Not Achieving Your Goal? Check out these 5 life-changing reasons (Reason #1)

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“Without having a goal, it’s difficult to score.”

~~ Paul Arden

It’s the start of a new year so right now there’s a lot of talk about goals out there.

Step 1:
– Have a goal

– Have it written down.

Most people wish for things in a vague way, without intention and wonder why they never achieve them.

Even if you already have a goal, our next step is to assess whether your goal is worthwhile or not.

(see reasons #2, 3, 4 & 5 at the end of this article)

Reason #1:

If your goal isn’t worthwhile, it may not be worth the effort

Why?

Achieving an “unworthy goal”, leaves you dissatisfied, unfulfilled and unhappy. And you won’t know why. It may be because it’s a goal you’ve achieved before, your goal may have been too easy for you or it may even have been someone else’s goal (oops!).

Some people see goal setting as boring. If you’re choosing what I call “ho-hum goals” I’d agree with you.

You see, if it’s a ho-hum goal, it is boring and your results are likely to be as well.

A ho-hum goal is not inspiring.

You’re designed to create something ~~FABULOUS and NEW~~… for you!

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

a) Learn what a great goal is & create one!

b) What is a GREAT goal? Continue reading “Not Achieving Your Goal? Check out these 5 life-changing reasons (Reason #1)”

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Stop Allowing Current Circumstances to Dictate Your Results

Financial Survival NetworkListen now to Janet Poole interviewed today on the Financial Survival Network with Kerry Lutz.

Kerry says, “Janet believes that if you truly understand how life works, there’s no limit to what you can accomplish and to how much you can help others.

Instead of doing what others want and expect from you, it’s far better to start living for yourself and to start creating the life that you want and deserve. There’s really no other way to be happy.”

Listen to Janet Poole and Kerry Lutz (20 minutes) and learn the following:

  • 3 Things you can start DOING TODAY to turn your life around
  • The next vital step whenever you learn something new
  • How to know your purpose in life
  • What is the criteria for a magnificent goal or purpose
  • Why it’s essential to have a purpose you’re passionate about

“Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results.”

~~ Albert Einstein

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What Readers Are Saying:

“I read at least 1 or more chapters in the morning before I get up and before going to sleep. It has inspired me so much to follow my dreams and let things go.

I just wanted to let you know how grateful I am to you for the difference you have made in my life already. I am so excited about my new adventure thanks to you.”

~~ Kylie Evans, Mt Tamborine, QLD

“I felt it touched upon many aspects of life, and didn’t try to preach to me or to provide me with a strict regimen of instruction for bettering myself. It makes you think about self-awareness and I really loved the inspirational quotes that were at the beginning of each chapter.

The book is easy to read, hard to put down at times, in fact.”

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Your Playing Small Does Not Serve The World

SHINE!

It’s true: The best gifts are often free. With the holiday season upon us, I wanted to share with you one of the most moving passages I’ve ever read.

It reappeared in front of me recently as a wonderful surprise when I discovered an inspiring letter from days gone by.

The letter had been sent to me by a team member while I was a manager in the corporate world. We’ll call him Peter. Peter had just completed his contract and was thanking me for the support I’d given him during a rough period of time in the team.

While I’m not including here what Peter wrote, I am including this beautiful passage he attached to the end of his letter:

 “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine, as children do.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,

we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,

our presence automatically liberates others.”

This is an excerpt from the book Return to LoveA Reflection on the Principles of a Course in Miracles by Marianne Williamson. Nelson Mandela also delivered these words in a speech.

How does that make you feel?

I treasure such letters, most of us do. Someone took time out of their day to express appreciation. Most people don’t do that.

I’d appreciated and loved this letter and passage 16 years ago. I love it even more today. Why? Life experience has made me even more appreciative. While I’ve always loved and cared for people, having children created more of a passion.

There is more to this passage than at first glance; this is a deep message.

It’s both inspiring and a challenge at the same time.

Are you playing small?

I believe Peter wanted in turn, to inspire me. When I read these words now, I realize how prophetic they are.

I’d grappled with playing small for many years, yet didn’t know that’s what I was doing. You may discover that too.

It was no coincidence finding this letter and passage again because I feel that every day I comprehend more fully THE FUTILITY OF PLAYING SMALL.

As it turns out, the core message of my book is to:

“Let your OWN light shine…

Become a LIGHT TO THE WORLD,

leading the way for others to do the same…”

They are on the back of my book.

Inspiration is a gift

If the words in that passage fill you with dreams and possibility, then do these beautiful words justice and allow them to move in your life.

