Finding Times Tough? Do You Destroy What You Want When it Arrives? (Part 7 of 7)

Sunset Dec 2011This story is surprisingly common.

The day arrives and you get what you want.

Do you celebrate and accept it?

Or are you suspicious of it, do you shake your head in disbelief?

Most people question and doubt the outcome!

If you are someone who doubts, then catch yourself, stop it and just accept the good fortune that YOU created.

 “Circumstances – what circumstances? I make circumstances.”

~~ Napoleon Bonaparte (1769-1821)

This is Part 7 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

In parts 1 – 6, you learned

  • how to take charge of your life
  • the benefits of taking responsibility for your life
  • how to turn your life around
  • how to take action
  • an easy way to start letting go of your old life
  • how to act as if you already have the life you want

…to move yourself into a new exciting and happy life.

Don’t Question It – It’s Yours

Sometimes what we want arrives quite suddenly as if from nowhere, and it surprises us. Out of the blue we go from not having, to having. Perhaps it’s the suddenness that causes suspicion and bewilderment. We find ourselves saying things like, ‘Now that’s weird, how can this be happening?’

My advice is: When you get what you want, be very aware of your reaction. Don’t say, ‘I don’t believe it’ or ‘Okay yeah, but what about all my other problems’.

We do this even in everyday situations such as hearing nothing after a job interview but after calling the organization discover the job is yours. A few things don’t add up and you’re tempted to find fault with the process or become suspicious about what took place. Don’t, just allow it. Be thankful.

Instead you can ‘blame’ the following – i.e. that you:

– had a can-do attitude
(see part 1 How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life)
– took responsibility for your life
(see part 2 Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want?)
– decided what you wanted
(see part 3 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life)
– took action
(see part 4 Take Action Today to Get Your Happy Life)
– let go of the old to allow the new
(see part 5 Make This Easy Change Today to Get Your Happy Life)
– acted ‘as if’ or pretended you already had what you want
(see part 6 Rebuild Confidence in Yourself Today to Get What You Want)

It’s true – these changed your reality and you moved into a circumstance where you can truly do and have what you want.

If You Question What You’ve Received, it May Disappear

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Finding Times Tough? Re-Build Confidence in Yourself Today and Get What You Want (Part 6 of 7)

In tough times your confidence can get a little shaky.

Be assured this is only temporary because confidence is directly controlled by your thoughts.

By giving yourself appropriate thoughts and a new perspective you’ll re-build your confidence.

This is Part 6 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

In parts 1 – 5, you learned

  • how to take charge of your life
  • the benefits of taking responsibility for your life
  • how to turn your life around
  • how to take action
  • an easy way to start letting go of your old life

…to bring in a new exciting and happy life.

“The frontier between hell and heaven is only the difference between two ways of looking at things.

~~George Bernard Shaw (1856 – 1950)

It’s as Simple as Pretending

Pretending you’ve already got what you want is a trick you can play on your brain.

It may sound ridiculous but once you know how the brain works it makes sense.

Keep this up and it becomes true.

It helps to slowly and repeatedly say affirmations such as, ‘I now have (….insert what you want….)’.

See each word separately in your mind.
Write out the sentences a few times and place them around your home and workstation.

Even if you disagree or doubt it the first few times, these words fire neurons in your brain, your brain believes them and they build your confidence.

A glimmer of hope develops in you. Do it and you’ll see.

As you repeat these and the neurons in your brain continue to fire the words, a new world of opportunity starts to open up and your confidence gains momentum.

It starts to be real.
Opportunities appear in your life as if from nowhere and you feel different.

Note: This article is also a good follow on from Part 3 – Finding Times Tough? 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life.

If You Want to, Allow the Feelings of Despair – But Only For a While

If you feel desperate, allow those feelings and be conscious you’re allowing them.

This is to allow yourself to have this experience.

Then stand up straight with your shoulders back and decide that’s enough. Wallowing in despair is easy and comfortable in contrast to being strong.

Being strong isn’t easy but it will take you to the other side of tough times and a happy life. Being strong aligns you with a path that opens up new opportunities… so be ready for them.

New opportunities can’t appear if you are wallowing in self-pity. You’ll never see the opportunity from down there.

Knowledge helps you become strong, it gives you security. Keep up with your learning about how life works.

When Your Opportunities Arrive Acknowledge Them

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Finding Times Tough? Make this Easy Change Today to Get Your Happy Life (Part 5 of 7)

Get big results from small changes.

Here’s another simple effective tip to bring about change in your life and to bring in your dream even faster.

This is Part 5 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

An overview of parts 1 – 4 is at the bottom of this post or click below to read.

