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How Long Have You Been Getting Ready?

Published on May 7, 2015February 14, 2016 by Janet

Is there something you want to BE, DO, HAVE or CREATE?

Is there something you’d like to BUY or SELL?

Are you still getting ready?

Did you know that no matter how much you prepare, you can only fine-tune the details once you START!

Most people get STUCK in the preparation phase and although preparing is part of the fun,
there comes a time when we know we’re ready but we continue to “get ready”.

“You don’t have to be great to start,
but you have to start to be great.”
~~Zig Ziglar

Most of us would love to get everything “right” the first time but that’s not how life works.

If you want to get everything exactly “right”, you’ll be preparing forever.
And who decides that something is “right”?
It’s an adventure, an experience… that’s all.

Someone once said to me, “It all comes down to one moment”.

At some stage we have to make the leap of faith because for most of us (me included) it’s always going to feel uncomfortable.

Movement, or action, is crucial so I’d love you to have the courage to take that leap.

Until you take that leap, important tasks remain hidden; you’ll never move forward because you’ll never reveal those hidden tasks!

It’s an awesome feeling to be in the flow and address things as they make themselves known.

Yes we’re scared we’re going to feel out of control or exposed and vulnerable, but in fact that doesn’t happen.

Instead you feel your soul singing because you’re moving forward and participating in life the way it was intended.

Even in the midst of discomfort, there’s something that feels very right when you’re doing it.

I urge you to dive into being, doing and having what you want.

Just do it…
… that first step will start your path to having everything you want!

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How to Get Anything You Want By Being Authentically YOU

Published on April 18, 2015February 14, 2016 by Janet

Authentic Wouldn’t it be a relief if you could WIN BIG just by being YOURSELF?

Wouldn’t it be a relief to never again COMPETE for anything you want?

The beautiful truth is that’s the world you’re living in right now, if you so choose.

I’ve always believed there’s an easy, HEARTFELT way of creating a wildly successful life and business.

Most people are fed up with the manipulation in our world; they’re looking for authenticity.

What does authenticity mean?

It means you’re transparent, genuinely you, no hidden agendas.
You’re not trying to be someone you’re not.
You’re proudly YOU.

Why does authenticity matter?

When you’re being authentic you’re naturally communicating that to others through a part of their brain that makes decisions… the FEELING part of their brain.

People very quickly sense authenticity.
Most of us applaud, love, appreciate authenticity in others but aren’t yet comfortable being our own authentic self.

It’s a worthy mission because when you can be yourself and authentically live what you believe, you’ll be highly sought after on a personal and professional basis.

1. Think about most marketing and advertising today.

It’s hoping to appeal to customers through price, quality, service, features and benefits.
It’s usually manipulative.

2. Think about a person going for a job interview.

They’re hoping to impress by talking about their qualifications, skills and experience.

3. Think about someone going on a first date.

They’re hoping they say the right things to prove their value.

The common problem with those?

They’re strategic, they’re not genuine… not AUTHENTIC.

How do you become NATURALLY authentic?

People sense your authenticity when you connect from WHY you do what you do, what you stand for and what you BELIEVE in.

When the person believes what you believe, it will FEEL RIGHT for them, they’ll feel comfortable with you, they’ll sense a bond and they’ll feel safe.

But how do you KNOW WHY you do what you do?

Don’t worry, most people have no idea WHY they do what they do or what they believe in, so fortunately there’s a new revolutionary and easy way to find out.

When you KNOW YOUR WHY you will be clear on:

a. WHY you do what you do
b. What you believe
c. What you stand for

Here’s what happens when you KNOW YOUR WHY and EXPRESS what you BELIEVE:

1. Your business:

When you START WITH WHY in your marketing messages, customers who believe what you believe will find you, feel a connection with you and become raving loyal fans.

2. Your job interview:

When you start with what you believe, you’ll immediately differentiate yourself from others. You’re being you, you’re unique and that’s inspiring for those in the interview.

3. Your first date:

When you start with what you believe and WHY you do what you do, you have more chance of getting that second date. Again, you’re merely being you.

How refreshing.

get-your-why-on You are the way you are for a reason.
You’re unique, you’re different, there’s no-one else like you.
Let’s celebrate that.

