How to Use Problems to Get What You Want


Turn your problem into an opportunity in one easy step:

Start by calling your issue a ‘challenge’ rather than a ‘problem’. You’ll immediately leave behind anxiety and suffering, and find yourself feeling reassured. Perhaps even feeling stimulated and on a new adventure. Read on to learn how to turn challenges into getting what you want.

Let’s explore more deeply into what challenges can do for you. Once you know this you’ll stop running away, you’ll eagerly face them. You’ll embrace future challenges instead of fearing them and you’ll stop getting frustrated, angry or vengeful (we often incorrectly blame others for our issues).

Challenges are an ideal opportunity to:

  • Discover what you really want in your life
  • Learn how to get what you really want.

“Every wall is a door.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson (American lecturer, essayist and poet. Seen as a champion of individualism, 1803 – 1882)

Key Points

  • The hidden message behind every challenge.
  • Discovering your greatest asset to solving your challenge.
  • Finding out what a challenge can teach you.
  • Using a challenge to become happier and get what you want.

A Challenge Says to You, ‘Wake Up!’

A challenge gives you obvious, accurate feedback on what you are currently doing in your life. It provides perspective.

Sometimes you’re asleep in your life, you feel bored, discontented, anxious, and yet are unsure why – or what to do about it.

Challenges turn on the required heat to motivate you to take a closer look at your life, make adjustments and take off in a remarkable new direction.

The more discomfort you feel, the more likely it is that you’ll take action to change your life. Use this to your advantage.

If you let them, challenges are opportunities that propel you toward getting what you want.

How to Solve Your Challenge

The most powerful asset in your life is the thoughts you choose. Quantum physics has proved to us that you experience exactly what you think.

This is the reason we feel empowered by re-labeling a ‘problem’ as a ‘challenge’. You get perspective. You choose whether your life is sad, unfair, tough, or easy, fun and exciting.

Therefore, changing your thoughts can solve your challenge.

But how do you know what you are thinking – how do you know what to change?

Use your challenge as your clue.

In other words:

This challenge IS your current thinking. Use it to draw attention to the thoughts that created it.

Thoughts always precede reality. Here are some ways to pinpoint these thoughts.

7 Steps to Using Challenges as Clues to Get What You Want

1.     Tell yourself, “There is something wonderful in this for me.” (there really is!) Have an intention to discover what the challenge is showing you and what you ought to do instead.

2.     Have the intention to use the challenge for your benefit – to change direction and create the life that you want. This is about YOUR evolution. This is an opportunity to evolve. Resist blaming anyone. This gives away your power. And don’t blame yourself either; that’s futile. Your experiences give you wisdom – use it to create more happiness.

3.     You already have all the answers within you. Stop what you are doing. Don’t wait until your challenge really hurts to stop and do this. Merely give yourself even 15 minutes of doing nothing. You can:

  • Sit quietly and contemplate or
  • Go for a contemplative walk.

Listen for ideas and have a notebook in your pocket to jot them down.

4.     There may be two parts to your answer:

  • One may be an immediate practical solution,
  • The second will be what you can learn from this situation i.e. to evolve and change your destiny.

5.     Create inspirational thoughts by way of affirmations for things you want in your life once you get some ideas, e.g. ‘I have… <insert what you want>’ or ‘I am…<insert what you want>’. You can choose anything you want. Write them on cards to put around your house and say them aloud when you can. The more you align your daily thoughts with these, the more you get what you want.

6.     Read books and articles which teach awareness, happiness and getting what you want.

7.     Never give up. See the quote below – persistence will get you there. Depending on the challenge it may take some time for you to understand the message of the challenge.

“Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.”

Thomas Edison

Note: you may have to hit rock bottom to put in the “effort” to sit quietly; to take action. That is okay although it will be easier on you to act now : -)

So Remember…

You now know challenges are feedback and an opportunity for you and if you allow the idea, they can be a blessing. When you are ready you now have the knowledge.

As you continue to evolve you may face other challenges, but they become easier to handle because you know behind challenges is a reward for you. Let them lead you towards getting what you want.