My suggestion is print them and read them aloud for maximum effect. Perhaps share this at dinner to inspire your family and friends especially as they prepare for their new year ahead. Inspiration is an eternal gift.

Share it with at least one friend or colleague.  Allow the words to resonate through your being. They are truly moving.

Expressing appreciation is also a beautiful gift

I’m sharing this story for another reason.

When you take the time to thank someone it means so much. You both reap huge rewards.

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By expressing gratitude you move into even more of the fabulous and your letter of appreciation will in turn inspire – more than you’ll ever know.

If you’re ever moved to send someone a thank you letter, don’t second-guess it or ponder it.

JUST DO IT!

Give yourself a gift today

Download the first 3 chapters of How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That! … FREE.

ENJOY your journey to your real and extra-ordinary potential !!!

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Family Gatherings: 7 Steps to Turning a Dispute into What You Want (Part 3 of 3)

CHANGE… IT’S IN YOUR NATURE

Our 2 primary purposes on Earth?

To be happy and have exciting new experiences.

The best way to achieve that is to keep growing, evolving.

Enter relationships! They are one of the main ways we grow. Especially of course when they’re challenging us.

The point being:

A challenging relationship is not a “problem”, it can be AN ASSET.

Have a brilliant time at your family gatherings this year by taking the higher road. Take those disputes and use them to release hidden issues (which dictate your life!) Releasing them opens you to exciting new opportunities.

These 7 steps wrap-up parts 1 & 2, which built the understanding behind disputes. Now you have what you need to use a dispute as a valuable opportunity to transform your life. If you’re someone who wants to become greater follow the 7 steps and look back on the issue as a blessing.

So now, you have the power to create what you want. It’s your choice. You can either have:

  •  a heavy life filled with revenge & justice

OR

  • a free & light-hearted life with anything you want

It may require humility but I promise you, you’ll always win.

(NOTE: This does not involve working this out with the other person – this is ALL ABOUT YOU – as usual : -)

Use this article for any disagreement or where you’re not getting along.

“To truly laugh, you must be able to take your pain and play with it.” ~~ Charlie Chaplin

Whether you do anything about this or not depends on how much this is hurting you.

Enough pain and you’ll act.

This is part 3 of a 3-part series: Coming Through Family Disputes Peacefully and More Empowered.

Part 1 – Family Disputes: Tips to Laugh More, Cry Less. Introduced you to disputes, why you enjoy them and the REWARDS you get when you discover what’s behind them.

Part 2 – 3 Things You’re Doing to Let Others Control You. Ways you inadvertently let others control you. Give yourself a gift of freedom and take back your power.

7 Steps to Using a Dispute to Get What You Want

Steps 1 – 4 may be a challenge. Do them so you can CELEBRATE in steps 5 – 7!

1. KNOWLEDGE FREES

1.     Create the intention to learn about yourself.

The natural state of your Spirit is to learn, to discover – especially about YOU!

Try to put revenge, anger, disappointment aside for these 7 steps. If it seems impossible to learn anything, try saying one of the following sentences to at least get you onto the page:

  • “Is there any way I could be open to the possibility there is something important to learn about myself – even though I’m still angry about what happened?”
  • “I choose to learn something profound about me today.”
  • “What if being open to learning about my role in this, could really change my life?”
  • “Is there a chance my life could become more meaningful by understanding the message in this situation?”

Another idea: Pretend you’re observing someone else with this issue – learn by watching.

“Growth begins when we start to accept our own weakness.”

~~ Jean Vanier (Canadian Catholic philosopher Founder of L’Arche – group homes for people with developmental disabilities b. 1928)

2. LOVE YOURSELF THE WAY YOU ARE

2.     Take a stance of ‘no blame’.

No right and wrong. Not you, not them – even if it’s just for this exercise.

“I’m not OK, you’re not OK — and that’s OK.”

~~ William Sloane Coffin (American clergyman, long-time peace activist 1924 – 2006)

You may not want to let the other person off the hook because they hurt you, but once you understand the reason for disputes your fear disappears and nothing can hurt you.

Because…

…when you know you create every part of your life, how can anyone hurt you?

Now that’s power : -)

To learn why you create everything in your life see Part 2 – 3 Things You’re Doing to Let Others Control You – specifically points 1 & 2:

  • 1: Others Control You if You Try to Prove Them Wrong
  • 2: Others Control You if You Blame Them for What Happened

In fact once you know this, learning more about you becomes more important and exciting than seeking revenge and justice.

3. GAIN PEARLS OF WISDOM

3.     Create and contemplate the following questions.

Do this key step to get valuable insights out-of-the blue.

