Category: Boredom

The 5 Hazards of Obsessing About the Past

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One of your life purposes is to conquer the habit of living in the past.

That’s if you want a happier life, a life where you get what you want.

Living in the past is a strong addiction – most of us live in the past and probably always will.

But that’s no excuse to give up trying to live in the moment.

Every step brings rich rewards. Live in the past as little as possible and constantly conquer the temptation to hang out there.

“We are not animals. We are not a product of what has happened to us in our past. We have the power of choice.”

Stephen Covey (b.1932, Author The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People)

 To help you get what you want, this is Part 2 of a 4-Part series – Why Being in the Moment Gets You What You Want

In Part 1 you learned the 10 Magic Reasons Living in the Moment Gets You What You Want

Quick review: How do you know if you are present in ‘the now’, in the moment? If you are aware of your thoughts and any emotions, then you are present and in the moment.

The 5 Hazards of Obsessing About the Past

  1. If you’re in the past it’s a challenge to create an amazing life. You’re stuck, you can’t think in new ways nor can you create a new dream or goal. You can only recycle old ones and yep, they’re now boring.
  2. If you regret your past or can’t forgive others you recycle pain and sadness, preventing you from using it to gain valuable wisdom and create a different and special new future. When you are present and in ‘the now’ there is no regret and blame is absent.
  3. If you’re in the past you’re more likely to be ill. You created illness in days gone by – in the past, and to experience it you must still be living in the past. In the past you’ll also hang onto unhelpful emotion and limiting attitudes and that brings in dis-ease, because the body can only follow what the brain is thinking i.e. if you think ‘hate’ then the body will align with hate, and therefore become it.
  4. You are fearful in the past – the body’s main focus is survival. When you are in the past, your body controls you and it endeavors to keep life the same, be overly-cautious and shun new ideas as being too dangerous. A mindset of survival is closed, limited and doesn’t think for itself – it follows the masses and feels there is safety in the masses (not true). You do not think for yourself in the past; you lose awareness. When you’re in the past there is a fear that what you think may be proved wrong and you’re uncertain about new ways of thinking. You become confused. It is only when you are present, in the NOW that you are confident, self-assured and open-minded. Continue reading “The 5 Hazards of Obsessing About the Past” →

How to Turn Boredom and Frustration into Happiness

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FireworksHow much of your life is about you?

Postponing your dreams and goals to be done “one day”, will make you feel frustrated and depressed.

So how do you resolve this? It’s really quite simple.

3 Ways to Eliminate Boredom and Frustration

1. Start putting yourself first.

2. Start doing what you want to do.

3. Start getting what you want.

Let’s find out how you do that.

7 Ways to Put Yourself First and Get What You Want

Note: To get happiness and what you want, some effort is required.

Be proactive in your life and do the following: Continue reading “How to Turn Boredom and Frustration into Happiness” →

8 Ways You Will Change Your Life When You Ask for What You Want

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Colorful Turkish BowlsDo you put other people’s needs before yours?

If you continually do that, you’re likely to feel trapped and resentful.

This is Part 2 of a 2-Part series – Always Say What You Want.

As stated in Part 1 – 5 Reasons You’re Not Asking For What You Want , most of us have been trained to satisfy other people’s needs, to make a good impression – so much so that when an opportunity arrives for you to choose what you want, you forget to exercise that choice.

Eventually You Feel Cheated, Always Putting Your Dreams Last

When you constantly put your needs at the back of the line, life becomes a drag and you become emotionally depleted.

Deep within you, there will be stirrings of frustration, disappointment and boredom, and over time these feelings make themselves known and move to the surface.

When they do, you’re likely to develop a mild depression and perhaps feel confused – because until now you were happy with the way things were.

Some people develop dis-eases.

Putting others first is a classic way to create illness for ourselves.

Who needs that? Continue reading “8 Ways You Will Change Your Life When You Ask for What You Want” →

How to Take Action to Get What You Want

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You create your life and you’re responsible for the life you’re living now.

If you don’t like it or want more from it, decide what you want and create it.

Read on to find out how.

Only you can do this for yourself.
Only you can make you happy.
No-one can do it for you and you cannot do it for someone else.

Simple enough? Let’s get on with it. What do you want?

The Third Vital Element to Getting What You Want: Take Action… Now

 “Knowing is not enough; we must apply.

Willing is not enough; we must do.”

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

To help you get what you want, this is Part 3 of a 3-Part series – 3 Key Elements to Getting What You Want

In Part 1 – Discover the First Key Element to Getting What You Want – and Part 2 – 10 Reasons Loving Yourself Gets You What You Want – we learned some stumbling blocks and vital key elements to getting what you want

  • You don’t think it’s possible to get what you want
  • You don’t feel entitled to get what you want
  • Once you’re doing the first two steps, this third step also becomes vital.

And now let’s find out about this third element. How do you ‘take action’? Continue reading “How to Take Action to Get What You Want” →