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The book uses the forgotten truth of ancient wisdom to lift you out of restrictive current beliefs and gives an in-depth step-by-step approach to aligning your thoughts with what you want. It also offers exercises that help integrate the knowledge into your life.

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What Readers and Critics are Saying about How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!

I love that this book tells you that you embrace yourself instead of changing yourself to fit within the world’s idea of how you should be. To be your own person and to love yourself.”


I have seen a lot of self-help books out there. But generally, they usually say the same thing with different wording. This book is something else entirely. “Just Like That!” is well written and paints a vivid picture for the reader, transporting them to a place of self awareness.”


It is full of insightful information that will make you re-think what you have learned from this genre in the past. “

~~ Bridget Hopper –

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Further Reading:

How to Turn Boredom and Frustration into Happiness

How to Find Purpose in Your Life

Now You Can Overcome Fear and Get What You Want

How to Stop Criticism… Going Out & Coming In

Finding Times Tough? 2 Easy & Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life (Part 3 of 7)

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7 Things Happy People Do – They Put Themselves First (Part 3 of 7)

Candle relaxPut yourself first.

I know I know that’s supposed to be taboo.

And therefore a great reason to challenge it : -)

Putting yourself first is logical when you know why.

If you want scientific proof then I have that too.

If the idea sounds tempting then I say, good for you.

It’s 4 years since this blog post was written.
As of 2016, it’s my 4th most popular blog post.
It shows many of us are asking questions about what we’re “allowed” to have.
We have a yearning for truth.

Imagine if we ALL had permission to do what’s right for us, to follow our passions. Everyone would be happier, correct?

This is part 3 of a 7-part series: Things Happy People Do.

Key #1 is Happy People Have an Open Mind.
Key #2 is Happy People Love to Learn.

Let’s get started on #3.

Key #3:

Happy People Put Themselves First

Putting yourself first means you can follow your passion.

It’s the difference between waking up and savouring the idea of the day ahead and bouncing out of bed yelling, “Oh yea!” versus groaning, “Ugh, and now I have to get up…”!

“Nothing is as important as passion. No matter what you want to do with your life, be passionate.”

Jon Bon Jovi

Would You Even Know You’re Putting Others First?

Putting others first is a program so drilled into us as children it becomes part of who we are.

Then someone (that would be me) shocks us with “put yourself first !” and we draw back in horror.

So how does putting others first play out in our life?

It means we rarely do what we want.

We spend our life trying to please our family and friends and be accepted by our peers. We do what is popular, we try to fit in, we never offend (a serious no-no), we try to impress others and appear successful and yes, we even try to appear happy.

Does feeling obligated to please others and having to constantly appear successful make you happy?

Most people consider this selfish… it’s not.


That Scientific Proof You Wanted

1. Quantum physicists have proved that you can only create your own reality – by what you think and how you choose to live your life.

You don’t create someone else’s reality – you can only create yours.

2. Take that one step further and you’ll see you can’t make someone else happy; why some people are never satisfied no matter how hard you try.

3. And one more step – the flip side: You can’t expect others to make you happy.

It’s all about YOU. You make it happen for YOU.

You’ll Become More Generous and Loving

Just because you put yourself first doesn’t mean you skip your responsibilities and stop loving your children. Nor do you become selfish, nasty or greedy. You’re human: you’ll always care for others. You become even more generous, patient and loving. And you’re empowering yourself and others. Life is brilliant!

Tell me, would you rather be around someone who is vibrantly happy and inspirational or someone who is exhausted and disgruntled after years of self-sacrifice… and of course trying their best to mask it? You decide.

My Time as a Stay-at-Home Mother

Women with children surely face one of the toughest challenges to feel okay about putting themselves first.

When I was a SAHM, I was desperate for me time. So were my friends.

It didn’t help that I had no family in Australia, my daughter had started school and I had a very lively active (adorable!) 3yo son who had moved on from his afternoon naps.

Back then I didn’t know about putting myself first.

Achieving Me Time

So how did I handle the situation back then?

I must have had inkling of how important this was because I chose to put my son in childcare 5 hours on a Wednesday.

This meant I could get a cup of coffee by myself or even chop vegetables for dinner uninterrupted!

I didn’t even want to catch up with friends – I just wanted to be alone.

