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5 Common Ways You Block Your Goals

Published on July 26, 2011February 15, 2016 by Janet

How do you free up your goals?

Stop obsessing about HOW your dream will be created.

Let it go, let it flow.

It’s really that simple.

So… you’ve decided what you’d like in your life. And that’s genius – most people haven’t. The first step, the hardest step, is done.

Now for letting go. This part should be easy and yet it isn’t, as the following story illustrates.

This is Part 1 of a 2-Part series – The Secret to Creating Your Dreams Faster by Doing Less.

How to Avoid Sabotaging Your Goal

Over a cup of coffee recently, a friend of mine, we’ll call her Alicia, said she was selling her house.

Of course we all want our property sold quickly (for an amazing price!), and Alicia’s hopes were already raised because she had a friend interested in buying it.

The only hitch was that her friend needed the money from an inheritance and the processing of the inheritance had been in a holding pattern for some time.

My alarm bells rang when Alicia informed me that to ensure this friend bought her house, she’d made it her goal to focus on her friend receiving the inheritance more promptly.

Yikes.

Sound likely? It’s possible of course but this approach is full of obstacles.

“The harder you fight to hold on to specific assumptions, the more likely there’s gold in letting go of them.”

John Seely Brown

(Co-Author of The Power of Pull and A New Culture of Learning)

5 Problems that Arise From Over-Manipulating Your Goal

You block all those delicious unknown potentials:
When Alicia decided exactly how her goal would be achieved, she immediately limited herself to that one inadequate solution.
Your thoughts create what you get and when you focus on only one outcome, you’re effectively insisting on it.
You’re therefore closing off other magical opportunities – unique to you.
Never make your goal dependent on someone else.
Alicia hindered herself by making her goal dependent on her friend’s outcome. She clouded her vision and gave away her power.
Now she is dependent on someone else to achieve her goal.
And anyway, others have free will for what happens in their life and you cannot nor should you, have any say in that.
You cannot influence others and whether they achieve their goal or not.
The inheritance is Alicia’s friend’s issue, her friend’s own private obstacle; it has nothing to do with Alicia.
Alicia’s journey and path is to sell her own house.
Always be aware and stay focused on your own path. Continue reading “5 Common Ways You Block Your Goals” →

Why You Are Never Selfish

Published on June 23, 2011February 14, 2016 by Janet

The reason the word ‘selfish’ exists: most people are not doing what they want to do.

You’re entitled to live the life you were born to live, and so is everyone else.

Why shouldn’t you be happy?

Everyone is entitled to happiness.

If only it were that simple. With billions of people mindlessly following ‘the rules’ of society, it’s a big ask.

Well, we’ll make it simple; we’ll just change the rules.

Yep, the good news is that it’s logical.

You have 2 choices:

1. Start now doing what you want to do

2. Spend your whole life waiting for the right time (which never comes)

It’s said that on their deathbed, most people regret they didn’t do more of what they wanted to do. That’s hardly surprising.

“Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live; it is asking others to live as one wishes to live”

Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)

Humanity is Stagnating

Fortunately for you, today, you have now discovered a choice. But for the rest of humanity, who are effectively asleep following the rules thinking they have to, this is a sham. We should feel free to do whatever we’re drawn to. Feeling that we’ve got to do what others want is suffocating us and we’re stagnating hoping something better comes along. Continue reading “Why You Are Never Selfish” →

How to Take Action to Get What You Want

Published on June 8, 2011February 14, 2016 by Janet

You create your life and you’re responsible for the life you’re living now.

If you don’t like it or want more from it, decide what you want and create it.

Read on to find out how.

Only you can do this for yourself.
Only you can make you happy.
No-one can do it for you and you cannot do it for someone else.

Simple enough? Let’s get on with it. What do you want?

The Third Vital Element to Getting What You Want: Take Action… Now

“Knowing is not enough; we must apply.

Willing is not enough; we must do.”

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

To help you get what you want, this is Part 3 of a 3-Part series – 3 Key Elements to Getting What You Want

In Part 1 – Discover the First Key Element to Getting What You Want – and Part 2 – 10 Reasons Loving Yourself Gets You What You Want – we learned some stumbling blocks and vital key elements to getting what you want

You don’t think it’s possible to get what you want
You don’t feel entitled to get what you want
Once you’re doing the first two steps, this third step also becomes vital.

And now let’s find out about this third element. How do you ‘take action’? Continue reading “How to Take Action to Get What You Want” →

Discover the First Key Element to Getting What You Want

Published on May 30, 2011February 14, 2016 by Janet

Deep down you’d like to get what you want. And so you should.

To help you get what you want, this is Part 1 of a 3-Part series – 3 Key Elements to Getting What You Want

2 Stumbling Blocks to Getting What You Want

1. You don’t think it’s you who makes it happen; you believe in luck or fate

2. You don’t think you’re entitled to get what you want

Move passed that way of thinking. Most of us have been programmed to think it’s ‘selfish’ to get what we want. Getting what we want forms images of someone’s spoilt brat jumping up and down at the supermarket saying, ‘I want it, I want it’, crying hysterically when the answer is, ‘No.’

Your Unique Dreams

But this is not about a childish need to always get what you want. This is about achieving your unique individual dreams – to even know what your dreams are, and to wake up each day assured of a great day ahead.