  • You meet interesting, happy people
  • You gain a bright new perspective about life
  • You start waking up happy and doing what you love
  • Life makes sense, that’s a relief in itself
  • You can see you’ve been taking many things too seriously

What’s not to like.

Read this for more benefits you get from evolving:

3. This Person is one Of Your Teachers

That idea may drive you nuts. But that’s the truth again – hard to hear.

It’s common to dislike the person who is your teacher, however your teacher may be your very loving partner too : -) Anyone who is bothering you is your teacher – even your child.

“It is difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself” ~~ Abraham Lincoln

Start seeing this person only as a teacher, someone acting without malice – regardless of how it seems.

See them as giving you a gift.

Even if you can’t see it now, disputes often create ways to bring us closer together – closer than ever before. Imagine one day being thankful for the dispute. Now we’re talking.

Keep in mind, only a strong person can resolve a dispute.

As you keep reading and gathering knowledge, you’re choosing to be a strong, wise person.

4. Why the Dispute Helps You Evolve & Become Happier

What part of us needs evolving? Continue reading “Family Disputes: Tips to Laugh More, Cry Less (Part 1 of 3)”

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Are You Stuck in a Rut? Get the Confidence and Life You Want

Do you want to have fun, confidence and purpose in your life?

People do stagnate.

The question is:

Would you even know if it’s happened to you?

Sometimes we’re asleep and in a rut and don’t even know it.

How to Tell if You’re Stuck in a Rut

Being stuck in a rut means something different to everyone.

Your clue is how you’re feeling about life.

If your life is inspirational and you’re feeling confident and enthusiastic, you’re fine.

And if you do feel that way and yet you’re still reading this article, that’s brilliant.

Why?

Because life can always be even more amazing than it is now – and a part of you knows that.

Why not have it all?

Your potentials are infinite and it’s by continuing to open new avenues in your life that life stays thrilling.

“The only difference between a rut and a grave is how deep it is.”

~~ Charles Garfield

You’re stuck in a rut if you are experiencing boredom, hopelessness, anxiety, frustration or all of them.

You ought to act now and change your life otherwise you’ll become depressed or even create dis-eases in your body.

Read on to find out how to change your life, give your life purpose and even more ‘zing’.

Learn Something New – Because When You Stop Learning You Get Stuck in a Rut

When someone stops learning, their ideas become old and they start rejecting anything new. Their life starts to deteriorate and they start to live in fear.

They lose confidence.

If you try teaching them a new concept, it’s possible they’ll attack you.

They feel threatened by ‘the new’. They are comfortable in their stagnation; they are even comfortable if miserable.

The familiar is preferable and safe to them.

To get out of a rut and stop stagnation you require determination and it‘s vital that you remove boredom, frustration and hopelessness from your life.

How do you do that?

Easily: do something different.

And your first step is self-improvement. Learn something new for you. It can be anything new to you, but note you’re not after new clothes, a new car or house.

They probably got you into the rut.

Choose something that builds confidence, a new skill that interests you etc.

To help you decide what you want, my book How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That gives you all you need to find new things that interest you, and to build confidence and easily get out of that rut.

How to Jump onto an Exciting Path and Have Fun

What do you need to keep life interesting and fresh, to have fun and confidence? Continue reading “Are You Stuck in a Rut? Get the Confidence and Life You Want”

What is the One Key to Confidence and a Happy Life?

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The inner workings of life come down to a single key fact: that you create what you think. After reading “Just Like That !” you’ll understand what this phrase entails and will be able to apply the concept in order to get what you want out of your life; to have confidence and live a happy life.

I wrote “Just Like That !” because after 20 years research I thought everyone should know about this one powerful key and to know how easy it is to have a happy life.

Read “Just Like That !” to Get Anything You Want

Once you’ve learned the following through reading the book…

a) how life works
b) how to overcome fear, remove confusion, frustration, anger and boredom in your life
c) how to use powerful thoughts to get anything you want in relationships, money, health, friends, career, confidence, happiness etc.

…then this website gives you even more self-improvement and confidence tips and acts as an extension of the book.

See my latest posts on this page.

Free Your Own Spirit and Then Help Others

The premise of the book is to show you why you must consider yourself the most important figure in your life, that this isn’t selfish, but rather a selfless move. It gives you the confidence to do so. You will be able to free your spirit and help others without need for reward.

You Control How Your Life Turns Out

You are already creating your life, learn how to do it with purpose and have control over what happens in your life.

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How to Be Happy and Love Your Life

The simple answer to being happy and loving your life?

Keep evolving.

The more expansive your mind, the happier you are.

The good news is that you can’t unlearn what you already know.

Once the light is turned on you can’t turn it off.

Once your mind has been opened to a new concept it is forever expanded; it can’t return to what it was.

And your mind keeps expanding.

You can’t feign ignorance and say, ‘oh, but I didn’t know’.

You do know.

Everything you learn you keep forever, even more so once you have applied it in your life and lived it. Nothing is ever wasted.

Understanding Life Makes You Feel Good

Once you’ve started to expand your understanding and awareness about life, you will forever be more open-minded. This is something to be treasured and is rare. An open mind is your key to confidence, a happy life, to becoming a greater person and to getting what you want.

Nature Keeps Evolving and So Should You

It’s the natural order of the universe to keep evolving. Nature does it and so should you. You can’t go backward, even though you may try – such as by living in regret or worrying about the past. Read: The 5 Hazards of Obsessing About the Past

What Happens if You Stop Evolving?

You may however, stagnate. You might ask why. If you rarely learn anything new, it becomes a habit to reject the new. Your mind closes. This leads to boredom, discouragement, frustration and hopelessness. If you are willing to open your mind, you’ll transport yourself into an exciting, interesting, fulfilling life. You’ll have fun.

Learning is Your First Step to a Happy Life, Second is to Apply It

  1. To keep going forward, it’s a must that you learn something new. The more you understand about life the more expansive your life. If you want a new idea, it must come from somewhere. Continue reading “How to Be Happy and Love Your Life”