How Could Every Failure Be a Success?

GO WITH THE FLOW
GO WITH THE FLOW

We never “fail”… we’re just afraid we might.

(and who decides it’s “failure” because really and truly there’s no such thing : )

Even if you said you’d failed I’d say, “Congratulations – you’re moving… many are stuck so far back in fear, they might never move! You’re already further ahead.”

Today I’m emphasizing the advantages of MOVING INTO ACTION, that even if you make mistakes you’re still further ahead.

I’m also giving you an easy technique, to get you moving.

“Courage is being scared to death – and saddling up anyway.”

~~ John Wayne

The great thing about MOVING is it’s easier to change direction.

Imagine a vehicle.
– How hard is it to change direction while standing still? Very hard.
– How hard is it to change direction while moving? Very easy.

Studies show that people who achieve what they want, do it through trial and error.

Yes, a mistake is an indicator of success

How successful can you be if you’re DOING NOTHING?

Today I have some words of wisdom from Dr Maxwell Maltz author of Psycho-Cybernetics and below you’ll see a great technique I use – that you can start using today.

I was intrigued when I first heard that a rocket arrives at its destination through a series of mistakes (it fails its way there?) and that our subconscious mind is a mechanism operating in a similar way.

“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”

~~ Albert Einstein

According to Dr Maltz, our subconscious is in fact a “machine” we use.

We direct this machine using our conscious mind.

So, how is the mechanism in a rocket similar to your subconscious mind?

Have a look at this interesting list of similarities:

  • They are both goal-striving mechanisms.
  • They are both impersonal (your subconscious mind does not see things as good or bad it just goes ahead and creates your outside world according to your thinking – whether that serves you or not)
  • They must both be moving to get to their goal (sounds obvious yet most people don’t move)
  • They both reach their destination (goal) through trial and error. When they go forward, they make mistakes and correct their course. They are therefore further ahead.
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7 Things Happy People Do – They Approve of Themselves (Part 4 of 7)

Do you want an ideal way to love yourself more? Then…

Approve of yourself!

This is part 4 of a 7-part series: Things Happy People Do.

Key #1 is Happy People Have an Open Mind.
Key #2 is Happy People Love to Learn.
Key #3 is Happy People Put Themselves First.

Key #4:

Happy People Approve of Themselves

What Does it Mean to Approve of Yourself?

When you approve of yourself you approve of everything you think, say and do. And everything you have ever thought, said or done.

Sure, we always learn from what we say and do, but don’t agonize over the past and allow it to spoil your future. Add it to your wisdom and move on with today.

If I’m challenging you today, that’s good, it will help liberate you. Everything you’ve ever thought, said or done is okay.

“The more you like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique.”

Walt Disney

Keep Moving Forward Toward Your Dreams

Additionally, happy people also approve of their abilities and skills, and move forward in their life despite the need to further develop certain areas e.g. confidence, self-esteem, negotiating, interview skills… whatever.

Holding back because of doubt or hiding because of low self-esteem will never take you to more confidence, it just leads to frustration… it leads to unhappiness.

By contrast, it is through engaging in life that your skills develop as does your self-approval.

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.”

~~ E.E. Cummings

My Dream of Working Overseas

In the early stages of my I.T. career, at 22, I moved from South Africa to live and contract in London.

I had a yearning to work in another country, it wasn’t enough for me to travel; I wanted to experience the nitty-gritty of life in another country.

To my delight I discovered my ADABAS/Natural programming skills (… looong time ago!) were in short supply the world over, including England. A friend was heading there to stay in her large family home in Sevenoaks, Kent and invited me to tag along.

The trouble was that although I had experience in Natural programming, it wasn’t recent. But I was going no matter what, so there I was wildly revisiting my programming notes and studying for interviews. A few months later I flew to England, a little nervous.

Choose Your Destiny

This choice of mine completely changed my destiny, not that I knew it then. I now live in Australia instead of South Africa so that’s a clue. My point is that although I recognized the need for more experience, my opportunity to live in England arrived and I took it.

Where There’s a Will There’s a Way!

My first contract wasn’t easy; Continue reading “7 Things Happy People Do – They Approve of Themselves (Part 4 of 7)”

Self-help Book “How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!” Wins 3 Reader Views Literary Awards

Every year Reader Views honors exemplary books from independent self-publishers with the Literary Book Awards.

I’m thrilled to say my book How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That ! is a winner in the Reader Views 2011 Literary Awards:

2nd  in the International Award Self-Help category – overall

1st    in the Regional Award – Australia, New Zealand, Australasia

1st    in a Specialized Award for Self-Improvement

The Specialized Award is sponsored by Jim Bouchard author of the book “Think Like a Black Belt”. The criteria for this award is as follows:

Self-published or published by small independent publisher – awarded to a non-fiction personal development/self-help book that is motivational, inspirational or functional presenting a story or system that encourages the cultivation of any or all of the following: self-confidence, discipline, focus, courage and respect.