This means when you allow the full expression of your true self, you’ll attract people who value what you value and believe what you believe.

When you KNOW YOUR WHY your world begins to make more sense, you gain instant clarity, it’s like being reintroduced to yourself.

It’s a relief.

There are 9 WHYs.

Ask me for more information on how to discover which WHY is yours.

Learn how to express your WHY in your business and attract raving, loyal customers.

Don’t be a copy of someone else.

Be authentically you!

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Your Troubled Relationships – Could This Be The Hidden Cause? (Part 1)

Published on April 11, 2015February 14, 2016 by Janet

We only see WHAT WE WANT TO SEE.

It’s rare for us to see things as they truly are.

If we were WILLING to see things the way they are, many of our issues would be gone in a flash.

Most of us have no idea that we’re STUBBORN.

We don’t know we’re stubborn because it’s hidden and we don’t want to hear the idea of being stubborn because we’d rather blame something or someone… but that’s not the path to FREEDOM.

“Humility and freedom go hand in hand.
Only a humble person can be free.”
~~ Jeff Wilson

The more challenging the relationship and the closer the relationship, the more stubborn we get!

I hope you know by now – intellectually at least – that you can only change yourself.

It’s strange.

We know this and expect it of others, but when it comes to our own interactions with others we stubbornly insist THEY change.

Quantum physics proves that’s not how it works, but would you truly like to depend on others for your happiness?

You see, we can’t see the situation as it really is.

“We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters,
your brothers, the school, the teachers – but never blame
yourself. It’s never your fault.
But it’s always your fault, because if you wanted to
change you’re the one who has got to change.”

~~ Katharine Hepburn

Now… if you’re being stubborn, what does that mean for you?

A lot.

It means you’ve put your life on hold; you’re waiting for someone else to change.

The problem with waiting?

What if they never change?

It means you’re stuck and choosing to hold yourself back from a beautiful life.

It’s you… you’re doing this. No-one else.

Day after day you’re giving your attention to something that drags you down.
Day after day you’re blaming the other person and giving your power to them.

That person controls your life.

The weeks go by, the tension mounts and you get more irritated, frustrated and angry.
You’ll probably whine and complain with whoever will listen.

If you’re okay with that there’s nothing more to be said (but I urge you to check out part 2 of this article)

Alternatively, you could see this as a golden opportunity to grow personally, liberate yourself and move into fun rewards.

What can you do?

Take the initiative and ask yourself what you can do to create your own happiness and NEVER AGAIN depend on anyone else.

This is a path only for the humble and courageous because blame feels so delicious but…

What if you saw this as good news?
What if you could see you’ve been imprisoning yourself?
What if you could see you’re holding the key to your own freedom?

I’m unwilling for my happiness to depend on other people’s behaviour.

I LOVE the rewards I get by choosing my happiness; it feels good.

How about you?
I hope you go for taking responsibility because your happiness depends on it!

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How to Get Massive Business Growth the Heart-Felt Way

Published on February 26, 2015February 14, 2016 by Janet

Do you ever feel you have to be what you’re NOT, in order to succeed?

I’ve felt the pressure to do that, most of us have.

More so since publishing my book, mainly because I entered the world of marketing.

You may have noticed marketing is generally manipulative e.g. they use fear, peer pressure etc which doesn’t sit right with me.

The strategies create stress for everyone involved and are short-term solutions.

While I believe most businesses start out with intentions beyond self-gain, they often slip into becoming more about profit and beating the competition than genuine service.

I’ve believed for the longest time it’s possible for us all to create a wildly successful business and life in an authentic, heart-centred “true to ourselves” kind of way.

– I believe we never have to steamroll anyone
– I believe there’s no need to be competitive
– I believe there’s no need for manipulation
– I believe we can succeed by being authentically ourselves.

Consider this…

Simon Sinek wrote a book called Start with WHY.

Watch Simon Sinek’s inspiring TED Talk below (20 minutes)

See how Simon Sinek cracked the code to the ASTOUNDING success of companies like APPLE and HARLEY DAVIDSON.

Start with WHY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sioZd3AxmnE

It all starts with your WHY.

Your WHY is your gift, it’s what makes you unique and special.
Your WHY is what you believe.

