Say YES to Being the STAR of Your Life!

STEP UP & DO WHAT YOU LOVE
STEP UP & DO WHAT YOU LOVE

“All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players.”
~~ William Shakespeare

If that’s true, have you asked yourself the role you’re playing and who wrote your script?

Sadly, it most likely wasn’t you.

Few people know to write out their own script and participate fully in their own movie.

Most people are extras in other people’s movies!

There’s no fun in that.

This is where life is simple. All you need to do is understand a few fundamentals.

Here is the NUMBER ONE fundamental to understanding life:

You’re designed to create and live a life YOU love and to star CENTRE STAGE.

That’s it.

If you’re not creating your own life that then deep down you may feel the following:

  • Hollow
  • Empty
  • Dissatisfied
  • Frustrated
  • Angry
  • Depressed

Do you feel any of that?

So, why do so many people NOT create their life and instead live as an extra in someone else’s movie?

Again it’s simple. Culturally our “role” is programmed into us i.e. to put others first, make others happy and do what our family and society expect of us.

That programming is false but it’s SO deep, we have no idea we’ve been programmed.
People will even defend these rules as if they created them!

I write so many articles about this because we need to hear this “outrageous alternative” over and over before anything shifts.

You believed that old, false programming because it was passed down for generations; it’s in your genetics.
Then it was drummed into you daily for decades; it surrounds you environmentally.

Notice the technique? Repetition.

If repetition installed the old programming, why not use that same technique to re-program you for TRUTH!

You’re designed to live a life you love.

Science even backs this up for those who fear this new concept, but for most people this does ring true somehow, even if it sounds scary!

So, where to now? Okay, let the fun begin!

The fun is in creating the story YOU want.

Step 1.
Are you willing to contemplate what you want?

That’s the “hardest” part.

Most people are not willing to dream, which means no surprises if nothing changes.

Look at your story. Look at your life right now. Look at your results.

Are you happy with them?

Let’s play.

If you had ALL the time, money and resources what would you change, remove, or add to this story to make it more fabulous or exactly what you want?

Don’t tell anyone once you’ve done that!

I mean it. If you’ve dreamed something new and awesome for you, then you CAN HAVE it. But most people don’t have this information.

They’ll destroy your dream in a nanosecond by saying you’re nuts.

So keep it to yourself for now and hold it to you like a treasure.

Step 2: Imagine you’re already living this story.
What would you be doing every day?
If you could have what you want (and you can) what’s the first step you’d take to make it happen?

Step 3: Your first few actions will be obvious to you, if you’re open to see them.
Start taking action, even if it’s one new action a week.

Step 4: Look for the next action, once those actions are done. It will be revealed.

You’ll keep moving forward until one day suddenly you’re living the life you imagined.

It’s your story and you are the STAR : )

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This is Janet Poole; I believe in finding better ways to live your life and grow your business.

I believe in sharing those ideas!

Better Ways. More Freedom.

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7 Things Happy People Do – They Put Themselves First (Part 3 of 7)

Candle relaxPut yourself first.

I know I know that’s supposed to be taboo.

And therefore a great reason to challenge it : -)

Putting yourself first is logical when you know why.

If you want scientific proof then I have that too.

If the idea sounds tempting then I say, good for you.

It’s 4 years since this blog post was written.
As of 2016, it’s my 4th most popular blog post.
It shows many of us are asking questions about what we’re “allowed” to have.
We have a yearning for truth.

Imagine if we ALL had permission to do what’s right for us, to follow our passions. Everyone would be happier, correct?

This is part 3 of a 7-part series: Things Happy People Do.

Key #1 is Happy People Have an Open Mind.
Key #2 is Happy People Love to Learn.

Let’s get started on #3.

Key #3:

Happy People Put Themselves First

Putting yourself first means you can follow your passion.

It’s the difference between waking up and savouring the idea of the day ahead and bouncing out of bed yelling, “Oh yea!” versus groaning, “Ugh, and now I have to get up…”!

“Nothing is as important as passion. No matter what you want to do with your life, be passionate.”

Jon Bon Jovi

Would You Even Know You’re Putting Others First?

