Do you feel you’re not good enough, that no matter how hard you try you never quite measure up?
That’s you? Well, thank goodness for that!
You’re not perfect.
I’ve realized I wouldn’t want perfection because what then, would be the purpose of life?
There’s no-one quite like you and fortunately there never will be…
…so how could you EVER compare yourself to anyone else?
BUT the beautiful little secret is…
…you can always become BETTER!
All humans naturally seek expansion and greater freedom. The adventure of life TRULY BEGINS when you allow yourself that.
“We are all living in cages with the doors wide open.” ~~ George Lucas
Remember your FREE WILL?
This means you can “BE” whoever you want to be.
Free will means there’s never any judgement. Imagine what you’d achieve if you never judged yourself!
This means you don’t have to WAIT until you’re perfect before becoming better (and oh boy does the human race love a good reason to “wait”).
Choose to move forward NOW.
Tell yourself, “I am worth it and I’m becoming an even BETTER version of ME!”
Let’s look at nature
If nature’s not evolving what’s it doing? You got it, it’s dying.
And that’s the same with us.
What’s another word for evolving?
Yes, CREATING!
Unless you’re creating, you’re disintegrating. You’re a natural-born creator who right now isn’t even close to your true potential.
You’re more powerful and magnificent than you can imagine
I love that I am not even close to perfection because it’s been such a blast evolving this far. Believe me, I wasn’t born loving myself!!!
I’m so grateful to have discovered the truth about life because now I’m loving the adventure and living my dream. The pace picks up each day and the opportunities continue to grow.
It’s awesome! Please allow yourself to join me!!!
Did you know DISSATISFACTION is in fact a powerful, creative state?
Agreed, always be grateful for what you have and who you are, but always strive to be even BETTER.
You’re starting to see a theme here I can tell : )
Have you noticed how the things you PROCRASTINATE about are those exact things that would directly benefit and enrich you?
Why the hesitancy? Because you don’t think you’re good enough or worthy of having something wonderful.
If you’re still making sure everyone else is happy before you say YES…
… if you aren’t doing what’s right for you first and foremost, then you haven’t yet understood the reasons for loving yourself first.
Why did I ensure the first chapter in my book was about loving yourself?
Because everything stems from whether you think you’re worth the investment or not.
Once you’re willing to see you’re NOT SELFISH by loving yourself first, you’ll more easily start taking action on your dreams.
“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” ~~ E.E. Cummings
BONUS:
You’ll stay younger and find things such as radiant health and being your ideal weight becoming a natural by-product.
Place the following sentence on your mirror and say it to yourself every day:
Say, “Listen here __(your name)__… you are precious, special and amazing… and I LOVE you.”
You’ll probably feel silly.
As ridiculous as it sounds it does take a little courage. Some people said they started crying when they said it.
I know you’re precious and I know you’re worth it!
“Happiness is a condition. It is not something that is achieved by pursuing it directly, but rather comes as a result of our engaging in purposeful activities.” ~~ Aristotle
DO the following every day and you’ll
DREAM BIGGER DREAMS,
ACHIEVE THEM and feel HAPPY too!
Interestingly, these are not hard to do or complicated.
Enjoy.
(This is Part 1 – success activities 1 to 5 – Here’s Part 2)
1. DON’T Be Realistic… DO Dream BIG!
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did.
So throw off the bowlines.
Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~~ Mark Twain
As a child I remember my parents saying, Janet be more realistic. Huh? Most people buy into being realistic.
I was excited to discover that Will Smith considers being realistic the most commonly traveled road to mediocrity! Watch the video below.
“It always seems impossible until it’s done.”
~~ Nelson Mandela
Why would you be realistic? Nothing is UNrealistic!
And if you don’t have an exciting, worthwhile goal, you simply won’t be inspired to do the next 9 points.
Why does it help you to DREAM BIG?
When you’re dreaming big, your mind flips into a higher frequency and you start tapping into the power of your mind. When we have an exciting dream, life turns into fun. We’re motivated to take bold action and keep persisting.
How to DREAM BIG:
a.Ask yourself the following ENTICING QUESTIONS. I discovered them in Brian Tracy’s book “The Power of Self-Confidence” (great book by the way!)