My son hated childcare.

The first few months were fine and he always had a lot of fun once there, but he started objecting every Wednesday morning. I persevered a little longer because I knew I was a better, more patient mother with me time.

I stopped the childcare because my son was becoming more distraught, however those 6 months gave me what I needed. He started kindergarten soon after and I got a few hours to myself.

How Can Your Attitude Help You?

You don’t have to logically work out how to put yourself first. Merely understand that you’re entitled to do so and Continue reading “7 Things Happy People Do – They Put Themselves First (Part 3 of 7)”

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Imagine knowing you can get anything you want. Would that make you feel awesome, powerful and fabulous? It certainly would.

Reach Your Full Potential Now

The time to reach your full potential is now; you’ll have the most exciting and exhilarating time doing it. If you choose to follow your passion, your life becomes astounding and “How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!” shows you exactly how to do it. And if you don’t know your passion, that’s okay because “Just Like That!” helps you find it.

Get Happier, Even If You’re Already Happy

Even if you’re already happy don’t stop there – your life can become even better. Keep growing. Personal growth is one factor that makes life forever interesting and exciting. I’m still learning every day, I’m becoming greater every day and because of this I wake up inspired and enthusiastic every day.

How You Can Win a Copy of the book “Just Like That!”?

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“Just Like That!” was recently reviewed on Couponer101.

The folks at don’t even usually like self-help books, but they said this after reading “Just Like That!”

I’ll have to admit, I’m not a big fan of self help books.  I’ve read quite a few and unfortunately, gleaned very little information from them that truly helped me.  

Believe it or not, I’ve now found one that I really enjoyed AND is very helpful at the same time.

We have all probably heard the phrase, “You have to love yourself before anyone else can love you” – and usually I would say in return, “blah, blah, blah”.  Not so with this book. The author does a fantastic job of helping you discover who you really are and what your weaknesses are. By discovering these things about yourself, you really can start to understand more about your motivations and how what you project, has everything to do with how you are perceived by others….” 

Read more… and see how you can win a copy of “Just Like That!”, by visiting now. Also see the full review of the book “How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!”.

Wake Up to Something Wonderful Every Day

Your growth will gather momentum and take on a life of its own. As your life accelerates even more extraordinary people and opportunities will suddenly appear in your life. Life becomes a wild, eventful ride filled with the best of everything. That’s happening to me now as I learn how to tell more people about “Just Like That!”. It truly is a wild and fun ride.

This Sounds Crazy – Where’s the Proof?

What I’m saying here is proved by quantum physicists. You’ve created the life you have, and you can create the life you want. You are in charge of your life; you can make your life magical.

I’d love you to have the same thrill as I’m having.

Say “Yes” to life and go for it.

The Easiest Way for You to Start Waking up Wonderful?

Simply by reading one book “How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!”; it takes you from the situation you’re in and launches you into a new exciting destiny. Choose whatever you want, or use “Just Like That!” to find out what you want. Then you can just go for it. Order extra copies of “How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!” on – now also on Kindle – or on this site if you live in Australia (see buttons at left).

See what others think of “Just Like That!”:

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Finding Times Tough? Do You Destroy What You Want When it Arrives? (Part 7 of 7)

Sunset Dec 2011This story is surprisingly common.

The day arrives and you get what you want.

Do you celebrate and accept it?

Or are you suspicious of it, do you shake your head in disbelief?

Most people question and doubt the outcome!

If you are someone who doubts, then catch yourself, stop it and just accept the good fortune that YOU created.

 “Circumstances – what circumstances? I make circumstances.”

~~ Napoleon Bonaparte (1769-1821)

This is Part 7 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

In parts 1 – 6, you learned

  • how to take charge of your life
  • the benefits of taking responsibility for your life
  • how to turn your life around
  • how to take action
  • an easy way to start letting go of your old life
  • how to act as if you already have the life you want

…to move yourself into a new exciting and happy life.

Don’t Question It – It’s Yours

Sometimes what we want arrives quite suddenly as if from nowhere, and it surprises us. Out of the blue we go from not having, to having. Perhaps it’s the suddenness that causes suspicion and bewilderment. We find ourselves saying things like, ‘Now that’s weird, how can this be happening?’

