Finding Times Tough? Do You Destroy What You Want When it Arrives? (Part 7 of 7)

Sunset Dec 2011This story is surprisingly common.

The day arrives and you get what you want.

Do you celebrate and accept it?

Or are you suspicious of it, do you shake your head in disbelief?

Most people question and doubt the outcome!

If you are someone who doubts, then catch yourself, stop it and just accept the good fortune that YOU created.

 “Circumstances – what circumstances? I make circumstances.”

~~ Napoleon Bonaparte (1769-1821)

This is Part 7 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

In parts 1 – 6, you learned

  • how to take charge of your life
  • the benefits of taking responsibility for your life
  • how to turn your life around
  • how to take action
  • an easy way to start letting go of your old life
  • how to act as if you already have the life you want

…to move yourself into a new exciting and happy life.

Don’t Question It – It’s Yours

Sometimes what we want arrives quite suddenly as if from nowhere, and it surprises us. Out of the blue we go from not having, to having. Perhaps it’s the suddenness that causes suspicion and bewilderment. We find ourselves saying things like, ‘Now that’s weird, how can this be happening?’

My advice is: When you get what you want, be very aware of your reaction. Don’t say, ‘I don’t believe it’ or ‘Okay yeah, but what about all my other problems’.

We do this even in everyday situations such as hearing nothing after a job interview but after calling the organization discover the job is yours. A few things don’t add up and you’re tempted to find fault with the process or become suspicious about what took place. Don’t, just allow it. Be thankful.

Instead you can ‘blame’ the following – i.e. that you:

– had a can-do attitude
(see part 1 How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life)
– took responsibility for your life
(see part 2 Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want?)
– decided what you wanted
(see part 3 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life)
– took action
(see part 4 Take Action Today to Get Your Happy Life)
– let go of the old to allow the new
(see part 5 Make This Easy Change Today to Get Your Happy Life)
– acted ‘as if’ or pretended you already had what you want
(see part 6 Rebuild Confidence in Yourself Today to Get What You Want)

It’s true – these changed your reality and you moved into a circumstance where you can truly do and have what you want.

If You Question What You’ve Received, it May Disappear

When you question, it means Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? Do You Destroy What You Want When it Arrives? (Part 7 of 7)”

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Finding Times Tough? Re-Build Confidence in Yourself Today and Get What You Want (Part 6 of 7)

In tough times your confidence can get a little shaky.

Be assured this is only temporary because confidence is directly controlled by your thoughts.

By giving yourself appropriate thoughts and a new perspective you’ll re-build your confidence.

This is Part 6 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

In parts 1 – 5, you learned

  • how to take charge of your life
  • the benefits of taking responsibility for your life
  • how to turn your life around
  • how to take action
  • an easy way to start letting go of your old life

…to bring in a new exciting and happy life.

“The frontier between hell and heaven is only the difference between two ways of looking at things.

~~George Bernard Shaw (1856 – 1950)

It’s as Simple as Pretending

Pretending you’ve already got what you want is a trick you can play on your brain.

It may sound ridiculous but once you know how the brain works it makes sense.

Keep this up and it becomes true.

It helps to slowly and repeatedly say affirmations such as, ‘I now have (….insert what you want….)’.

See each word separately in your mind.
Write out the sentences a few times and place them around your home and workstation.

Even if you disagree or doubt it the first few times, these words fire neurons in your brain, your brain believes them and they build your confidence.

A glimmer of hope develops in you. Do it and you’ll see.

As you repeat these and the neurons in your brain continue to fire the words, a new world of opportunity starts to open up and your confidence gains momentum.

It starts to be real.
Opportunities appear in your life as if from nowhere and you feel different.

Note: This article is also a good follow on from Part 3 – Finding Times Tough? 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life.

If You Want to, Allow the Feelings of Despair – But Only For a While

If you feel desperate, allow those feelings and be conscious you’re allowing them.

This is to allow yourself to have this experience.

Then stand up straight with your shoulders back and decide that’s enough. Wallowing in despair is easy and comfortable in contrast to being strong.

Being strong isn’t easy but it will take you to the other side of tough times and a happy life. Being strong aligns you with a path that opens up new opportunities… so be ready for them.

New opportunities can’t appear if you are wallowing in self-pity. You’ll never see the opportunity from down there.