“What one great thing would I dare to dream, if I knew I could not fail?”
“What if I was completely unafraid of anyone or anything and I felt completely free to act in my own best interests?”
b.Then phrase your dream as if you already have it.
Write it, read it every day from here on.
Why?
Your current unwanted, limited thoughts came from repetition.
Use REPETITION to program your mind for what you WANT.
“There’s no reason to have a Plan B – because it distracts from Plan A.”
~~ Will Smith
“Living at risk is jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down.” ~~ Ray Bradbury
Now that you’re dreaming big, make a DECISION to have it. You’ll probably not know HOW you’re going to achieve it. Good.
Nor did the Wright brothers know HOW they’d fly.
But they made a DECISION to do it.
Why does making your own decisions help you?
You no longer WAIT for others to decide your life (or worse… allow your life). When you make your own decisions, you’re becoming a great leader of yourself.
Most people wait their entire life hoping to discover how to achieve what they want before they DECIDE to do it. Except…
…the HOW never comes.
They never make the decision
and never get what they want.
The DECISION comes first.
Then the HOW arrives.
How to become a good DECISION MAKER:
Dream big. Why? Because then you’ll know what you want and where you’re going! When an opportunity appears, you can quickly and confidently say YES.
Now, some decisions are larger than others (or so we think). So, how do you know if a choice is right for you?
Ask yourself this simple question to find out:
“Do I want this?” If you do, say YES and let the how be revealed.
3. DO Develop Initiative
TAKE ONE STEP AT A TIME
Does the idea of INITIATIVE excite or scare you? Or both!
Initiative isn’t hard; it’s simply YOU TAKING ACTION – one step at a time toward achieving what you want. The journey will unfold.
“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” ~~ Henry David Thoreau
Life is not a spectator sport. If you want to enjoy life, start participating.
Why does INITIATIVE help you?
When you start taking the initiative and doing what you love, you’ll discover more of your hidden talents and abilities. These will help you go bigger.
Most people think other people have what it takes to go big. Yes they do, but YOU do as well. We all do.
Successful people are merely those who love giving life a go and BEING THEIR BEST.
They are not super-intelligent, they never went to the most expensive schools – some never even finished school!
4 Steps to develop INITIATIVE:
a. First ask yourself: “Am I ABLE to go for what I want?” The answer is always YES.
b. Then: “Am I WILLING to go for what I want?” Only you can answer that. Most people are NOT WILLING to put in any effort even if the rewards are BIG.
You can see why so many people are not getting what they want in life!
c. Look for self-development opportunities –
– Books like mine
– Decide to discover your WHY. Turn the lights on!
Read 7 Things Happen When You Don’t Know Your WHY
– Programs such as Thinking Into Results (for you and your business). This develops your initiative because you’ll start realising what you’re capable of. (incredible, amazing, magnificent things :- )
d. If you find you’re NOT taking the initiative on your own then now is the time to look at the above point… get supported and encouraged! Research shows your results are always bigger when you have someone cheering you on – and why athletes always have a coach.
4. DON’T Allow Excuses. Start DO-ING. You’ll Find a Way.
NO MORE EXCUSES – START DO-ING
Do you make excuses? Anyone who says “no” is a rare individual.
“The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want and if they can’t find them, they make them.” ~~ George Bernard Shaw
It’s fear that lurks beneath most excuses. Bottom line however it’s still an excuse.
Why STOP MAKING EXCUSES?
You are always “Thinking Into Results” i.e. your thinking and feelings drive your actions. And actions get results.
When you start taking ACTIONS consistent with who you want to be, it strengthens your THINKING that way too.
Therefore, when you “ACT as if” you already have a certain quality the ACTION naturally causes a mental picture to form i.e. a THOUGHT.
As William James said – “Action seems to follow feelings, but really actions and feelings go together, and by regulating the action, which is under direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling which is not.”
Think about learning to ride a bike. You didn’t know how to ride when you started out and could have made an excuse saying, “I don’t know how to ride and may get hurt.”
Instead you chose to “act as if” you could ride and hopped on the bike. You started pedaling. That ACTION naturally developed your mental picture. With repetition, you began riding automatically… and so developed the thought of “I can ride a bike.”