The prize involves two $450 mentoring packages (one for the author and one as a giveaway for one of my fabulous readers – keep a look out here for that notification coming soon). Mentoring is an asset because it gives us (you and me) welcome feedback about ourselves and an opportunity for support in our endeavors. My prize also includes a featured review and segment on Jim Bouchard’s Think Like a Black Belt show.

How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That ! teaches people how to reach their full potential, live life on their own terms and to have fun on their journey.

See the “Just Like That!” Book Review by Reader Views

While some of us may need to read the same stuff over and over again, I have to admit that it is incredibly refreshing to get my hands on a book that I truly feel might be the only self help book that anyone could ever possibly need.”   Paige Lovitt – Reader Views

Reader Views book review of “How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!”

See the List of All Winners

List of all Reader Views 2011 Literary Award winners

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The Reader Views Annual Literary Awards honor writers who self-published or had their books published by a subsidy publisher, small press, university press, or independent book publisher geared for the North American reading audience.

Irene Watson, Managing Editor, started Reader Views 6 years ago after recognizing a need for authentic independent book reviews for self-published and first-time authors. In that time Reader Views has reviewed over 8,000 books. Irene Watson has a solid reputation in the publishing industry due to her integrity and genuine passion in helping authors.

James Patterson is one of Irene Watson’s biggest clients, yet Irene also ensures affordable publicity opportunities for first-time authors. Reader Views supports several charities.

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Testimonials – What People are Saying

Janet Poole’s book took me on a journey I wasn’t expecting. It was a journey that enabled me to discover parts of myself I didn’t know existed. Her book gave me the courage to make a decision that has plagued me since 1985. And that is do I or don’t I take the plunge and publish my own children’s writing. Following her guidance in chapter five about challenges and the powerful opportunities they open up for you, I feel confident that I can achieve my goal of publishing my own work.

…Janet Poole’s book is not one that can be read once and put away. It is a reference for life that each additional reading will enhance the understanding of oneself and the world one exists in.”

– Warren Thurston – AussieAuthors

 Just Like That! is lucidly written with a warm matter-of-fact tone which makes it approachable and easy to read.”

– Alicia Thompson – NSW Writers’ Centre

 How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That! is a gem of a book. It will be enjoyed by psychologists and lay people alike. Each page is encouraging and enriching. So grab a cup of latte, and plan to be empowered and transformed like never before.”

 – Irene S. Roth – BlogCritics

We have all probably heard the phrase, “You have to love yourself before anyone else can love you” – and usually I would say in return, “blah, blah, blah”.  Not so with this book. The author does a fantastic job of helping you discover who you really are and what your weaknesses are.”

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 This book is something else entirely.”

TeachableMommy

 The book is easy to read, hard to put down at times, in fact.”

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It is full of insightful information that will make you re-think what you have learned from this genre in the past.  With unique hints that seem to be tailored to your individual style, Just Like That! can help you barrel through the obstacles and reach your true potential.  Janet’s distinct writing and powerful voice make for an educational and inspiring read.”

– Bridget Hopper – Readaholic

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7 Things Happy People Do – They Put Themselves First (Part 3 of 7)

Candle relaxPut yourself first.

I know I know that’s supposed to be taboo.

And therefore a great reason to challenge it : -)

Putting yourself first is logical when you know why.

If you want scientific proof then I have that too.

If the idea sounds tempting then I say, good for you.

It’s 4 years since this blog post was written.
As of 2016, it’s my 4th most popular blog post.
It shows many of us are asking questions about what we’re “allowed” to have.
We have a yearning for truth.

Imagine if we ALL had permission to do what’s right for us, to follow our passions. Everyone would be happier, correct?

This is part 3 of a 7-part series: Things Happy People Do.

Key #1 is Happy People Have an Open Mind.
Key #2 is Happy People Love to Learn.

Let’s get started on #3.

Key #3:

Happy People Put Themselves First

Putting yourself first means you can follow your passion.

It’s the difference between waking up and savouring the idea of the day ahead and bouncing out of bed yelling, “Oh yea!” versus groaning, “Ugh, and now I have to get up…”!

“Nothing is as important as passion. No matter what you want to do with your life, be passionate.”

Jon Bon Jovi

Would You Even Know You’re Putting Others First?

Putting others first is a program so drilled into us as children it becomes part of who we are.

Then someone (that would be me) shocks us with “put yourself first !” and we draw back in horror.

So how does putting others first play out in our life?

It means we rarely do what we want.

We spend our life trying to please our family and friends and be accepted by our peers. We do what is popular, we try to fit in, we never offend (a serious no-no), we try to impress others and appear successful and yes, we even try to appear happy.

Does feeling obligated to please others and having to constantly appear successful make you happy?
No.

Most people consider this selfish… it’s not.

Why?

That Scientific Proof You Wanted

1. Quantum physicists have proved that you can only create your own reality – by what you think and how you choose to live your life.

