The Easiest Way to Ensure Your Persistence

Most of us are conditioned to take the path of least resistance even if it means staying miserable.

You see to achieve something big, beautiful and truly worthwhile, especially if it’s something you’ve never done before and have no idea how to do, you are going to need to develop persistence.

The reason for this is that the real purpose of a goal is to grow.

It’s the growth that gives us meaning to life.

But ask anyone on the path of personal growth, it’s not easy.

Personal growth takes courage and persistence. There will often be times when it feels tempting to go back to safety, back to the old and lousy, back to the way things were.

“Those who have cultivated the HABIT of persistence
seem to enjoy insurance against failure”

~~ Napoleon Hill

The worthy goal you’ve selected is your vehicle for growth. It’s the “carrot” urging you forward.

The reason we want your goal to be something truly significant and desirable is because in order to achieve it you ARE going to have to grow.

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Family Disputes: Tips to Laugh More, Cry Less (Part 1 of 3)

“I’LL PICK OUT THE GOOD POINTS & IMITATE THEM, THE BAD POINTS & CORRECT THEM IN MYSELF.”
(smart fellow)

6 empowering things you ought to know about disputes.

We’ll shift the power from the other person to you and possibly even see the brighter side.

We all know disputes are a touchy subject and the truth is hard to hear.

Be open to hear it and you’ll find more reasons to laugh at life.

“Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.”  ~~ George Burns (1896 – 1996)

Everything in this article empowers YOU.

Note: This information also applies to disputes outside the family. Most disputes are not life-threatening, but in cases of physical abuse or threats, never take it lightly. Act to stop it. Still use this information to empower yourself and avoid it in the future.

This is part 1 of a 3-part series:
Coming Through Family Disputes Peacefully and More Empowered

6 Empowering Things to Learn About Disputes

1. You Enjoy the Dispute

Like I said, the truth is hard to hear; don’t let that deter you. Most people relish a dispute yet deny it because they’re unaware they’re enjoying it. You’re not alone.

Why do you enjoy a dispute?

The emotions arising from a dispute act like a drug. Weird maybe, but emotions are really chemicals, like drugs. We’re addicted to and take pleasure in the “hit” from the emotion.

What emotions give you a “hit”?

  • You get to feel sorry for yourself
  • You see the situation as unfair and a betrayal
  • You get to blame the person for the situation
  • You can dream up vengeful ways to get back at them
  • You get to criticize the person with your friends (the list goes on)

Deep down all this feels delicious.

BUT, bitterness, revenge and injustice hurt YOU. They don’t strengthen, they weaken you. And you don’t get what you want. They create diseases and put your life on hold.

“It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.”  ~~ Wayne Dyer

Contemplate this. If you stay with me, you’re already on track to greater empowerment.

2. Use Disputes as an Asset

One of your main purposes on Earth is to evolve, to rise above all those heavy emotions in point #1.

What’s one of the best ways to evolve?

Through relationships. They actually help you evolve – if you let them. We teach each other.

Why would you want to evolve?

When you do:

  • You gain control over your how your life turns out
  • Life becomes exciting, fun and you’re more relaxed
  • Nice things just happen to you
  • You’re a far more interesting person
  • You meet interesting, happy people
  • You gain a bright new perspective about life
  • You start waking up happy and doing what you love
  • Life makes sense, that’s a relief in itself
  • You can see you’ve been taking many things too seriously

What’s not to like.

Read this for more benefits you get from evolving:

3. This Person is one Of Your Teachers

That idea may drive you nuts. But that’s the truth again – hard to hear.

It’s common to dislike the person who is your teacher, however your teacher may be your very loving partner too : -) Anyone who is bothering you is your teacher – even your child.

“It is difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself” ~~ Abraham Lincoln

Start seeing this person only as a teacher, someone acting without malice – regardless of how it seems.

See them as giving you a gift.

Even if you can’t see it now, disputes often create ways to bring us closer together – closer than ever before. Imagine one day being thankful for the dispute. Now we’re talking.

Keep in mind, only a strong person can resolve a dispute.

As you keep reading and gathering knowledge, you’re choosing to be a strong, wise person.

4. Why the Dispute Helps You Evolve & Become Happier

What part of us needs evolving? Continue reading “Family Disputes: Tips to Laugh More, Cry Less (Part 1 of 3)”

How to Use Problems to Get What You Want

CREATE WHAT YOU WANT

Turn your problem into an opportunity in one easy step:

Start by calling your issue a ‘challenge’ rather than a ‘problem’. You’ll immediately leave behind anxiety and suffering, and find yourself feeling reassured. Perhaps even feeling stimulated and on a new adventure. Read on to learn how to turn challenges into getting what you want.