Have you ever asked,
“WHY AM I HERE?”
“WHY DO I MATTER?”

When you know your WHY, your life makes sense.

Great… but what if you DON’T KNOW YOUR WHY?

And this WHY is NOT the reason you want to lose weight or start a project, it’s much, MUCH deeper than that.

Once you KNOW YOUR WHY…

– you get CLARITY and DIRECTION
– you live with PASSION
– you attract GREAT CUSTOMERS who become RAVING FANS
– you transform your BUSINESS CULTURE
– you hire the RIGHT PEOPLE
– your employees become ENGAGED and INSPIRED
– your relationships get CLOSER and BETTER

BUT… all of this can only happen when you KNOW YOUR WHY.

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

It all starts when you KNOW YOUR WHY!

Drop Diplomacy and Choose Freedom (Part 2)

Published on January 8, 2015July 10, 2016 by Janet

flowers-painting-1391872491b4f We use diplomacy as a SURVIVAL technique.
If we’re in survival mode we’re not free.

This is about being able to live in truth, YOUR truth!

(Click here for Part 1)

“Your experience is unique, as is your truth. Everyone’s version of the truth is different, because everyone’s knowledge and experience is different.”
~~ How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That! (P. 29)
(click here to get the first 3 chapters free)

Today we’re talking about all those excuses and explanations we use when the truth feels too uncomfortable.

Let’s imagine a simple scenario –
you’re late for an appointment or need to change one.

Would your first impulse be to put forward an excuse or explanation?

There’s a subtlety here that sneaks by unnoticed and it’s to do with your real belief about your power.

If you’re offering excuses and explanations it means you’re being pushed around by people or circumstances; you’re not free.

It means something out of your control happened TO YOU and you couldn’t help it.

Let’s always remember YOU ARE POWERFUL…
YOU ARE CREATING EVERYTHING in every moment by
what you THINK.

This applies to everyone.

You and the other person involved are BOTH creating… not just “now and then”… in ALL circumstances.

Most of us are intending to do the right thing, so none of this is malicious, but let’s all take responsibility for what happens —
You created being late.
They created you being late.

Let’s acknowledge that.
Let’s embrace that.
Let’s stop giving your power away.

As mentioned in part 1, this is not about being insensitive, arrogant, hurting anyone’s feelings or assigning blame; we can be gentle while speaking our truth.

This is about LOVE and about recognizing we cannot make other people happy.

The best thing you can do for another person is love yourself and live your own truth.

That way you lead the way for others to do the same.
If you don’t, everyone continues around in circles unsuccessfully trying to make others happy.

Scratch the surface of an excuse and you’ll find… fear.

Are you concerned the truth will make you look unreliable, disorganized, irresponsible or uncaring?

Consider this…

A genuinely confident, self-sufficient person who loves themselves has none of the above concerns and has no need to explain themselves.

Let’s dive deeper.

What about the issue of hurting someone’s feelings.
If that’s your concern you haven’t yet fully grasped your power and that of others.

“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”
~~ Mahatma Ghandi

By feeling the need to manage another person’s feelings you believe they rely on you to feel good. Wouldn’t that mean you’re also depending on others making you feel good?

Do you see how this works?

Would you be okay with knowing others had to handle you with diplomacy to keep you happy — and in the process couldn’t tell you the truth ?

What if you could love yourself so much you can hear and handle the truth, no matter what?

I’m not saying that’s easy but what a powerful way to live!
That’s FREEDOM and if you want it you can have it.

Be the example and others will follow.

It’s a powerful moment when you really “get” that:

you do not have to play the game of keeping others happy
you do not depend on others for your happiness
others do not depend on you

you’re big and bold… YOU’RE FREE!

If you want to be FREE, what can you do?

1. Start by observing people making excuses or explaining themselves.
Not to judge, merely to learn.

2. Play with speaking your truth or saying what you want without excuses and explanations. It will seem strange at first.

I know personally how confronting it can be to speak and live your truth…
… but what happens if you don’t?

You’ll see, if the people in your life don’t value the truth like you do, you’ll start shifting into new circumstances and people who do!

You’ll start enjoying love and FREEDOM beyond your wildest imagination.

This has been my experience.

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How Long Have You Been Getting Ready?

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