Knowledge helps you become strong, it gives you security. Keep up with your learning about how life works.

When Your Opportunities Arrive Acknowledge Them

You’ll notice miracles start to happen if Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? Re-Build Confidence in Yourself Today and Get What You Want (Part 6 of 7)”

Finding Times Tough? Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want? (Part 2 of 7)

If you were able to choose and get the life you want, would you do it?

Surprisingly, many people would rather do nothing and continue to complain.

But we’re talking about you here, so if you’d like to choose your life, all you need as a first step is to take responsibility for the life you’ve created so far.

Life is like a game of chess.

Who is responsible for making the decisions in chess?

You are.

Once you take that first step, that simple yet profound choice opens a wonderful new world of opportunity for you.

“No man will succeed unless he is ready to face and overcome difficulties and is prepared to assume responsibilities.”

~~ William J.H. Boetcker

(American religious leader and public speaker 1873–1962)

This is Part 2 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

This article follows closely on the heels of Part 1 Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life . Part 1 teaches you how to take charge of your life and gives you a simple way to gain confidence.

This is the next step in taking charge of your life.

What Does Taking Responsibility Mean?

  • stop blaming other people, government and corporations for your life
  • stop waiting for someone else to tell you what to do
  • stop waiting for someone else to change your life
  • stop waiting for someone else to help you
  • stop feeling sorry for yourself
  • stop allowing ill-health to drive your life
  • start doing whatever it takes to understand why and how you’ve created your life so far
  • decide you are the person who changes your life to what you want

You are the person who creates your life, no-one else.

Just as in a game of chess, take responsibility for the outcome.

In tough times this is probably the last thing you want to hear.

Other people, government and corporations may well have contributed to your issues but bottom line your life is your doing.

And really, would you want it any other way?

Because this is a point of confusion for so many, my book “Just Like That!” fully explains why it is you who creates your life, how to take responsibility for it and what to do to turn it into a life you love. Understanding your involvement is a vital key to overcoming tough times forever.

Even if taking responsibility is hard to do, being the person responsible is actually GOOD NEWS!

Why?

If it is you who’s created your life to this stage it means you can also start today choosing and creating what you truly want. That sounds like great news to me.

You Always Have Free Will – Even if That Means Doing Nothing

You may choose to take this on or you may not.

And that’s okay, perhaps another time.

But the sooner you take responsibility the better it is for you. Obviously.

If you’re not up to it, Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want? (Part 2 of 7)”

Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life (Part 1 of 7)

What if tough times were a blessing?

No way!

Oh yes, they certainly can be.

Okay, at worst let’s say it’s a mixed blessing, but again it’s about
what you think you get‘.

Here’s why they’re a blessing.

Tough times can motivate you to try new ideas and be open to change.

They take you to a cross roads and urge you to open to new ideas – to read articles such as this one.

And that’s great because it means you’re motivated to consider a better life.

Often that’s all you need to actually get one.

“With ordinary talent and extraordinary perseverance, all things are attainable.”

Thomas Fowell Buxton

(Born in Essex, a strong advocate for the abolition of slavery in the British Colonies, 1786-1845)

This is Part 1 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

This series of 7 articles returns the power to you, where it belongs.

Once you’ve read these articles you can decide which way you go – up to your true potential or down to more despair.

How to Take Charge of Your Life in Tough Times and Get a Happy Life

However hard life may seem, decide you’re going to deal with it and not be a victim.

A victim waits in hope for life to become different.

Most of us, both men and women no matter how seemingly strong or successful, play the victim game at some stage.

Yes, even big burly men and tough career women.

Being a victim does have benefits. Very short-term benefits.

You get attention and others feel sorry for you.

All well and good, except that over time being a victim destroys your life.

When I say don’t be a victim, I’m not saying keep a stiff upper lip or suffer in silence either.

I’m saying that a victim is someone who is stuck and dependent on others.

If you’d like an interesting, exciting and happy life, it’s essential you stand up and act toward changing your situation.

This can seem like hard work – in some ways it is.

But no-one can live your life for you or make you happy, and doing this for yourself is hugely rewarding and satisfying.

There is something thrilling in taking charge. Something you’ll only discover once you try it.

If you don’t know what action to take or how to take it, these 7 articles show you how.

The Simplest Way to Take Action

A simple way to take action is to Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life (Part 1 of 7)”