Let’s explore more deeply into what challenges can do for you. Once you know this you’ll stop running away, you’ll eagerly face them. You’ll embrace future challenges instead of fearing them and you’ll stop getting frustrated, angry or vengeful (we often incorrectly blame others for our issues).

Challenges are an ideal opportunity to:

  • Discover what you really want in your life
  • Learn how to get what you really want.

“Every wall is a door.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson (American lecturer, essayist and poet. Seen as a champion of individualism, 1803 – 1882)

Key Points

  • The hidden message behind every challenge.
  • Discovering your greatest asset to solving your challenge.
  • Finding out what a challenge can teach you.
  • Using a challenge to become happier and get what you want.

A Challenge Says to You, ‘Wake Up!’

A challenge gives you obvious, accurate feedback on what you are currently doing in your life. It provides perspective.

Sometimes you’re asleep in your life, you feel bored, discontented, anxious, and yet are unsure why – or what to do about it.

Challenges turn on the required heat to motivate you to take a closer look at your life, make adjustments and take off in a remarkable new direction.

The more discomfort you feel, the more likely it is that you’ll take action to change your life. Use this to your advantage.

If you let them, challenges are opportunities that propel you toward getting what you want.

How to Solve Your Challenge

The most powerful asset in your life is the thoughts you choose. Quantum physics has proved to us that you experience exactly what you think.

This is the reason we feel empowered by re-labeling a ‘problem’ as a ‘challenge’. You get perspective. You choose whether your life is sad, unfair, tough, or easy, fun and exciting.

Therefore, changing your thoughts can solve your challenge.

But how do you know what you are thinking – how do you know what to change?

Use your challenge as your clue.

In other words:

This challenge IS your current thinking. Use it to draw attention to the thoughts that created it.

Thoughts always precede reality. Here are some ways to pinpoint these thoughts.

7 Steps to Using Challenges as Clues to Get What You Want

1.     Tell yourself, “There is something wonderful in this for me.” (there really is!) Have an intention to discover what the challenge is showing you and what you ought to do instead.

2.     Have the intention to use the challenge for your benefit – to change direction and create the life that you want. This is about YOUR evolution. This is an opportunity to evolve. Resist blaming anyone. This gives away your power. And don’t blame yourself either; that’s futile. Your experiences give you wisdom – use it to create more happiness.

3.     You already have all the answers within you. Stop what you are doing. Don’t wait until your challenge really hurts to stop and do this. Merely give yourself even 15 minutes of doing nothing. You can:

  • Sit quietly and contemplate or
  • Go for a contemplative walk.

Listen for ideas and have a notebook in your pocket to jot them down.

4.     There may be two parts to your answer:

  • One may be an immediate practical solution,
  • The second will be what you can learn from this situation i.e. to evolve and change your destiny.

5.     Create inspirational thoughts by way of affirmations for things you want in your life once you get some ideas, e.g. ‘I have… <insert what you want>’ or ‘I am…<insert what you want>’. You can choose anything you want. Write them on cards to put around your house and say them aloud when you can. The more you align your daily thoughts with these, the more you get what you want.

6.     Read books and articles which teach awareness, happiness and getting what you want.

7.     Never give up. See the quote below – persistence will get you there. Depending on the challenge it may take some time for you to understand the message of the challenge.

“Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.”

Thomas Edison

Note: you may have to hit rock bottom to put in the “effort” to sit quietly; to take action. That is okay although it will be easier on you to act now : -)

So Remember…

You now know challenges are feedback and an opportunity for you and if you allow the idea, they can be a blessing. When you are ready you now have the knowledge.

As you continue to evolve you may face other challenges, but they become easier to handle because you know behind challenges is a reward for you. Let them lead you towards getting what you want.

To learn more about turning problems into fabulous opportunities order HOW TO GET ANYTHING YOU WANT – JUST LIKE THAT! from Amazon.com (Kindle also available).

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The book uses the forgotten truth of ancient wisdom to lift you out of restrictive current beliefs and gives an in-depth step-by-step approach to aligning your thoughts with what you want. It also offers exercises that help integrate the knowledge into your life.

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What Readers and Critics are Saying about How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!

I love that this book tells you that you embrace yourself instead of changing yourself to fit within the world’s idea of how you should be. To be your own person and to love yourself.”

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I have seen a lot of self-help books out there. But generally, they usually say the same thing with different wording. This book is something else entirely. “Just Like That!” is well written and paints a vivid picture for the reader, transporting them to a place of self awareness.”