My advice is: When you get what you want, be very aware of your reaction. Don’t say, ‘I don’t believe it’ or ‘Okay yeah, but what about all my other problems’.

We do this even in everyday situations such as hearing nothing after a job interview but after calling the organization discover the job is yours. A few things don’t add up and you’re tempted to find fault with the process or become suspicious about what took place. Don’t, just allow it. Be thankful.

Instead you can ‘blame’ the following – i.e. that you:

– had a can-do attitude
(see part 1 How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life)
– took responsibility for your life
(see part 2 Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want?)
– decided what you wanted
(see part 3 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life)
– took action
(see part 4 Take Action Today to Get Your Happy Life)
– let go of the old to allow the new
(see part 5 Make This Easy Change Today to Get Your Happy Life)
– acted ‘as if’ or pretended you already had what you want
(see part 6 Rebuild Confidence in Yourself Today to Get What You Want)

It’s true – these changed your reality and you moved into a circumstance where you can truly do and have what you want.

If You Question What You’ve Received, it May Disappear

When you question, it means Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? Do You Destroy What You Want When it Arrives? (Part 7 of 7)”

8 Steps to a Better and Faster Result by Doing Less

Do you micromanage your life? If so, you’re creating unnecessary tension, worry and you’re interfering with the outcome of your goals. Imagine instead relaxing and knowing only the best happens for you.

This is Part 2 of a 2-Part series – The Secret to Creating Your Dreams Faster by Doing Less.

Key points from Part 1 – 5 Common Ways You Block Your Goals

  • As an example I use a story about a friend Alicia; someone who over-manipulated the sale of her house.
  • 5 common problems you create by manipulating an exact outcome for your goal.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go.

But when you try and try. The world is beyond the winning.”

Lao Tzu

(Chinese Taoist philosopher and founder of Taoism, 600–531 BC)

Vital Key – Benefit From Your Mistakes

Alicia grabbed the first opportunity for selling her house and clung to it. So in order to change that how would she develop her ability to step back and allow all potentials? She’d study, read books and articles, attend courses etc that specialize in creating what we want and she’d learn more about the workings of the quantum field. She’d read articles like this one! My book “How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!” shows you step-by-step how to get what you want in all areas of your life. Learning more about how something works helps you get comfortable doing it, for example once you know more about ‘letting go’ it is easier because it makes more sense.

Once she’d trained herself in letting go, Alicia would initially need to steel herself to resist meddling with the wonderful work of the quantum field, and then as she started to get impressive results, she’d become more relaxed in future goals, knowing only the best always comes her way.

8 Steps to a Better and Faster Result by Doing Less

(here as an example we’re using the sale of a friend’s house)

  1. Contemplate your goal of selling your house. Sit with it; take some time to focus on it…just ponder the goal. Contemplation always brings new insights and you start to align yourself with this goal.
  2. Consider what price you’d like. Always make your price outrageous for this purpose. As outrageous as you’ll allow yourself.
  3. Write a story about selling your house. Write it as if your house is already sold. Describe how easy the sale was. And include how helpful, honest and committed the real estate agents were, how the ideal buyer so effortlessly appeared. Make sure the house sold for way more than you could ever have imagined. Write as if you are on the other side of the sale, imagine you’re having a celebratory champagne with friends, clinking together your glasses. Be passionate and create an exciting story, but leave out ‘how’ the house was sold. By writing the story you effectively launch it into the quantum field and it already starts forming according to your goal. As you move into your future your result will be enhanced – if you allow it.
  4. Take a photograph of the house and place a ‘sold’ sign across it along with your outrageous price. You’ve heard amazing stories about house sales – you can have it too, merely by deciding to and allowing it. Place the photograph where you see it every day. Every day it will start to seem more possible. By doing this you become accustomed to and even more comfortable with getting what you want.
  5. Remain focused and take action when required. Follow up on all opportunities and stay focused on the sale. You may have already said ‘cheers’ with friends in your mind but you must remain focused on what you want all the way through to the actual sale and beyond – until the contract is finalized and money has changed hands . Continue reading “8 Steps to a Better and Faster Result by Doing Less”