Putting others first is a program so drilled into us as children it becomes part of who we are.

Then someone (that would be me) shocks us with “put yourself first !” and we draw back in horror.

So how does putting others first play out in our life?

It means we rarely do what we want.

We spend our life trying to please our family and friends and be accepted by our peers. We do what is popular, we try to fit in, we never offend (a serious no-no), we try to impress others and appear successful and yes, we even try to appear happy.

Does feeling obligated to please others and having to constantly appear successful make you happy?
No.

Most people consider this selfish… it’s not.

Why?

That Scientific Proof You Wanted

1. Quantum physicists have proved that you can only create your own reality – by what you think and how you choose to live your life.

You don’t create someone else’s reality – you can only create yours.

2. Take that one step further and you’ll see you can’t make someone else happy; why some people are never satisfied no matter how hard you try.

3. And one more step – the flip side: You can’t expect others to make you happy.

It’s all about YOU. You make it happen for YOU.

You’ll Become More Generous and Loving

Just because you put yourself first doesn’t mean you skip your responsibilities and stop loving your children. Nor do you become selfish, nasty or greedy. You’re human: you’ll always care for others. You become even more generous, patient and loving. And you’re empowering yourself and others. Life is brilliant!

Tell me, would you rather be around someone who is vibrantly happy and inspirational or someone who is exhausted and disgruntled after years of self-sacrifice… and of course trying their best to mask it? You decide.

My Time as a Stay-at-Home Mother

Women with children surely face one of the toughest challenges to feel okay about putting themselves first.

When I was a SAHM, I was desperate for me time. So were my friends.

It didn’t help that I had no family in Australia, my daughter had started school and I had a very lively active (adorable!) 3yo son who had moved on from his afternoon naps.

Back then I didn’t know about putting myself first.

Achieving Me Time

So how did I handle the situation back then?

I must have had inkling of how important this was because I chose to put my son in childcare 5 hours on a Wednesday.

This meant I could get a cup of coffee by myself or even chop vegetables for dinner uninterrupted!

I didn’t even want to catch up with friends – I just wanted to be alone.

My son hated childcare.

The first few months were fine and he always had a lot of fun once there, but he started objecting every Wednesday morning. I persevered a little longer because I knew I was a better, more patient mother with me time.

I stopped the childcare because my son was becoming more distraught, however those 6 months gave me what I needed. He started kindergarten soon after and I got a few hours to myself.

How Can Your Attitude Help You?

You don’t have to logically work out how to put yourself first. Merely understand that you’re entitled to do so and Continue reading “7 Things Happy People Do – They Put Themselves First (Part 3 of 7)”

Are You Stuck in a Rut? Get the Confidence and Life You Want

Do you want to have fun, confidence and purpose in your life?

People do stagnate.

The question is:

Would you even know if it’s happened to you?

Sometimes we’re asleep and in a rut and don’t even know it.

How to Tell if You’re Stuck in a Rut

Being stuck in a rut means something different to everyone.

Your clue is how you’re feeling about life.

If your life is inspirational and you’re feeling confident and enthusiastic, you’re fine.

And if you do feel that way and yet you’re still reading this article, that’s brilliant.

Why?

Because life can always be even more amazing than it is now – and a part of you knows that.

Why not have it all?

Your potentials are infinite and it’s by continuing to open new avenues in your life that life stays thrilling.

“The only difference between a rut and a grave is how deep it is.”

~~ Charles Garfield

You’re stuck in a rut if you are experiencing boredom, hopelessness, anxiety, frustration or all of them.

You ought to act now and change your life otherwise you’ll become depressed or even create dis-eases in your body.

Read on to find out how to change your life, give your life purpose and even more ‘zing’.

Learn Something New – Because When You Stop Learning You Get Stuck in a Rut

When someone stops learning, their ideas become old and they start rejecting anything new. Their life starts to deteriorate and they start to live in fear.

They lose confidence.

If you try teaching them a new concept, it’s possible they’ll attack you.

They feel threatened by ‘the new’. They are comfortable in their stagnation; they are even comfortable if miserable.

