Category: Wisdom Truth Freedom

How to Be Happy and Love Your Life

Published on by Janet

The simple answer to being happy and loving your life?

Keep evolving.

The more expansive your mind, the happier you are.

The good news is that you can’t unlearn what you already know.

Once the light is turned on you can’t turn it off.

Once your mind has been opened to a new concept it is forever expanded; it can’t return to what it was.

And your mind keeps expanding.

You can’t feign ignorance and say, ‘oh, but I didn’t know’.

You do know.

Everything you learn you keep forever, even more so once you have applied it in your life and lived it. Nothing is ever wasted.

Understanding Life Makes You Feel Good

Once you’ve started to expand your understanding and awareness about life, you will forever be more open-minded. This is something to be treasured and is rare. An open mind is your key to confidence, a happy life, to becoming a greater person and to getting what you want.

Nature Keeps Evolving and So Should You

It’s the natural order of the universe to keep evolving. Nature does it and so should you. You can’t go backward, even though you may try – such as by living in regret or worrying about the past. Read: The 5 Hazards of Obsessing About the Past

What Happens if You Stop Evolving?

You may however, stagnate. You might ask why. If you rarely learn anything new, it becomes a habit to reject the new. Your mind closes. This leads to boredom, discouragement, frustration and hopelessness. If you are willing to open your mind, you’ll transport yourself into an exciting, interesting, fulfilling life. You’ll have fun.

Learning is Your First Step to a Happy Life, Second is to Apply It

  1. To keep going forward, it’s a must that you learn something new. The more you understand about life the more expansive your life. If you want a new idea, it must come from somewhere. Continue reading “How to Be Happy and Love Your Life” →

How do You Know if You are Living in the Past?

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If you live in the past, you don’t get what you want.

When you are consciously present in the moment you get what you want.

So, if you want to leave behind living in the past… read on to discover how.

To help you get what you want, this is Part 3 of a 4-Part series – Why Being in the Moment Gets You What You Want.

In Parts 1 and 2 you learned the 10 Magic Reasons Living in the Moment Gets You What You Want and The 5 Hazards of Obsessing About the Past.

Question: How do you know if you are living in the moment, in ‘the now’?

Answer: If you are aware of your thoughts and emotions, then you are present and in the moment.

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”

Anaïs Nin (1903 – 1977, French-Cuban author)

Listed below are 27 everyday situations, clues to help you recognize when you are living in the past. Along with each clue is what you’d do if you were instead ‘being present’.

By the way, you’ll notice that living in the past is largely driven by unhelpful emotion whereas emotion disappears in the present… you are calm.

27 Everyday Clues: You are Living in the Past When:

  1. You react to circumstances without thinking; you impulsively judge a situation as good or bad. For example, you receive an email and instantly judge the contents as one way or the other. Being present: You acknowledge that you don’t yet fully understand the bigger picture – you allow whatever it is to be part of a greater outcome for you.
  2. You judge differences as good or bad. You may have a preference and go for what you want, but if something is not ideal or good for you, it isn’t therefore ‘bad’. Being present: You allow situations or options to just ‘be’ neither. You have no reaction.
  3. You speak without thinking, without awareness. Do you ever say, ‘I am sick of…’, ‘I’d die for a…’? Being present: You’re aware of what you’re saying – you say only that which you truly want.
  4. You expect something bad to happen, ‘because it always does’. Being present: You know that you create only the best for you – getting what you want becomes a habit, a healthy habit.
  5. You don’t want to change i.e. you avoid new ideas, you won’t accept responsibility for your circumstances, you refuse to see yourself in others, you want life to stay the same, you want people to feel sorry for you. Being present: You’re flexible, willing to learn and invite change – you see change as an opportunity for adventure and greater happiness. Also read Discover the First Key Element to Getting What You Want.
  6. You can’t let go of controlling a circumstance and its outcome. Being present: You create what you want and allow it to unfold in the most ideal way, uniquely for you.
  7. You can’t accept someone for who they are. Do you constantly try to change people e.g. your partner, child, friend? Being present: You allow others to be who they are and instead look only to changing yourself to satisfy the lack you notice in them. By doing this you give others the gift of acceptance and yourself an opportunity to grow. How to do this is in my book “How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!”
  8. You control others, their life. Being present: You’re at peace with how others choose to live their lives and how they choose to behave. You receive the same gift from others.
  9. You can’t let someone go e.g. a friendship, partner. Being present: You calmly know that as one person leaves your life you’re inviting someone else in – someone more suited to who you have become and who will help you grow in different ways. Continue reading “How do You Know if You are Living in the Past?” →

10 Magic Reasons Living in the Moment Gets You What You Want

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Live in the moment and get what you want.