How to STOP MAKING EXCUSES:
a. There’s always a reason to say NO or that you CAN’T do something. Think about how you CAN. If you have a burning desire, you WILL find a way. b. Stop making health – intelligence – time or money an excuse (see George Bernard Shaw’s quote about circumstance above) c. Honestly ask yourself, “Is there an excuse in this?” You may not like the answer but it’s the truth. d. “Act as if” you’re the person who CAN DO this – no excuses. Eventually you’ll be this person for real. As in the example of riding a bike.
Watch the movie “YES MAN”. You’ll get the idea. YES is a fabulous word. No excuses!
People who do better simply don’t make excuses.
5. DON’T “Try”. Just DO It!
DO IT!
As Yoda said in Star Wars, “Do or do not – there is no try.”
When did you last say, “I tried…?”
As you read this, do a little experiment. Pick up a pencil and then… TRY to drop it. Interesting isn’t it? You either drop it or you don’t. There is no TRY.
Why does DOING instead of “TRYING” help you?
“Trying” immediately jeopardizes your results because it keeps the door open for an excuse.
DOING ensures NO excuses.
How to start DOING instead of only TRYING:
a. Ask a friend or your partner to gently remind you if they hear you use the word, “try”. Catching ourselves in the habit can be a challenge. b. Move fear out of the way. The only way you conquer fear is to DO the thing you fear. It may sound counter-intuitive but take it from me who has experienced sheer terror in many of the things I’ve wanted to.
Insist on taking firm steps forward, even if they’re small. You will ultimately succeed.
This is Janet Poole; I believe in finding better ways to live your life and grow your business.
I believe in sharing those ideas!
Better Ways. More Freedom.
Shock yourself by achieving your dreams.
There’s NO goal, vision or dream too big for you to live.
You can BE, DO and HAVE anything you truly desire.
Anything.
Send an email to me at nowjustlikethat (@) gmail.com.
I’d love to hear about your dreams.
(and who decides it’s “failure” because really and truly there’s no such thing : )
Even if you said you’d failed I’d say, “Congratulations – you’re moving… many are stuck so far back in fear, they might never move! You’re already further ahead.”
Today I’m emphasizing the advantages of MOVING INTO ACTION, that even if you make mistakes you’re still further ahead.
I’m also giving you an easy technique, to get you moving.
“Courage is being scared to death – and saddling up anyway.”
~~ John Wayne
The great thing about MOVING is it’s easier to change direction.
Imagine a vehicle.
– How hard is it to change direction while standing still? Very hard.
– How hard is it to change direction while moving? Very easy.
Studies show that people who achieve what they want, do it through trial and error.
Yes, a mistake is an indicator of success
How successful can you be if you’re DOING NOTHING?
Today I have some words of wisdom from Dr Maxwell Maltz author of Psycho-Cybernetics and below you’ll see a great technique I use – that you can start using today.
I was intrigued when I first heard that a rocket arrives at its destination through a series of mistakes (it fails its way there?) and that our subconscious mind is a mechanism operating in a similar way.
“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”
~~ Albert Einstein
According to Dr Maltz, our subconscious is in fact a “machine” we use.
We direct this machine using our conscious mind.
So, how is the mechanism in a rocket similar to your subconscious mind?
Have a look at this interesting list of similarities:
They are both goal-striving mechanisms.
They are both impersonal (your subconscious mind does not see things as good or bad it just goes ahead and creates your outside world according to your thinking – whether that serves you or not)
They must both be moving to get to their goal (sounds obvious yet most people don’t move)
They both reach their destination (goal) through trial and error.When they go forward, they make mistakes and correct their course. They are therefore further ahead.
We tend to complicate life, when it’s actually quite simple.
“Something is missing” means a few things (read on for those) but solving it starts with ONE thing…
We LOVE goals.We are goal seeking beings. To be truly happy and fulfilled, it’s important we have a goal.
We’ve lost touch with ourselves, we’ve forgotten what we need to make us happy – and keep us happy.
Without a goal, we are lost.
Without a goal we have no destination.
Without a goal, we feel empty and unfulfilled.
A goal changes it all. Seriously, filling the hole can be that simple.