Part 1 Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life
Part 2 Finding Times Tough? Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want?
Part 3 Finding Times Tough? 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life 
Part 4 Finding Times Tough? Take Action Today to Get Your Happy Life

Tip: Change Your Daily Activities Somehow, Even a Little

If you think about it, what you’ve been thinking and doing most of your life has created your current direction and situation, correct?

Repetition becomes dull and boring.

So change it up.

That is, if you want to change direction.

This simply means change the places you go each day, the roads on which you travel, what you eat, where you buy your coffee… change who you talk to, what you watch and read and even… where you sit at the dinner table.

Only little things, nothing big.

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Albert Einstein (1879 – 1955)

Contemplate what you do each day and pinpoint possible areas to change.

Importantly surround yourself with inspiration: in people, books, movies and/or make time for a hobby that inspires you.

Make conscious changes.

Change Means a New Direction – New is Exciting

By making a few simple changes, you turn yourself to face a new direction. When you face a new direction the view is different, life looks different and parts of it will be new. Voilà. Yes, new opportunities are able to come into view. New is always exciting for us. A happy life is an exciting life.

How to Let Go of Your Old Life to Say Hello to the New Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? Make this Easy Change Today to Get Your Happy Life (Part 5 of 7)”

Finding Times Tough? Take Action Today to Get Your Happy Life (Part 4 of 7)

“Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence.
Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear.
Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow.

But any action is better than no action at all.

~~ Norman Vincent Peale

(American Protestant Clergyman and Writer 1893-1993)

This is Part 4 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

Part 1 Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life teaches you:
– How to take charge of your life
– A simple way to gain confidence

Part 2 Finding Times Tough? Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want? explains:
– What taking responsibility for the state of your life means
– And what’s in it for you

Part 3 Finding Times Tough? 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life explains how to:
Find wisdom and gain confidence from tough times
– 2 steps that will start your happy life
– How to get a 22-step recipe for your happy life

Okay, so you’ve decided what you want and you now have a story describing your ideal life.

That’s terrific because you need to know what you want.
Imagine driving your car not knowing what direction you’re going in.

Now what comes next?

Take Action to Get What You Want

When I first started intentionally creating what I wanted, I’d sit back and wait.

I didn’t know any better. And ultimately I got what I wanted just by writing a story or making a list of what I wanted, as suggested in Part 3 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life .

But today I know the benefits of taking action and I also enjoy taking action.

I’ve found I have more fun along the way – my journey is more exciting, I overcome more fears, develop greater confidence in what I’m doing and my result becomes even greater.

Why Does Taking Action Help?

Humans carry a lot of baggage.

We all have baggage.

This baggage can weigh us down, distract us, create fear, cause doubts and delay our ideal future.

By saturating your life every day with this new future, it keeps you aligned to your goal – it releases that baggage and keeps you motivated and on track.

What Benefits Do You Get By Taking Action? Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? Take Action Today to Get Your Happy Life (Part 4 of 7)”

Finding Times Tough? 2 Easy & Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life (Part 3 of 7)

Only two easy steps to start your happy life?

That’s correct:

they help you imagine your fabulous future, they’re effective and the mere act of doing them starts to change your life and give you more of what you want.

This is Part 3 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

Part 1 Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life teaches you:
– How to take charge of your life
– A simple way to gain confidence

Part 2 Finding Times Tough? Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want? explains:
– What taking responsibility for the state of your life means
– And what’s in it for you

“The block of granite, which was an obstacle in the path of the weak, becomes a stepping stone in the path of the strong.”

~~ Thomas Carlyle

(Scottish Historian and Essayist 1795-1881)

An Excellent Way to Discover a Golden Opportunity

As mentioned in part 1 Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life, tough times create an opportunity for you.

It’s likely they cause you to slow down or allow you to pause a little longer than usual. We’re often moving so fast in our lives, we don’t even realize we need a change in direction.

Slowing down or being forced to allows you to reflect, time to ponder and this window could be enough to jolt you into thinking differently about life.

You may discover a golden opportunity sitting right there before you, something you otherwise may have missed. It usually works that way and that is the blessing.

If you choose to see tough times as a blessing, that’s what they’ll be.

Attitude is thought and a useful attitude can turn around any situation.

One Day You’ll Look Back and See How These Tough Times Helped You

Before we get started on these two easy steps, let’s give you a head start:

Imagine yourself one day looking back at this moment, saying:

“How fortunate those tough times were for me because without them I wouldn’t have made those changes in my life.

I wouldn’t have the wisdom or confidence I have now, it’s because I faced those times that I’ve done so much more in my life and I’m now so much happier.”

I’ve been known to say exactly that, even when my situation has been awful and perhaps you have too.

So, decide now that your current situation will also be that way.

Use this opportunity to ponder and reflect, and to decide what you want.

And then read on to find out how to leave tough times behind.

2 Easy Effective Steps to Your Happy Life Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? 2 Easy & Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life (Part 3 of 7)”