The familiar is preferable and safe to them.

To get out of a rut and stop stagnation you require determination and it‘s vital that you remove boredom, frustration and hopelessness from your life.

How do you do that?

Easily: do something different.

And your first step is self-improvement. Learn something new for you. It can be anything new to you, but note you’re not after new clothes, a new car or house.

They probably got you into the rut.

Choose something that builds confidence, a new skill that interests you etc.

To help you decide what you want, my book How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That gives you all you need to find new things that interest you, and to build confidence and easily get out of that rut.

How to Jump onto an Exciting Path and Have Fun

What do you need to keep life interesting and fresh, to have fun and confidence? Continue reading “Are You Stuck in a Rut? Get the Confidence and Life You Want”

What is the One Key to Confidence and a Happy Life?

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Hi, I’m Janet Poole, author of the book “Just Like That ! How to Get Anything You Want”. The book explains to you the one key to confidence and an extraordinary and happy life, and after acquiring this key you can help yourself and others.

The inner workings of life come down to a single key fact: that you create what you think. After reading “Just Like That !” you’ll understand what this phrase entails and will be able to apply the concept in order to get what you want out of your life; to have confidence and live a happy life.

I wrote “Just Like That !” because after 20 years research I thought everyone should know about this one powerful key and to know how easy it is to have a happy life.

Read “Just Like That !” to Get Anything You Want

Once you’ve learned the following through reading the book…

a) how life works
b) how to overcome fear, remove confusion, frustration, anger and boredom in your life
c) how to use powerful thoughts to get anything you want in relationships, money, health, friends, career, confidence, happiness etc.

…then this website gives you even more self-improvement and confidence tips and acts as an extension of the book.

See my latest posts on this page.

Free Your Own Spirit and Then Help Others

The premise of the book is to show you why you must consider yourself the most important figure in your life, that this isn’t selfish, but rather a selfless move. It gives you the confidence to do so. You will be able to free your spirit and help others without need for reward.

You Control How Your Life Turns Out

You are already creating your life, learn how to do it with purpose and have control over what happens in your life.

Order Your Copy Today and Wake Up Tomorrow Already Greater

To order your own copy of “Just Like That !”, see the left hand side bar:

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Why it’s a Trap for You to Tow the Line

If you want to live a happy life, stop towing the line.

This is part 2 of a 2-part series. Part 1 Do You Think for Yourself? introduced you to the unwritten rules of society and suggested that you probably follow them without realizing it. Towing the line gives you the illusion of a happy life but deep down you feel robbed.

“The reward for conformity was that everyone liked you except yourself.”

~~ Rita Mae Brown (American Writer b. 1944)

This article is a little different to my others in that while it tells you how to become greater, it also delivers to  you the stark reality of towing the line i.e. the downsides… and it is a downward spiral. By reading it I am hoping you will be motivated to take action, to step forward and courageously push aside those rules. To be free to live the happy life of your choosing.

The Hazards of Towing the Line …The 10 Steps to Hitting Rock Bottom in Your Life

Do you recognize this pattern, this downward spiral? (Some parts may seem tinged with sarcasm – that is not the intention. It is however the truth.)

  1. At first, you’ll feel honorable. Initially, this is what you feel by conforming. It’s your (short-term) reward for doing so.
  2. Then you’ll feel accepted as people appear to warm to you and praise you for being such a good person. Praise is a deep need for most people and it makes you believe you’re an essential part of the group, the tribe.
  3. You’ll feel safe, loved and secure because you think the tribe will protect you. You consider yourself to be doing the ‘right thing’ since you’ve made a good impression. Note: Unbeknownst to you, this is the last time you will feel good. At this point you start on the never-ending downward cycle.
  4. It starts to dawn on you that the love and protection you receive is conditional and to keep it you must keep following the rules – you must keep towing the line. Fact: the love and protection are conditional; you subconsciously know this and that there are consequences if you stray. This is where my book Just Like That! comes in. It explains that while there are certainly consequences if you stop towing the line, they pass quickly if Continue reading “Why it’s a Trap for You to Tow the Line”