Why You Are Never Selfish

Taverna AvliThe reason the word ‘selfish’ exists: most people are not doing what they want to do.

You’re entitled to live the life you were born to live, and so is everyone else.

Why shouldn’t you be happy?

Everyone is entitled to happiness.

If only it were that simple. With billions of people mindlessly following ‘the rules’ of society, it’s a big ask.

Well, we’ll make it simple; we’ll just change the rules.

Yep, the good news is that it’s logical.

You have 2 choices:

1. Start now doing what you want to do

2. Spend your whole life waiting for the right time (which never comes)

It’s said that on their deathbed, most people regret they didn’t do more of what they wanted to do. That’s hardly surprising.

 “Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live; it is asking others to live as one wishes to live”

Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)

Humanity is Stagnating

Fortunately for you, today, you have now discovered a choice. But for the rest of humanity, who are effectively asleep following the rules thinking they have to, this is a sham. We should feel free to do whatever we’re drawn to. Feeling that we’ve got to do what others want is suffocating us and we’re stagnating hoping something better comes along.

Until you start living for you, something better never comes along.

Why Do We Allow Our Happiness to Be Controlled by Others?

We have been taught to put other people’s needs before ours. This is supposed to be a righteous attitude. Um no, it’s not.

The Fear of Being Called Selfish

Our concern is that if we start putting our own needs and dreams before others, we’ll be called selfish or self-centred. Being selfish feels like we’ve failed and failure is one of our biggest fears.

Note: Although it may seem like it, getting what you want is not about ruthlessly lining your own pockets to the detriment of others. It is not greed – you’ve merely been indoctrinated into believing that if you’re happy, it must be at someone else’s expense.

There is enough opportunity for everyone to get what they want. Quantum physics proves that there are always infinite potentials existing simultaneously for all of us.

The irony is that once you allow yourself to do what makes you happy, you naturally bring happiness to others and you naturally do more for others without feeling you have to. If you’re a happy, inspirational person, others enjoy being with you but you can’t be happy and inspirational if you’re emotionally bankrupt.

The question is:

Is it worth sacrificing your dreams (and your happiness) in case you offend someone?

And in fact, the fear is only perceived – we’re always afraid of what might happen. Nothing will happen. There are just too many people to please and if you’re afraid to offend even one of them, you’ll never get what you want.

If Someone Calls You Selfish, Take It as a Compliment

If someone does call you selfish, it means they aren’t free.

They’re locked into conforming to the rules and aren’t getting what they want. They are likely frustrated and perhaps jealous of your freedom and fulfillment.

When you start on this path, there is a potential you’ll offend some people. They want you to stay the same. Be ready for it but it doesn’t mean you are wrong. Ride it out and you’ll reap the rewards on the other side.

It’s actually a good sign if you’re called selfish – it means somewhere along the way you woke up and realized you can do what you want to do. What does it matter anyway, what other people think?

So Remember…

Start today doing what you want to do and you’ll be doing everyone a favor.

Bored, unfulfilled, anxious?

Why not select your other option – fun, laughter and freedom.

Author Janet Poole introduces a layman’s account of quantum physics to clarify how simple it is to get what you want, in her book  How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!.

The book exposes several hidden, entrenched social rules which limit your life and it liberates you from these restrictive beliefs. The book provides an in-depth, practical approach to aligning your thoughts with what you truly want.

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