~~ TeachableMommy.com

It is full of insightful information that will make you re-think what you have learned from this genre in the past. “

~~ Bridget Hopper – Blog.Readaholic.info

See here for more book reviews of How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!

Further Reading:

How to Turn Boredom and Frustration into Happiness

How to Find Purpose in Your Life

Now You Can Overcome Fear and Get What You Want

How to Stop Criticism… Going Out & Coming In

Finding Times Tough? 2 Easy & Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life (Part 3 of 7)

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Finding Times Tough? Make this Easy Change Today to Get Your Happy Life (Part 5 of 7)

Get big results from small changes.

Here’s another simple effective tip to bring about change in your life and to bring in your dream even faster.

This is Part 5 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

An overview of parts 1 – 4 is at the bottom of this post or click below to read.

Part 1 Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life
Part 2 Finding Times Tough? Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want?
Part 3 Finding Times Tough? 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life 
Part 4 Finding Times Tough? Take Action Today to Get Your Happy Life

Tip: Change Your Daily Activities Somehow, Even a Little

If you think about it, what you’ve been thinking and doing most of your life has created your current direction and situation, correct?

Repetition becomes dull and boring.

So change it up.

That is, if you want to change direction.

This simply means change the places you go each day, the roads on which you travel, what you eat, where you buy your coffee… change who you talk to, what you watch and read and even… where you sit at the dinner table.

Only little things, nothing big.

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Albert Einstein (1879 – 1955)

Contemplate what you do each day and pinpoint possible areas to change.

Importantly surround yourself with inspiration: in people, books, movies and/or make time for a hobby that inspires you.

Make conscious changes.

Change Means a New Direction – New is Exciting

By making a few simple changes, you turn yourself to face a new direction. When you face a new direction the view is different, life looks different and parts of it will be new. Voilà. Yes, new opportunities are able to come into view. New is always exciting for us. A happy life is an exciting life.

How to Let Go of Your Old Life to Say Hello to the New Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? Make this Easy Change Today to Get Your Happy Life (Part 5 of 7)”

Why Acquiring Knowledge Gives You Confidence and a Happier Life

Spirituality is reaching frenzied new heights.
It seems that way.

Are you someone who wonders what all the fuss is about?

When I say ‘spirituality’, this is vastly different to religion. Worlds away.

The idea of spirituality encourages freedom of thought and action by following your own unique path to understanding life and forging a way to happiness. Religion usually encourages one to follow rules.

“Awakening begins when a man realizes that he is going nowhere

and does not know where to go.”

Georges Gurdjieff  (Influential spiritual teacher of early 20th century 1866 – 1949)

Many people still struggle to make sense of life, some are bored, some frustrated, some sad and distressed. That’s the main reason I wrote the book “How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!”.

Why Do So Many People Still Struggle to Make Sense of Their Life

A strong spiritual “muscle” makes it easier for you to have a happy life.

Your spiritual muscle turns life’s confusions into clarity, and the darkness into light. And once you have clarity and light, you have greater confidence; something you’ll always keep.

For many their spiritual muscle is sluggish and under developed.

You’ve heard the term “use it or lose it”, the more you exercise a muscle the stronger it gets. It is the same with your spiritual muscle.

How do You Strengthen Your Spiritual Muscle?

All it takes to start is to put in a little effort to acquire knowledge about life.

While it is most helpful for you to learn about how life works, how thought works, the brain, body, emotions etc, if that doesn’t yet appeal, then start by acquiring any knowledge that is new to you.

Life” after all is everything, so your topic can be anything.

The idea is to get yourself to open to new ideas and acquire new knowledge.

“If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability.

Henry Ford (1863 – 1947)

How do You Acquire Knowledge?

You may have found yourself wondering how something works, how to develop your skill in a certain part of your life, or to explore a new hobby.

If so follow-up on it.

Otherwise discuss ideas with a friend or choose a moment to contemplate.

If it’s hard to find time to contemplate, use moments such as before you get out of your car at home. Sit there for a few minutes pondering life.

Effort? Uh Oh.

As with exercising your body, you need a little effort to exercise your spiritual muscle.

If it’s been underutilized it will probably need a little coaxing and this is normal.

Stick with it. The rewards are HUGE, so it’s worth doing.

“Those at the top of the mountain didn’t fall there.”

Author Unknown

The first step is the hardest but the good news is that the spiritual muscle has hidden secrets. Continue reading “Why Acquiring Knowledge Gives You Confidence and a Happier Life”