You don’t create someone else’s reality – you can only create yours.

2. Take that one step further and you’ll see you can’t make someone else happy; why some people are never satisfied no matter how hard you try.

3. And one more step – the flip side: You can’t expect others to make you happy.

It’s all about YOU. You make it happen for YOU.

You’ll Become More Generous and Loving

Just because you put yourself first doesn’t mean you skip your responsibilities and stop loving your children. Nor do you become selfish, nasty or greedy. You’re human: you’ll always care for others. You become even more generous, patient and loving. And you’re empowering yourself and others. Life is brilliant!

Tell me, would you rather be around someone who is vibrantly happy and inspirational or someone who is exhausted and disgruntled after years of self-sacrifice… and of course trying their best to mask it? You decide.

My Time as a Stay-at-Home Mother

Women with children surely face one of the toughest challenges to feel okay about putting themselves first.

When I was a SAHM, I was desperate for me time. So were my friends.

It didn’t help that I had no family in Australia, my daughter had started school and I had a very lively active (adorable!) 3yo son who had moved on from his afternoon naps.

Back then I didn’t know about putting myself first.

Achieving Me Time

So how did I handle the situation back then?

I must have had inkling of how important this was because I chose to put my son in childcare 5 hours on a Wednesday.

This meant I could get a cup of coffee by myself or even chop vegetables for dinner uninterrupted!

I didn’t even want to catch up with friends – I just wanted to be alone.

My son hated childcare.

The first few months were fine and he always had a lot of fun once there, but he started objecting every Wednesday morning. I persevered a little longer because I knew I was a better, more patient mother with me time.

I stopped the childcare because my son was becoming more distraught, however those 6 months gave me what I needed. He started kindergarten soon after and I got a few hours to myself.

How Can Your Attitude Help You?

You don’t have to logically work out how to put yourself first. Merely understand that you’re entitled to do so and Continue reading “7 Things Happy People Do – They Put Themselves First (Part 3 of 7)”

7 Things Happy People Do – They Have An Open Mind (Part 1 of 7)

We’re talking about YOU today, as we always do : ) – because your happiness doesn’t come from others, it comes from YOU.

What do happy people do?

They’re getting what they want, so exactly what do they do?

And how can you do it too?

In order to do each key justice this was becoming an epic post, so it’s now in 7 parts. This is part 1 of the 7-part series:
Things Happy People Do. Each part focuses on one key thing happy people do, one key thing you can also easily do.

Let’s get started!

Key #1:

Happy People Have an Open Mind

Why is an open mind important? Is your mind open or closed?

A Closed Mind

A closed mind is stuck, rigid and narrow. It wants life to stay the same; it thinks it already knows enough on a subject or about life.

However, fortunately there is always more to learn. Even a small nuance can clarify your understanding and give you a breakthrough to yet another discovery. A closed mind cannot learn nor can it change. It stagnates.

An Open Mind

By contrast an open mind means you give yourself permission to go with the flow of life and to engage in new adventures.

You welcome new information.

Unique solutions suddenly become obvious.

You’re willing to try radical or controversial concepts which open you to a new world, such as putting yourself first (key #3). New ways of thinking are what makes life interesting and exciting.

Life is always evolving, as is nature.

“What seems nasty, painful, evil, can become a source of beauty, joy, and strength, if faced with an open mind. Every moment is a golden one for him who has the vision to recognize it as such.”

Henry Miller (American Writer and Painter 1891 – 1980)

How an Open Mind Has Helped Me

Take my interest in nutrition and natural therapy.

At around age 20 I discovered that one of the biggest killers of Australians is bowel cancer.

I intuitively knew this was ridiculous, that the body is capable of radiant health.

I figured there was something wrong with our eating.

Health was important to me so I spent years investigating and moved from Fit for Life, to the Zone diet, to Eat Right for Your (Blood) Type. Each one educated me about eating and the body’s biology. Very often they challenged or totally overhauled my beliefs.

It would have been silly to lock onto conclusions about anything; there was more to learn – there always is.

My wisdom continues to develop and it increases exponentially.

Nowadays I’ve moved onto far greater thinking; those of you who have read my book would know this.

Being open empowers me, it gives me confidence; instead of being scared of new  information it moves me into a happier, more carefree place. I

expect and embrace new ways of thinking; they’ve become a natural part of my life.

Soytainly Not

Case in point, I used to think soy milk was a great alternative to cow’s milk.

Now I never touch the stuff.

It’s less about being wrong but rather our willingness to build a greater viewpoint, a knowledge base.

If you’re wondering why the change of heart, I suggest you research and form your own conclusions. There is already plenty of information about soy out there.

My role is not to tell you how to eat but to help you open your mind to all potentials.

The Power is in YOU – in All Parts of Your Life Continue reading “7 Things Happy People Do – They Have An Open Mind (Part 1 of 7)”