Easier said than done of course, but an ideal I aspire to each and every day!

Living in the moment comes down to being awake and aware of what you are thinking in the moment versus being asleep or in a trance, as many of us are.

If you are asleep you are effectively under hypnosis – you are reacting with old emotions and blindly following the masses.

To help you get what you want, this is Part 1 of a 4-Part series – Why Being in the Moment Gets You What You Want

This moment ‘now’ is brand new, pure and unpolluted. Be aware of your thoughts, emotions and use the power of  ‘the now’ to create what you want.

“Life is a succession of moments. To live each one is to succeed.”

Corita Kent (1918 – 1986, artist and educator)

10 Magic Reasons Being in the Moment Gets You What You Want

  1. You’ll use the moment wisely with precision and intention to get what you want. Only awareness can do that. If you want life to be different in the future, then the time to act consciously is NOW. So, how do you know if you are in the moment? It’s simple – if you are aware of your thoughts and emotions, then you are present and in the moment. Create what you want now and you’ll naturally move into a future of what you want.
  2. You live in a constant state of joy when you’re in the moment. This is because in the ‘now’ your old emotions, dislikes and problems cease to exist – they can’t exist. These hamper your dreams and removing them paves the way for what you want.
  3. You think for yourself. You decide what is good for you in the ‘now’. You won’t blindly do what others do, you won’t do what they think is good for you or feel that you must impress others – not family, friends or colleagues.  Whatever you do when you are ‘now’, you do it for you. If you need help accepting this then read 5 Reasons You’re Not Asking For What You Want.
  4. You are not afraid. Nothing can hurt you in the moment, there is no fear; you are calm. You take responsibility for your life, you don’t need approval from anyone; you live your personal truth. Continue reading “10 Magic Reasons Living in the Moment Gets You What You Want” →

8 Ways You Will Change Your Life When You Ask for What You Want

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Colorful Turkish BowlsDo you put other people’s needs before yours?

If you continually do that, you’re likely to feel trapped and resentful.

This is Part 2 of a 2-Part series – Always Say What You Want.

As stated in Part 1 – 5 Reasons You’re Not Asking For What You Want , most of us have been trained to satisfy other people’s needs, to make a good impression – so much so that when an opportunity arrives for you to choose what you want, you forget to exercise that choice.

Eventually You Feel Cheated, Always Putting Your Dreams Last

When you constantly put your needs at the back of the line, life becomes a drag and you become emotionally depleted.

Deep within you, there will be stirrings of frustration, disappointment and boredom, and over time these feelings make themselves known and move to the surface.

When they do, you’re likely to develop a mild depression and perhaps feel confused – because until now you were happy with the way things were.

Some people develop dis-eases.

Putting others first is a classic way to create illness for ourselves.

Who needs that? Continue reading “8 Ways You Will Change Your Life When You Ask for What You Want” →

5 Reasons You’re Not Asking For What You Want

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Do you follow your dreams?

Do you do what you want to do?

Or do you put everyone else’s needs first?

When you’re faced with a situation where you can choose what you’d like, be sure to exercise that choice.

Choose what you’d truly like, and not what you think other people want you to do.

Many people prefer to fit into other people’s plans, and not get what they truly want.

They feel if they can create happiness for the other person, then they’ll find happiness too.

This becomes an unfulfilling never-ending chase.

This happens in many people’s lives, even people who believe they are the ultimate decision-makers in their lives. We’ve been programmed since birth to do it.

This is Part 1 of a 2-Part Series – Always Say What You Want.

When You Sacrifice Yourself, You Don’t Help Others

While you probably want to create happiness for others and there is joy in that, but it’s not something you alone can do for another person – it is something we must each do for ourselves.

Others must do this for themselves, and you must do it for you.

In the same way, you can’t make someone sad, nor can they make you sad.
To fully understand that is why I wrote my book!

It’s not selfish to do what you want. Continue reading “5 Reasons You’re Not Asking For What You Want” →