Idea: Print this page, so you can have these questions with you when you have time such as in traffic, on a train, bus or cooking etc. Make it easy for you to take action.

These give you the message about using this dispute to grow. It may not be obvious how these questions help, but do it and you’ll see.

  • “What bugs me about this person?”
  • “Could this be my message?”
  • “How does this person make me feel?”
  • “What does that message tell me about myself?”
  • “What message is this person giving me?”
  • “How are they treating me?”
  • “Is it possible their treatment of me is how I expect to be treated?”
  • “Is it possible their treatment of me is how I treat others?”
  • “If I was open to learning about myself today, what would that learning be?”
  • “How can I evolve from this experience: how can I grow?”

“We do not see things as they are, but as we are ourselves.”

~~ Henry M. Tomlinson (British writer and journalist 1873 – 1958)

4. USE THE OPPORTUNITY TO TRANSFORM

4.     Use those answers to discover any inadequacies in you.

It’s in your nature to change… to transform.

When someone annoys us it’s usually highlighting an inadequacy. It means it’s time to MOVE ON from the inadequacy.

Did the questions in point#3 uncover feelings of:

  • inferiority
  • bitterness
  • guilt
  • anxiety
  • self-pity
  • jealousy
  • disappointment in yourself

or

  • arrogance
  • stubbornness

or they made you feel

  • afraid, fearful – maybe you feel you need to toe the line & keep others happy to avoid being abandoned or excluded.

This is why that insensitive – annoying – hurtful or frightening person can be an ASSET.

(see WHY in Part 1 – Tips to Laugh More, Cry Less.)

This is not that easy – we’re often in denial about our feelings because you may see yourself as weak. But that’s not true. It takes strength to see ourselves for who we are. No-one is perfect and if you hide the issue, it’s still there.

Here’s a good question:

“Is it worth hiding these issues and holding yourself back for all eternity?”

“The person with insight enough to admit his limitations comes nearest to perfection.”

~~ Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe (German writer, artist & politician 1749 – 1832)

Let’s take one of the questions from above as an example:

  • Is it possible their treatment of me is how I expect to be treated?

Perhaps you decided DISRESPECT is the issue. What could that possibly mean for you?

Contemplate, drill down further with more questions and you may come up with a NEED FOR APPROVAL. Keep drilling down every time you discover something – what is behind the issue. Then, contemplate ways you can start giving yourself whatever you’re lacking e.g. respect and approval. Remember you can only give yourself what you need – others cannot do it for you. Once you give it to yourself, you’ll see it reflected in your relationship with others. Step 6 continues this process.

“A man who knows he is a fool, is not a great fool.”

~~ Zhuangzi (Influential Chinese philosopher who lived around 4th century BCE)

Remember the ripple effects and rewards from recognizing and changing just one inadequacy or limitation can be phenomenal.

You can get more help from Chapter 3 – Whatever You Think is True – which comes as a part of the FREE 3 chapter download of the book. It will help you understand:

  • where your thoughts come from
  • why anything you want is already there for you
  • how to consciously choose your thoughts
  • (see the end of this article for what you get in the free download)
5. LET’S LIBERATE YOU!

5.     Acknowledge what you’ve discovered – this is fabulous!

Let’s liberate you.

Really own it. By taking responsibility for who you are, you will naturally start to heal and move into the wonderful.

“Champions take responsibility. When the ball is coming over the net, you can be sure I want the ball.”

~~ Billie Jean King (American tennis player – Won 12 Grand Slam singles tennis titles b. 1943)

6.     NOW FOR SOME FUN! Decide what you want.

6. CHOOSE WHAT YOU WANT

How do you want to be treated?

Use this information to move in a new direction. You have infinite potentials. Just say the word. Often we “wish” but never really state with intention what we want.

Choose powerful thoughts to describe how you want to be treated. Go for anything you want such as respect, happiness, confidence or a relationship, a material item etc.  For example:

  • “I feel safe, confident and secure in myself.”
  • “I have fulfilling, loving relationships.”
  • “I know how to treat myself with respect.”
  • “I now get treated with respect.”
  • “I’m grateful I love myself enough not to need anyone’s approval.”
  • “I love myself the way I am.”
  • “I see the happy caring side of (insert their name)”.

As you see these thoughts in your mind, you are creating them in reality.

Place these on cards next to your bed. Say them aloud at night and as you awake. Leave copies around your car, home and workplace, and say them aloud when you see them.

7. MOVE INTO A NEW WORLD

7.     Intend to see a change.

If you don’t, you’ll be expecting this person to keep treating you badly – and they will. You’ll be throwing the issue forward into your future… and voilà unfortunately you’ll move into it. That’s why it happens again and again.

