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Finding Times Tough? Re-Build Confidence in Yourself Today and Get What You Want (Part 6 of 7)

Published on January 6, 2012February 15, 2016 by Janet1 Comment

In tough times your confidence can get a little shaky.

Be assured this is only temporary because confidence is directly controlled by your thoughts.

By giving yourself appropriate thoughts and a new perspective you’ll re-build your confidence.

This is Part 6 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

In parts 1 – 5, you learned

how to take charge of your life
the benefits of taking responsibility for your life
how to turn your life around
how to take action
an easy way to start letting go of your old life

…to bring in a new exciting and happy life.

“The frontier between hell and heaven is only the difference between two ways of looking at things.”

~~George Bernard Shaw (1856 – 1950)

It’s as Simple as Pretending

Pretending you’ve already got what you want is a trick you can play on your brain.

It may sound ridiculous but once you know how the brain works it makes sense.

Keep this up and it becomes true.

It helps to slowly and repeatedly say affirmations such as, ‘I now have (….insert what you want….)’.

See each word separately in your mind.
Write out the sentences a few times and place them around your home and workstation.

Even if you disagree or doubt it the first few times, these words fire neurons in your brain, your brain believes them and they build your confidence.

A glimmer of hope develops in you. Do it and you’ll see.

As you repeat these and the neurons in your brain continue to fire the words, a new world of opportunity starts to open up and your confidence gains momentum.

It starts to be real.
Opportunities appear in your life as if from nowhere and you feel different.

Note: This article is also a good follow on from Part 3 – Finding Times Tough? 2 Easy and Effective Steps to Start Your Happy Life.

If You Want to, Allow the Feelings of Despair – But Only For a While

If you feel desperate, allow those feelings and be conscious you’re allowing them.

This is to allow yourself to have this experience.

Then stand up straight with your shoulders back and decide that’s enough. Wallowing in despair is easy and comfortable in contrast to being strong.

Being strong isn’t easy but it will take you to the other side of tough times and a happy life. Being strong aligns you with a path that opens up new opportunities… so be ready for them.

New opportunities can’t appear if you are wallowing in self-pity. You’ll never see the opportunity from down there.

Knowledge helps you become strong, it gives you security. Keep up with your learning about how life works.

When Your Opportunities Arrive Acknowledge Them

You’ll notice miracles start to happen if Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? Re-Build Confidence in Yourself Today and Get What You Want (Part 6 of 7)” →

Finding Times Tough? Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want? (Part 2 of 7)

Published on December 7, 2011February 15, 2016 by Janet

If you were able to choose and get the life you want, would you do it?

Surprisingly, many people would rather do nothing and continue to complain.

But we’re talking about you here, so if you’d like to choose your life, all you need as a first step is to take responsibility for the life you’ve created so far.

Life is like a game of chess.

Who is responsible for making the decisions in chess?

You are.

Once you take that first step, that simple yet profound choice opens a wonderful new world of opportunity for you.

“No man will succeed unless he is ready to face and overcome difficulties and is prepared to assume responsibilities.”

~~ William J.H. Boetcker

(American religious leader and public speaker 1873–1962)

This is Part 2 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

This article follows closely on the heels of Part 1 Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life . Part 1 teaches you how to take charge of your life and gives you a simple way to gain confidence.

This is the next step in taking charge of your life.

What Does Taking Responsibility Mean?

stop blaming other people, government and corporations for your life
stop waiting for someone else to tell you what to do
stop waiting for someone else to change your life
stop waiting for someone else to help you
stop feeling sorry for yourself
stop allowing ill-health to drive your life
start doing whatever it takes to understand why and how you’ve created your life so far
decide you are the person who changes your life to what you want

You are the person who creates your life, no-one else.

Just as in a game of chess, take responsibility for the outcome.

In tough times this is probably the last thing you want to hear.

Other people, government and corporations may well have contributed to your issues but bottom line your life is your doing.

And really, would you want it any other way?

Because this is a point of confusion for so many, my book “Just Like That!” fully explains why it is you who creates your life, how to take responsibility for it and what to do to turn it into a life you love. Understanding your involvement is a vital key to overcoming tough times forever.

Even if taking responsibility is hard to do, being the person responsible is actually GOOD NEWS!

Why?

If it is you who’s created your life to this stage it means you can also start today choosing and creating what you truly want. That sounds like great news to me.

You Always Have Free Will – Even if That Means Doing Nothing

You may choose to take this on or you may not.

And that’s okay, perhaps another time.

But the sooner you take responsibility the better it is for you. Obviously.

If you’re not up to it, Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? Can You Make This Simple Choice to Get the Happy Life You Want? (Part 2 of 7)” →

Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life (Part 1 of 7)

Published on November 30, 2011February 15, 2016 by Janet

What if tough times were a blessing?

No way!

Oh yes, they certainly can be.

Okay, at worst let’s say it’s a mixed blessing, but again it’s about
‘what you think you get‘.

Here’s why they’re a blessing.

Tough times can motivate you to try new ideas and be open to change.

They take you to a cross roads and urge you to open to new ideas – to read articles such as this one.

And that’s great because it means you’re motivated to consider a better life.

Often that’s all you need to actually get one.

“With ordinary talent and extraordinary perseverance, all things are attainable.”

Thomas Fowell Buxton

(Born in Essex, a strong advocate for the abolition of slavery in the British Colonies, 1786-1845)

This is Part 1 of a 7-Part Series “Are You Finding Times Tough?”

This series of 7 articles returns the power to you, where it belongs.

Once you’ve read these articles you can decide which way you go – up to your true potential or down to more despair.

How to Take Charge of Your Life in Tough Times and Get a Happy Life

However hard life may seem, decide you’re going to deal with it and not be a victim.

