Category: Self-improvement

How to Turn Boredom and Frustration into Happiness

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FireworksHow much of your life is about you?

Postponing your dreams and goals to be done “one day”, will make you feel frustrated and depressed.

So how do you resolve this? It’s really quite simple.

3 Ways to Eliminate Boredom and Frustration

1. Start putting yourself first.

2. Start doing what you want to do.

3. Start getting what you want.

Let’s find out how you do that.

7 Ways to Put Yourself First and Get What You Want

Note: To get happiness and what you want, some effort is required.

Be proactive in your life and do the following: Continue reading “How to Turn Boredom and Frustration into Happiness” →

Why You Are Never Selfish

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Taverna AvliThe reason the word ‘selfish’ exists: most people are not doing what they want to do.

You’re entitled to live the life you were born to live, and so is everyone else.

Why shouldn’t you be happy?

Everyone is entitled to happiness.

If only it were that simple. With billions of people mindlessly following ‘the rules’ of society, it’s a big ask.

Well, we’ll make it simple; we’ll just change the rules.

Yep, the good news is that it’s logical.

You have 2 choices:

1. Start now doing what you want to do

2. Spend your whole life waiting for the right time (which never comes)

It’s said that on their deathbed, most people regret they didn’t do more of what they wanted to do. That’s hardly surprising.

 “Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live; it is asking others to live as one wishes to live”

Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)

Humanity is Stagnating

Fortunately for you, today, you have now discovered a choice. But for the rest of humanity, who are effectively asleep following the rules thinking they have to, this is a sham. We should feel free to do whatever we’re drawn to. Feeling that we’ve got to do what others want is suffocating us and we’re stagnating hoping something better comes along. Continue reading “Why You Are Never Selfish” →

8 Ways You Will Change Your Life When You Ask for What You Want

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Colorful Turkish BowlsDo you put other people’s needs before yours?

If you continually do that, you’re likely to feel trapped and resentful.

This is Part 2 of a 2-Part series – Always Say What You Want.

As stated in Part 1 – 5 Reasons You’re Not Asking For What You Want , most of us have been trained to satisfy other people’s needs, to make a good impression – so much so that when an opportunity arrives for you to choose what you want, you forget to exercise that choice.

Eventually You Feel Cheated, Always Putting Your Dreams Last

When you constantly put your needs at the back of the line, life becomes a drag and you become emotionally depleted.

Deep within you, there will be stirrings of frustration, disappointment and boredom, and over time these feelings make themselves known and move to the surface.

When they do, you’re likely to develop a mild depression and perhaps feel confused – because until now you were happy with the way things were.

Some people develop dis-eases.

Putting others first is a classic way to create illness for ourselves.

Who needs that? Continue reading “8 Ways You Will Change Your Life When You Ask for What You Want” →

5 Reasons You’re Not Asking For What You Want

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Do you follow your dreams?

Do you do what you want to do?

Or do you put everyone else’s needs first?

When you’re faced with a situation where you can choose what you’d like, be sure to exercise that choice.

Choose what you’d truly like, and not what you think other people want you to do.

Many people prefer to fit into other people’s plans, and not get what they truly want.

They feel if they can create happiness for the other person, then they’ll find happiness too.

This becomes an unfulfilling never-ending chase.

This happens in many people’s lives, even people who believe they are the ultimate decision-makers in their lives. We’ve been programmed since birth to do it.

This is Part 1 of a 2-Part Series – Always Say What You Want.

When You Sacrifice Yourself, You Don’t Help Others

While you probably want to create happiness for others and there is joy in that, but it’s not something you alone can do for another person – it is something we must each do for ourselves.

Others must do this for themselves, and you must do it for you.

In the same way, you can’t make someone sad, nor can they make you sad.
To fully understand that is why I wrote my book!

It’s not selfish to do what you want. Continue reading “5 Reasons You’re Not Asking For What You Want” →

How to Take Action to Get What You Want

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You create your life and you’re responsible for the life you’re living now.

If you don’t like it or want more from it, decide what you want and create it.

Read on to find out how.

Only you can do this for yourself.
Only you can make you happy.
No-one can do it for you and you cannot do it for someone else.

Simple enough? Let’s get on with it. What do you want?

The Third Vital Element to Getting What You Want: Take Action… Now

 “Knowing is not enough; we must apply.

Willing is not enough; we must do.”

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

To help you get what you want, this is Part 3 of a 3-Part series – 3 Key Elements to Getting What You Want

In Part 1 – Discover the First Key Element to Getting What You Want – and Part 2 – 10 Reasons Loving Yourself Gets You What You Want – we learned some stumbling blocks and vital key elements to getting what you want

  • You don’t think it’s possible to get what you want
  • You don’t feel entitled to get what you want
  • Once you’re doing the first two steps, this third step also becomes vital.

And now let’s find out about this third element. How do you ‘take action’? Continue reading “How to Take Action to Get What You Want” →