It’s a cycle. Break the cycle.

Your thoughts create the life you experience.

Change your thoughts to get what you want.

If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self.”

~~ Napoleon Hill (American author of several books incl. Think and Grow Rich in 1937 – Hill was one of the earliest producers of personal success literature 1883 – 1970)

Once you get an “aha” moment, you automatically get new choices.

Once you’re taking responsibility and choosing to resolve your issues within, you’ll find a few things happen, such as:

  • The situation eases. Why? This person’s job as your teacher is accomplished.
  • The person drops out of your life. Why? Because you’ve risen to a higher vibration, you’re moving into exciting new relationships aligned with the new you.

Bonus Point #8

Congratulate yourself for taking action and now contemplate all your strengths. One of them being:

“It is a sign of strength, not of weakness, to admit that you don’t know all the answers.”

~~ John P. Lougbrane

So Remember…

I wish you many fabulous family gatherings. If you find yourself getting annoyed at someone, ask yourself:

“Do I blame them or blame no-one, and choose the higher road to wisdom?”

Hopefully you decide to be at peace with this person, see them as an asset and use the lesson to help you grow into a beautiful transformed butterfly.

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From Verginon40.blogspot:

“I felt it touched upon many aspects of life, and didn’t try to preach to me or to provide me with a strict regimen of instruction for bettering myself. It makes you think about self-awareness and I really loved the inspirational quotes that were at the beginning of each chapter. 

The book is easy to read, hard to put down at times, in fact. Janet is a believer in loving who you are and not trying to squeeze yourself into a box or change yourself to fit someone else’s mold or idea. If you can love yourself as you are, the rest will follow. 

The book is perfect not just for one type of person either, no matter who you are, where you are in life, there is something for everyone and each person will take something important away after reading it.”

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From Sharon at BeckValleyBooks.blogspot.com

An excellent book which can and will help you change your life for the better.  The emphasis of the exercises and guidance in the book is all about your ‘self ‘ –  How you see yourself, what pre-determined ideas and beliefs you have and how others react to your behaviour and attitude.

The challenges and demands which we face in our lives are cleverly broken down into chapters and for each demand/challenge the author gives you an alternative thought process to help you cope.  With practice this could lead to that demand/challenge becoming less of an impact on your life and therefore eliminating that problem and as each problem is eradicated your life is enriched.”

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Now, return to being the extraordinary person you’ve always been…

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Why this book?

The aim is to return your FREE WILL to you, to urge you to question what life is all about. You’ll realize you’ve inadvertently bought into & live by programs you did not choose.

It empowers you to live life on your own terms and reach your true potential. It solves the human mystery and uses science to prove why you really can get anything you want.

You learn why an extraordinary person is not someone else, it’s YOU!

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Could You Get Away with Only Doing What You Love?

SAY, “YES!”

The phrase “do what you love and the money will follow” is well-known, but is it truly realistic for most people?

Listen now

to Janet Poole who says YES

Happiness Expert and author of the award-winning book HOW TO GET ANYTHING YOU WANT – JUST LIKE THAT!

on HealthyLife.net talking to Tracy O’Brien of ProsperNow.me

(57 minutes)

Janet Poole reveals the following:

~~ Why the movie YES MAN is a brilliant example of how to find your hidden talents.

~~ Learn valuable ways to move towards doing what you love. Even if you’re in a 9 – 5 job, have bills to pay, feel like you’re barely making it and want to say, “No way, I can’t take a risk and do what I love!”

~~ How to discover your hidden talents and make your life more meaningful.

~~ What to do if you’re really stumped for what it is you love.

~~ How to become alert for new opportunities when they appear.

~~ Why it’s important to try new and fun experiences.

~~ When you allow yourself to shine, others shine brighter too.

~~ Janet’s childhood challenges and why she doesn’t believe in luck and fate.

~~ What readers are enjoying about the book HOW TO GET ANYTHING YOU WANT – JUST LIKE THAT!  What makes it different to other personal growth books out there.

~~ The main life-changing message of the book HOW TO GET ANYTHING YOU WANT – JUST LIKE THAT!

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An Easy Way to Discover Your Hidden Talents and Make Your Life Meaningful

Janet says an extraordinary person is not someone else… IT’S YOU!

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“Living at risk is jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down.”

~~ Ray Bradbury (1920-2012, American author of science-fiction & fantasy novels)

How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That! is thrilling readers because it empowers you to live life on your own terms and reach your true potential. It solves the human mystery and uses science to prove why you can get anything you want. Continue reading “Could You Get Away with Only Doing What You Love?”