A victim waits in hope for life to become different.

Most of us, both men and women no matter how seemingly strong or successful, play the victim game at some stage.

Yes, even big burly men and tough career women.

Being a victim does have benefits. Very short-term benefits.

You get attention and others feel sorry for you.

All well and good, except that over time being a victim destroys your life.

When I say don’t be a victim, I’m not saying keep a stiff upper lip or suffer in silence either.

I’m saying that a victim is someone who is stuck and dependent on others.

If you’d like an interesting, exciting and happy life, it’s essential you stand up and act toward changing your situation.

This can seem like hard work – in some ways it is.

But no-one can live your life for you or make you happy, and doing this for yourself is hugely rewarding and satisfying.

There is something thrilling in taking charge. Something you’ll only discover once you try it.

If you don’t know what action to take or how to take it, these 7 articles show you how.

The Simplest Way to Take Action

A simple way to take action is to Continue reading “Finding Times Tough? How to Take Charge Today and Get a Happy Life (Part 1 of 7)” →

How to Stop Criticism…Going Out & Coming In

Published on October 20, 2011February 15, 2016 by Janet1 Comment

Ever wished you could stop criticizing others?

And wondered why you do it?

And of course on the flip side, we all love receiving a compliment.

Read on for an interesting way to accept others… and attract praise.

“Like the sky opens after a rainy day we must open to ourselves…. Learn to love yourself for who you are and open so the world can see you shine.”

James Poland

1) How to Stop Criticizing Others

Until you accept yourself for who you are, your enthusiasm for criticism will continue. The reason? You’re seeing yourself in others; you’re seeing your ‘flaws’.

We all have flaws and they’re okay, but because we deem flaws unacceptable we criticize. You only have one reality – yours. Everything is about you. It’s easy to criticize because we mistakenly take ourselves out of the situation and forget everyone has flaws, we included. So we sit in judgment of the other person, thinking it’s all about them, when it’s always all about us.

We consider ourselves spotless and above it all. However don’t blame or chastise yourself. Use this only to learn, and blame no-one.

Once you choose to accept yourself for who you are, flaws and all, you consequently accept others for who they are flaws and all. You develop compassion for others. They therefore stop pressing your buttons. Why? You move into what you think.

I accept me = I accept you.

Simple. Problem solved. That was easy…

“You’re born an original. Don’t die a copy.”

John Mason (Author of several motivational books)

2) How to Stop Others Criticizing You

It’s all very well to say we shouldn’t care what others think, but if you don’t like being criticized then the easiest way to nail it is to Continue reading “How to Stop Criticism…Going Out & Coming In” →

A Simple Way to Get Even More Than You Want

Published on September 27, 2011November 16, 2011 by Janet

“Miracles happen everyday, change your perception of what a miracle is and you’ll see them all around you.”

Jon Bon Jovi

When you decide you really want something, it seems impossible to let go of the idea. Yet loosening up and doing exactly that can fast track you to not only what you want, but to getting even more.

An Addiction to Control Blocks the Wonderful

In “Just Like That!” I’ve devoted a few chapters to why ‘letting go’ gets you what you want. This is because while there may be times we should put in all our efforts to get what we want, there are also times to let go and allow. Most of us are addicted to control – of other people as well as ourselves – so we find it a challenge to let go. Control issues usually exist in several areas of our lives and they block the wonderful. Yet most of the time we don’t even know we’re doing it, hence the chapters in my book.

Two Bits of Wonderful By Letting Go

A few weeks ago, I found myself letting go without realizing it and created a little bit of wonderful in doing so. A small situation, but nevertheless that’s how we start. We gain confidence doing it which leads us to greater ‘miracles’. It all counts.

It was only afterward I realized I’d let go twice in the one situation, and of course felt rewarded. Rewarded not only in letting go without thinking, but also in the bit of wonderful received. You can have these great little buzzes too, so here’s my living example to let you know the good news: that ‘letting go’ does pay off.

A Living Example: Letting Go Works

I love books, all bookstores and I also love second-hand bookstores.

My partner and I were passing through a small country town west of Sydney and spotted a second-hand bookstore. As always of course, in we went.

Do You Establish the Price Before Paying?

Firstly, I stopped at the stand of books out front. I saw two large hardcover autobiographies – one by Bob Hope, the other George Burns.

I actively seek out comedy and knew these two men would supply exactly that. I also appreciate true stories. Then as most of us do I looked for prices, but found none. I held onto the books anyway, intending to buy them after browsing. In the back of my mind lingered the vague thought to first find out the books’ prices, but didn’t act on it. I went on inside.

The Quest for Inspirational Novels

Inside were plenty of second-hand novels, including some family sagas by Penny Vincenzi, which I thought my daughter may one day enjoy. She’s an avid reader as are both my children. I’m a little sceptical of some well-known women novelists as the stories often involve a female character falling desperately in love with a man and ultimately getting caught up in cheating, revenge, corruption all rather dark thoughts. You get the picture. Not a theme I’d like my daughter spending time on. Penny Vincenzi, though still family drama, tends to write captivating historical novels involving courageous women. I could be wrong, but it appears that way. Even so, it’s not that important and I digress.

A Trilogy, But Only Two Books… Hmmm, What to Do

Soon after entering the store, I picked up the second and third books of a trilogy by Ms Vincenzi. I figured a trilogy a nice idea, but couldn’t find the first book; for some reason it didn’t concern me. I held onto the two I found and continued looking at other parts of the store for my favorite genres – non-fiction and autobiographies.

After gathering a few more books, I went to the front to pay, still without the price of the two books from out front and still missing the first book of that trilogy.