Now, when I say “goal” it’s not just any goal…
…we want an OUTRAGEOUS FANTASY!
I hope that got your attention because we’ve been taught “fantasy” is just a fairytale, something you can never have… I’m here to tell you, you CAN have the FANTASY!!!
Do you think “flying” for the Wright Brothers was a fantasy? You bet it was. I’m sure you’ll agree it was an outrageous fantasy!
“I am looking for a lot of men who have an infinite capacity
to not know what can’t be done.”
~~Henry Ford
It’s my belief there’s no goal, vision or desire too big for you to live. If you ask me, I’ll say, “YES, you can have that!” (and then I’ll help you get it)
And in addition – to make it more fun –it’s best if you have NO idea HOW you’ll achieve this thing you want.
Most people want to be sure they know HOW to achieve their goal before starting out. No, please please please don’t do that. That will only hold you back – and leave you feeling like something is missing.
Forget the how. The fun is in finding out HOW and that’s the plan. We want fun.
Do you know anyone who is often irritable, angry, anxious and overworked? Possible someone who has things going wrong, finds fault with others and/or may even be ill?
These are all signs of a person without a worthwhile goal.
It makes sense. If someone is suppressing their inner urge to go for life and achieve something worthwhile, they will most likely feel irritable and possibly ill.
By contrast, when we have an awesome goal, one that engages us wholeheartedly and makes our heart sing – what time do we have for fault-finding or for illness?
Now, why do I suggest making your goal something HUGE and outrageous?
(even better if others think it’s impossible, something you’re crazy to even consider : )
Why?
Because there’s a second layer to this – the purpose of any worthwhile goal is to create and GROW.
One of our primary purposes on Earth is to GROW.And, even more fabulously, growth turns into wisdom.
“Rather than exist each day in some dull, boring habitual manner, move into action on a big idea.
Everyone is on the brink of possibility. Your responsibility is to discover what that possibility is for you.”
~~ Bob Proctor
In the same way that the FUN is in finding out how you’ll achieve your goal, your GROWTH will also come from finding out HOW to achieve your goal.
Fun…growth…wisdom all brought together. A great goal will do it!
Did you know, it’s not about achieving the goal?
It isn’t about what you acquire.
It’s aboutwho you becomeas you grow. Y
ou grow into… you become the person who achieves big things.
(which means you achieve the goal… and more!)
When you’re growing you feel truly alive, vibrant and happy. You’re living on purpose.
“The science of neuroplasticity has found strong evidence as to why new knowledge and experiences keep us healthy and happy.
It seems that newmental activities – preferably ones we enjoy – keep our brain younger by maintaining our ability to pay attention and to learn new information. Endlessly repeating the same activities causes us to lose those abilities.
There also seems to be a link between the state of our happiness and how many new neurons we produce.They apparently help us to see the world in new and different ways,and to recognize when we are having new experiences.
If our world looks the same every day, it’s depressing.”
~~ Janet Poole – Excerpt from “How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!”
If someone has no goal, they WILL feel something is missing.
Why?
They are not growing.
To be happy and fulfilled we must be GROWING!
PS. If you’re someone who has no idea what you want, but you know it’s something – please understand that is completely normal, and that there is a way through that!
PPS. When you aren’t growing you’re also stifling your natural urge to createand to use your own natural abilities and talents – those same talents that stay hidden in most people their whole life.
And remember, most people think being “creative” is something an artist does. No. Creating is anything that is new for you, that’s all.
♦ What was it that happened in childhood, which meant by the time you were 8 years old you were probably already doubting and limiting what you can achieve?
♦ Instead of living “outside the box”, has your box just got smaller – and are you still inside?
♦ Loving yourself FIRST and why it’s essential to a fulfilled and happy life – for you and everyone else!
♦ The reason so many people have FORGOTTEN what they TRULY WANT in their life
♦ What is it that we forget to do – or perhaps are unwilling to do – when we set a goal?
“When you find yourself on the side of the majority – it’s time to pause and reflect !” (Mark Twain)
♦ How to get great peopleand great relationships in your life
♦ How to reduce obligation in your life… gently
♦ Learn one of the core fundamentals to happiness
♦ Why so many people struggle to achieve their goals
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